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Jarow
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Jarow wrote:
GUYS is this normal my boyfriend told me he had a dream about another woman we both know. The other woman is MARRIED and has a husband. They never met in real life. They only know each other online. He always watches her streams tho. She's a vtuber.

He told me he had a dream about her having onlyfans, and making asmr content there. He even told her he had this dream about her. He didn't told me. I asked him what she meant on stream with "yeah your dream about me" and he told me about this dream. I was disgusted and weirded out because why tf is he dreaming about her? She also behaves weird online, like her husband doesn't exist. She flirts with her simps in the chat, I don't like this. She also behaved weird to me in dm's and sent me a mug with her vtuber tiddies on it asking "would your bf buy this?"
Wtf is wrong with her.

So yeah, should I be worried about him dreaming about her? I'm disgusted rn really. But he told me not to worry about it and he loves me. Idk

Jarow
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Jarow wrote:

Cherry wrote:
People don't really control their dreams, you know

Yeah I know :// but still got me weirded out

Spookyjimchristmas
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spookyjimchristmas wrote:
oh id be soooo mad. especially because 1. why is he talking to other women ESP online??? if they are friends irl then i guess its okay if hes known her for a while but online i doubt a guy is following a woman for any reason other than shes attractive or he is interested.

2. while u cant control ur dreams there is still a level of reality to them like i had a dream about a guy i never talked to once and then developed a crush on him. plus the fact he told her??? are they that fking close that he tells this bitch his dreams?

3. shes sending u mugs with her tits and asking about if ur bf would buy it... i would get her account taken down right away and send a SWAT team to her house wtf

overall i would be extremely mad and start a fight and idk how ur relationship is outside of this situation but like i said the fact he follows women online is a red flag for me

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Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:
you can't control how you feel about a situation but he can't control what he dreams about

so long as he doesn't act upon it it should not be a concern, the fact he told her is kinda... weird but idk

just have an open talk about it with him and express your concern and the fact it was not okay in your book that he told her and what that woman did

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lain wrote:

Cherry wrote:
People don't really control their dreams, you know

I agree, but telling the woman about the dream is something he can control
and that’s just… weird

Klavier
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Klavier wrote:

spookyjimchristmas wrote:
oh id be soooo mad. especially because 1. why is he talking to other women ESP online??? if they are friends irl then i guess its okay if hes known her for a while but online i doubt a guy is following a woman for any reason other than shes attractive or he is interested.

2. while u cant control ur dreams there is still a level of reality to them like i had a dream about a guy i never talked to once and then developed a crush on him. plus the fact he told her??? are they that fking close that he tells this bitch his dreams?

3. shes sending u mugs with her tits and asking about if ur bf would buy it... i would get her account taken down right away and send a SWAT team to her house wtf

overall i would be extremely mad and start a fight and idk how ur relationship is outside of this situation but like i said the fact he follows women online is a red flag for me

this first line is so weird like... are u saying a man can't enjoy content made by a woman without wanting to bang her or.... if its specifically simp bait content sure but thats such a weird generalizing statement to make imo

and even if reality obviously has an affect on what takes place in your dreams that doesn't mean it's your subconscious telling you that you wanna bang someone..? i dream about people i never talk to constantly. of course it's likely to dream about people if you interact with them a lot, it doesn't have to mean anything. you can't judge this kinda stuff based on a dream

Klavier
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Klavier wrote:
if anything i would be more concerned about how he seems to be nonchalant about it, joking around with the streamer about the dream and not telling you about it. thats weirder. talk to him honestly about how its making you feel uncomfortable instead of speculating based on stupid dreams
also tell him that she's disrespecting you in dms lol, he shouldn't be ok with that

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lain wrote:

Klavier wrote:
if anything i would be more concerned about how he seems to be nonchalant about it, joking around with the streamer about the dream and not telling you about it. thats weirder. talk to him honestly about how its making you feel uncomfortable instead of speculating based on stupid dreams
also tell him that she's disrespecting you in dms lol, he shouldn't be ok with that

this 100%
the issue isn’t the dream itself, it’s all the surrounding things

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Arthema wrote:

Klavier wrote:
if anything i would be more concerned about how he seems to be nonchalant about it, joking around with the streamer about the dream and not telling you about it. thats weirder. talk to him honestly about how its making you feel uncomfortable instead of speculating based on stupid dreams
also tell him that she's disrespecting you in dms lol, he shouldn't be ok with that

^^^

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Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:
didn't you say before that he did something else? and made another post about him here?

Jarow
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Jarow wrote:

Arthema wrote:
didn't you say before that he did something else? and made another post about him here?

yeaah but it has gotten better since then! He improved a lot and apologized and actually changed. This is the only thing that has happened since then. I just dont like this streamer girl at all. I always had a weird vibe about her.

Jarow
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Jarow wrote:

Mymble wrote:

Klavier wrote:
if anything i would be more concerned about how he seems to be nonchalant about it, joking around with the streamer about the dream and not telling you about it. thats weirder. talk to him honestly about how its making you feel uncomfortable instead of speculating based on stupid dreams
also tell him that she's disrespecting you in dms lol, he shouldn't be ok with that

this 100%
the issue isn’t the dream itself, it’s all the surrounding things

Yeah thinking about this, it is just a dream. But telling her was indeed weird. He also sent me a screenshot of their convo. They just made fun about it. So ig nothing serious but still ughhh

Jarow
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Jarow wrote:

spookyjimchristmas wrote:
oh id be soooo mad. especially because 1. why is he talking to other women ESP online??? if they are friends irl then i guess its okay if hes known her for a while but online i doubt a guy is following a woman for any reason other than shes attractive or he is interested.

2. while u cant control ur dreams there is still a level of reality to them like i had a dream about a guy i never talked to once and then developed a crush on him. plus the fact he told her??? are they that fking close that he tells this bitch his dreams?

3. shes sending u mugs with her tits and asking about if ur bf would buy it... i would get her account taken down right away and send a SWAT team to her house wtf

overall i would be extremely mad and start a fight and idk how ur relationship is outside of this situation but like i said the fact he follows women online is a red flag for me

The third one is what bothers me the most. She always thinks my bf is a simp like her followers or would buy this when he indeed would not. Idk why she doesn't get it? And thinks about him like this. Also I think she disrespects her HUSBAND. Because it seems like he doesn't know whats going on AT ALL

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Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

Jarow wrote:

Arthema wrote:
didn't you say before that he did something else? and made another post about him here?

yeaah but it has gotten better since then! He improved a lot and apologized and actually changed. This is the only thing that has happened since then. I just dont like this streamer girl at all. I always had a weird vibe about her.

she's either bad news or it's insecurity
regardless, I'd join what other people say, communication is REALLY important and your boyfriend should know you feel this way and well that she did what she did

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Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

Jarow wrote:

spookyjimchristmas wrote:
oh id be soooo mad. especially because 1. why is he talking to other women ESP online??? if they are friends irl then i guess its okay if hes known her for a while but online i doubt a guy is following a woman for any reason other than shes attractive or he is interested.

2. while u cant control ur dreams there is still a level of reality to them like i had a dream about a guy i never talked to once and then developed a crush on him. plus the fact he told her??? are they that fking close that he tells this bitch his dreams?

3. shes sending u mugs with her tits and asking about if ur bf would buy it... i would get her account taken down right away and send a SWAT team to her house wtf

overall i would be extremely mad and start a fight and idk how ur relationship is outside of this situation but like i said the fact he follows women online is a red flag for me

The third one is what bothers me the most. She always thinks my bf is a simp like her followers or would buy this when he indeed would not. Idk why she doesn't get it? And thinks about him like this. Also I think she disrespects her HUSBAND. Because it seems like he doesn't know whats going on AT ALL

I mean then the problem is her ig
then again if she does bait content and your bf watches it she'd not be entirely wrong to think so about him as well

Jarow
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Jarow wrote:

Arthema wrote:

Jarow wrote:

Arthema wrote:
didn't you say before that he did something else? and made another post about him here?

yeaah but it has gotten better since then! He improved a lot and apologized and actually changed. This is the only thing that has happened since then. I just dont like this streamer girl at all. I always had a weird vibe about her.

she's either bad news or it's insecurity
regardless, I'd join what other people say, communication is REALLY important and your boyfriend should know you feel this way and well that she did what she did

He thankfully didn't act on it. Also he doesn't have a OF account or something like that. He also doens't have lewd things from her or does flirt with her or anything inappropriate. I can always read/look at his phone when im with him or he has it in his hands like he doesn't turn away. I talked with him and he told me everything, he also was sorry that this made me upset (I cried because this triggered something in me) and he reassured me he loves me a lot, and he didn't wanted to make me cry. He also said we got this together and he's there for me and I shouldnt' worry.