Sera wrote:Stupot wrote:
my sister became a mom 3 years ago and she's still very much herself tbh..Ā
maybe she's just excited to talk about her kid, after all it's become a very big part of her life and since it probably takes up a lot of her time that might be the only thing she can have a conversation about
yeah. it's not that different from people who make their job, hobbies etc their "whole personality". those people likely have more to offer than just, ex. the baby, it's just a very important and time-consuming aspect of their life at the moment. i don't think you "lose yourself" once you have kids; your priorities etc just change as you evolve as a person (and, just to be clear, people without kids also evolve in such manner). i don't think once you become a parent you turn into this one-dimensional caricature of yourself
you explained this much better than i did, yes this is what i meantĀ