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A question for lurkers
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Elisia wrote:
Based on the survey I've taken SO FAR almost a quarter have answered that they primarily lurk

And I'm curious what keeps you coming back to lurk?

Do you just like reading the convos between users?
Do you just want to quietly collect by yourself?
Don't have enough cr/items to buy/sell?

Please help me to understand
This is a judgement free thread

Anyone caught judging will be booted off the island
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Date: 13-02-2025 16:23
Novocaine
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novocaine wrote:
i love reading everyones comments and/or convos on here but i am too afraid to join in if i have something to say or to add to the convo. not bc they are intimidating but bc i think too much into everything and i always think i am annoying everyone lol

i usually don't create topics other than to buy/sell bc i always think they are going to flop so i just keep to myself 99% of the time

it is really hard to gain cr without selling but i just can't part with most of my items so i do struggle on here sometimes. cr wise. 
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Date: 13-02-2025 16:29
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Brutus wrote:
im a proffessional lurker and 9/10 times i just find it hard to join in on a convo based on what topics are being discussed and what vibes they give if that makes sense

im not a shy person BUT i am a nervous one and just want to fit in, so instead of putting myself in a awkward situation i’ll just not write anything and only lurk because the ”fear” of no one responding to what im writing

when it comes to buying and selling threads im not nervous at all cause there’s barely a convo going
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Date: 13-02-2025 16:31
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Elisia wrote:
novocaine wrote:
i love reading everyones comments and/or convos on here but i am too afraid to join in if i have something to say or to add to the convo. not bc they are intimidating but bc i think too much into everything and i always think i am annoying everyone lol

i usually don't create topics other than to buy/sell bc i always think they are going to flop so i just keep to myself 99% of the time

it is really hard to gain cr without selling but i just can't part with most of my items so i do struggle on here sometimes. cr wise. 
That makes sense, and you should join in to conversations and general chats and events! Its definitely hard to just chat in buying/selling threads ^^

And you'll never know if the conversation will flop until you make it
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Date: 13-02-2025 16:32
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Elisia wrote:
Brutus wrote:
im a proffessional lurker and 9/10 times i just find it hard to join in on a convo based on what topics are being discussed and what vibes they give if that makes sense

im not a shy person BUT i am a nervous one and just want to fit in, so instead of putting myself in a awkward situation i’ll just not write anything and only lurk because the ”fear” of no one responding to what im writing

when it comes to buying and selling threads im not nervous at all cause there’s barely a convo going
TOTALLY get that first part, sometimes people feel like they're having a whole separate conversation than what they're actively talking about.
Sometimes replies also get lost in the jumble of friends especially if you end up at the end of the page

I was really excited to see you join werewolf, it was a lot of fun!
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Date: 13-02-2025 16:36
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Cherry wrote:
I guess I'm not really lurking in the shadows anymore because I'm a mod, but I do love lurking a bit and reading random conversations. I've gotten more used to adding random comments on stuff, though, which is fun. It used to be more intimidating
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Date: 13-02-2025 16:54
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Sera wrote:
i wasn't quite sure which option to pick there, but most of the time i just genuinely have no idea what to add to the conversations. sometimes i also avoid creating topics myself out of the fear that i might be perceived as annoying or too negative. sometimes there's drama that i find entertaining to observe but have no desire to be a part of
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Date: 13-02-2025 17:00
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Cherry wrote:
Sera wrote:
i wasn't quite sure which option to pick there, but most of the time i just genuinely have no idea what to add to the conversations. sometimes i also avoid creating topics myself out of the fear that i might be perceived as annoying or too negative. sometimes there's drama that i find entertaining to observe but have no desire to be a part of

This is accurate, I feel this too. unless they break the rules and I have to step in, of course
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Date: 13-02-2025 17:10
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Elisia wrote:
Sera wrote:
i wasn't quite sure which option to pick there, but most of the time i just genuinely have no idea what to add to the conversations. sometimes i also avoid creating topics myself out of the fear that i might be perceived as annoying or too negative. sometimes there's drama that i find entertaining to observe but have no desire to be a part of
I can guarantee everybody on here is a little annoying or negative at least sometimes. Thats not necessarily a bad thing it's just when its all the time that it becomes a little more irritating but it usually takes a lot to get to that point

And yes- vp drama is so fun to read because it's usually over the silliest of stuff, but people get so genuinely upset sometimes! It's insane
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Date: 13-02-2025 17:52
Aske
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Aske wrote:
i talk sometimes but most of the time i quietly collect, dress up or have vp in the background while doing other stuff like watch a series or design
i read threads sometimes but often the only active one is hi and id feel awkward abt lurking there cuz the  conversations feel more private idk, i know im not gonna join in anyway cuz chatting is not my thing ive always kinda struggled w convos where multiple people are involved
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Date: 13-02-2025 18:33
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Brutus wrote:
Elisia wrote:
Brutus wrote:
im a proffessional lurker and 9/10 times i just find it hard to join in on a convo based on what topics are being discussed and what vibes they give if that makes sense

im not a shy person BUT i am a nervous one and just want to fit in, so instead of putting myself in a awkward situation i’ll just not write anything and only lurk because the ”fear” of no one responding to what im writing

when it comes to buying and selling threads im not nervous at all cause there’s barely a convo going
TOTALLY get that first part, sometimes people feel like they're having a whole separate conversation than what they're actively talking about.
Sometimes replies also get lost in the jumble of friends especially if you end up at the end of the page

I was really excited to see you join werewolf, it was a lot of fun!
lol this part is so accurate too!!

i really understand that a lot of users here have become very good friends so i guess its more the feeling of a being a third wheeler, which is fine!! this community is so friendly and inviting so i think its more a mental obstacle for me
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Posts: 3253
Date: 13-02-2025 18:45
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mymble wrote:
as a certified yapper this is interesting to read! is there anything we can do to make you guys feel more comfortable joining in? 
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Date: 13-02-2025 18:55
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Elisia wrote:
mymble wrote:
as a certified yapper this is interesting to read! is there anything we can do to make you guys feel more comfortable joining in? 
This!!!
From what I'm finding and reading, a lot of it isn't that they aren't comfortable, but more so that there's never a "good time" to chime in? Or that some people's message gets overlooked on accident?
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Posts: 6588
Date: 13-02-2025 23:18
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Kofod wrote:
Tbf I chose lurking because nothing else fit...
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Date: 14-02-2025 00:35
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Elisia wrote:
Kofod wrote:
Tbf I chose lurking because nothing else fit...
Valid! What do you feel like would have fit best for you then?
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Posts: 6588
Date: 14-02-2025 00:36
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DAD wrote:
i mostly lurk but it's because i'm scared to add anything to conversations and also i've been busy with work : p

i mostly come on to change my outfit then log off lol
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Date: 14-02-2025 00:45
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