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Octocat
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octocat wrote:
I got invited to my sister in law's (?) bachelorette party in june, i'm overall close with my bf's family but i'm not that personally close to his sister so I really didn't expect to be invited.

So firstly, my immediate thought was "why should i be there?". sure it might be fun to get to know more ppl but I feel like I'd take up space in a place I'm not supposed to be.

Secondly, it's a whole day event kinda thing. It's a 2-ish hour travel for me to get there, and potentially get home if I'm not sleeping over somewhere. And I've kinda planned to run a race the day after with a friend... Granted, we haven't actually booked the race yet so I could just not do it, but I've had the race on my mind since the beginning of the year so I'd be kinda sad to miss it.

So like, do I just bite the bullet and get home in the middle of the night and yolo my way through the race the next day, or do I cancel the race and enjoy the fact that I've been invited somewhere?

Thirdly, I have potential plans with family to go down to Gothenburg (4-ish hour trip) in the afternoon the same day as the race, bc it's pretty much the only date that suited everyone.

So, I have potentially fully packed weekend that I feel I won't be able to enjoy, but I don't know which event to prioritize and which one to cancel and it's all very stressful and overwhelming for my lil brain...

Tried to ask bf about it bc he's going to the same bachelor party, but he's not running the race, nor coming to Gothenburg so he was just like "idk, i think u cud have fun there" with nothing else to add which was wildly unhelpful

I really don't like to change up my plans, so I kinda just want to say no to the party bc it was the last thing to be added to my plans. It would also save me 1000kr bc that was apparently the budget for those attending..

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devilcake wrote:
If she invited you I doubt you’re taking up unwanted space! However it sounds like you don’t rly wanna go and that you have plenty of legitimate reasons not to go, n if you don’t want to go you shouldn’t, im sure ur sim will understand that you have a lot of things going on if she’s a reasonable person

Octocat
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octocat wrote:

devilcake wrote:
If she invited you I doubt you’re taking up unwanted space! However it sounds like you don’t rly wanna go and that you have plenty of legitimate reasons not to go, n if you don’t want to go you shouldn’t, im sure ur sim will understand that you have a lot of things going on if she’s a reasonable person

yeah no ur right, idk if i wanna go. but it always like that before i actually go places. and i have no social life so this would be a good opportunity to be social for once u kno? ;-;

but they are def reasonable ppl and they'd understand if i said no

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emogirrrl123 wrote:
i'd rather skip the party. it's quite a lot of money and time and you're not that close with the sister anyway

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devilcake wrote:

octocat wrote:

devilcake wrote:
If she invited you I doubt you’re taking up unwanted space! However it sounds like you don’t rly wanna go and that you have plenty of legitimate reasons not to go, n if you don’t want to go you shouldn’t, im sure ur sim will understand that you have a lot of things going on if she’s a reasonable person

yeah no ur right, idk if i wanna go. but it always like that before i actually go places. and i have no social life so this would be a good opportunity to be social for once u kno? ;-;

but they are def reasonable ppl and they'd understand if i said no

Hm fair I understand that feeling, mayb if you didn’t have such a full schedule I’d say okay then maybe go for it, but it also sucks to have a bunch of things to do then deal with the don’t wanna go feel on top so