Private
Private
Private
Private
Private
0
0
0
0
To join the forums you need to be logged in.
Bloomlng wrote:
Alright so recently, a lot of talk about looks and appearance has been going on in my friend circle and so I thought of bringing you guys in on what I think.
First off I would like to say that I like the majority of the people on this planet have suffered from a low self esteem and an ED. It was a rough time but now I can't even remember what it feels like to worry about a temporary thing like my ever changing appearance.
I used to absolutely hate getting my pictures taken and would low-key have a mental breakdown over it. But then one day, after a lecture me and my friends were chatting with one of the professors and somehow, someway we ended up talking about relationships and looks and so on when I just went "what's wrong with being ugly?". And I mean that in an objective way (I've never really thought of someone as ugly, only that their vibes are fucked) like, do 'ugly' people not deserve love and respect? do they not live like the rest of the people? Eating food and enjoying hobbies? Like what is so special about the way someone looks and why do people put so much emphasis on the word ugly?
Ugly is just a word. So why are we so obsessed with beauty, even in a time where body positivity and self love are heavily focused on and encouraged. And then I realised, because regardless of what you look like, beauty was always the end goal.
For example, look at ads from the early 2000s vs now. Before it was "You're so ugly, you should use this" and now it's "you're so beautiful, you deserve this", and essentially it's the same thing, they are both trying to sell you a product, and that is why you will never truly feel "beautiful". Because without all the things they tell you you need to be attractive, you WILL never feel attractive.
Now imagine if the said something like "so what if you're not conventionally attractive, we're all going to die and none of this would matter. Enjoy the limited time you have with your loved ones doing the things you love and enjoy"... Now that sounds like a good idea but obviously all these big companies would lose all their profit and that is a big no no.
We should stop striving for unachievable standards that are unattainable for the ones who set them.
So yeah, now that I realised that beauty is subjective and that there is nothing wrong with being unattractive, I stopped covering my face and hating having my photos taken, because in a couple of decades, all of this will be memories.
Alright so recently, a lot of talk about looks and appearance has been going on in my friend circle and so I thought of bringing you guys in on what I think.
First off I would like to say that I like the majority of the people on this planet have suffered from a low self esteem and an ED. It was a rough time but now I can't even remember what it feels like to worry about a temporary thing like my ever changing appearance.
I used to absolutely hate getting my pictures taken and would low-key have a mental breakdown over it. But then one day, after a lecture me and my friends were chatting with one of the professors and somehow, someway we ended up talking about relationships and looks and so on when I just went "what's wrong with being ugly?". And I mean that in an objective way (I've never really thought of someone as ugly, only that their vibes are fucked) like, do 'ugly' people not deserve love and respect? do they not live like the rest of the people? Eating food and enjoying hobbies? Like what is so special about the way someone looks and why do people put so much emphasis on the word ugly?
Ugly is just a word. So why are we so obsessed with beauty, even in a time where body positivity and self love are heavily focused on and encouraged. And then I realised, because regardless of what you look like, beauty was always the end goal.
For example, look at ads from the early 2000s vs now. Before it was "You're so ugly, you should use this" and now it's "you're so beautiful, you deserve this", and essentially it's the same thing, they are both trying to sell you a product, and that is why you will never truly feel "beautiful". Because without all the things they tell you you need to be attractive, you WILL never feel attractive.
Now imagine if the said something like "so what if you're not conventionally attractive, we're all going to die and none of this would matter. Enjoy the limited time you have with your loved ones doing the things you love and enjoy"... Now that sounds like a good idea but obviously all these big companies would lose all their profit and that is a big no no.
We should stop striving for unachievable standards that are unattainable for the ones who set them.
So yeah, now that I realised that beauty is subjective and that there is nothing wrong with being unattractive, I stopped covering my face and hating having my photos taken, because in a couple of decades, all of this will be memories.
19
