is it ok to forgive yourself - Forum

LexiLuvsKirby
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LexiLuvsKirby wrote:
if the other person has not forgiven you?
what do you guys think

Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
Well yes, at some point!...you have to regardless bc you'll just beat yourself up if you don't and that doesn't serve you or them in the long run, but yk

like not forgiving yourself doesn't get you closer to the goal of receiving their forgiveness or making any meaningful change, or what may have you so

Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
but also just because we forgive ourselves, doesn't mean they will, so we should still move with that awareness and not pretend like nothing happened

LexiLuvsKirby
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LexiLuvsKirby wrote:

Olympus wrote:
Well yes, at some point!...you have to regardless bc you'll just beat yourself up if you don't and that doesn't serve you or them in the long run, but yk

like not forgiving yourself doesn't get you closer to the goal of receiving their forgiveness or making any meaningful change, or what may have you so

i guess i look at it from a different angle
if you dont feel guilt there is nothing to forgive, because youre not sorry
i personally dont want someones apology if its clear they dont feel bad about what was done
(in my opinion)

LexiLuvsKirby
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LexiLuvsKirby wrote:
i dont even understand the self forgiveness thing at all i guess
because why would it matter if i forgive myself? who tf cares you know, if i wasnt the one hurt then forgiving myself means nothing