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Suchomimus wrote:
got back with their ex and had it turn out good?

asking for a friend................

if it turned out bad, why?

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kruspersille wrote:

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Solar wrote:
i haven't so i'm afraid i can't really give you advice

i have gone on a date again with my ex girlfriend like two years after we initially broke up? but when we were on that date i knew i didn't want to get back with her, she was really trying to convince me she changed but i didn't really see it and didn't feel invested enough to stick around and find out hhh (and i honestly don't mean that in a mean way i just felt like that chapter of my life was closed youknow?)

i think when considering getting back with an ex it's important to remember why you broke up and if that issue is still present though

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Suchomimus wrote:

kruspersille wrote:

i feel the same

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Teabag wrote:
this friend of yours isnt called suchomimus...right?

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Suchomimus wrote:

Solar wrote:
i haven't so i'm afraid i can't really give you advice

i have gone on a date again with my ex girlfriend like two years after we initially broke up? but when we were on that date i knew i didn't want to get back with her, she was really trying to convince me she changed but i didn't really see it and didn't feel invested enough to stick around and find out hhh (and i honestly don't mean that in a mean way i just felt like that chapter of my life was closed youknow?)

i think when considering getting back with an ex it's important to remember why you broke up and if that issue is still present though

Why did you go on the date with her can I ask? Were you hoping it'd work out?

You saw my star talk, but idk

i tend to run away/give up when i feel pressure or things get difficult, really nothing wrong happend

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Suchomimus wrote:

Teabag wrote:
this friend of yours isnt called suchomimus...right?

............. of course not..... why would you think that?........

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devilcake wrote:
I think you should hold off a bit on getting back with her if this issomething you’re feeling now after hanging out again this once, it’s neither fair on her or you to go back and forth when you’re not sure, especially cos it might be you being afraid of being alone/lonely and a friend could help with that as well. Either way my advice would be to just focus on being friends at least for a bit before considering what going back with an ex might be like in general, don’t jump the gun basically

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Suchomimus wrote:

devilcake wrote:
I think you should hold off a bit on getting back with her if this issomething you’re feeling now after hanging out again this once, it’s neither fair on her or you to go back and forth when you’re not sure, especially cos it might be you being afraid of being alone/lonely and a friend could help with that as well. Either way my advice would be to just focus on being friends at least for a bit before considering what going back with an ex might be like in general, don’t jump the gun basically

we hung out again last night!
but i think you're right, that's what's stopping me, that i feel it's unfair... but should i let her know how i feel at least? because i don't want to bottle up my feelings, but also maybe it's not something she needs to know idk

and im also scared that in the meantime she might find someone else and i'll have missed my chance

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devilcake wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

devilcake wrote:
I think you should hold off a bit on getting back with her if this issomething you’re feeling now after hanging out again this once, it’s neither fair on her or you to go back and forth when you’re not sure, especially cos it might be you being afraid of being alone/lonely and a friend could help with that as well. Either way my advice would be to just focus on being friends at least for a bit before considering what going back with an ex might be like in general, don’t jump the gun basically

we hung out again last night!
but i think you're right, that's what's stopping me, that i feel it's unfair... but should i let her know how i feel at least? because i don't want to bottle up my feelings, but also maybe it's not something she needs to know idk

and im also scared that in the meantime she might find someone else and i'll have missed my chance

I don’t think I’m skilled enough at social stuff to know if you should wait a little with telling her or or not my instinct is to wait at least a bit cos from what I’ve gathered you JUST started hanging out again? Idk about the attachment style stuff I just skimmed ur startalk just now cos I’m hanging out with heartbroken. But I’m somewhat similar with getting cold feet when things become a lot n feeling like very yucked out by all the pressure and emotions n shit so I get that but I also don’t see how rushing it too much would help. Obvi depends on how ur current relationship is too cos yall seem to be fine with the deep talking so maybe it’d work out well to talk about

idk my main point is just to not to rush it because I feel like that’s not gonna help figure out what you want out of a relationship, especially with how distressing breaking up was for you.

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Solar wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

Solar wrote:
i haven't so i'm afraid i can't really give you advice

i have gone on a date again with my ex girlfriend like two years after we initially broke up? but when we were on that date i knew i didn't want to get back with her, she was really trying to convince me she changed but i didn't really see it and didn't feel invested enough to stick around and find out hhh (and i honestly don't mean that in a mean way i just felt like that chapter of my life was closed youknow?)

i think when considering getting back with an ex it's important to remember why you broke up and if that issue is still present though

Why did you go on the date with her can I ask? Were you hoping it'd work out?

You saw my star talk, but idk

i tend to run away/give up when i feel pressure or things get difficult, really nothing wrong happend

mmm she showed up at my work and bought me roses and everything so i thought i'd give it a chance, but i wouldn't say i was hoping it would work out, more so that i didn't want her effort to go to waste or something like that?

mmhm well, what things made you feel pressured or were difficult to u? maybe that's the better question then?

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kruspersille wrote:
i just know everything u have written abt being in a relationship w her was negative n something u didnt enjoy, whats different now

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Suchomimus wrote:

kruspersille wrote:
i just know everything u have written abt being in a relationship w her was negative n something u didnt enjoy, whats different now

i did write down this stuff in a notebook so i could remind myself after we broke up, but i forgot and im in work right now so I'll try look later

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Maxwell wrote:
Read that notebook pls :cry