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Doll
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Doll wrote:
my ex blocked me everywhere i tried contacting him on after i told him i started therapy and if he would be willing to try again after i go to therapy for a bit and he specifically told me "stop contacting me" and even blocked me on some games we both played EXCEPT one messaging app where I constantly messaged him on yesterday and before & he read my messages there yesterday too and still didn't block so i am really not sure 

on one hand i am like maybe he just forgot but how could he forget if he instantly blocked me everywhere else even when i said as much as "hi"
but on the other hand i don't want to be too hopeful and think that he is leaving a door open for us to communicate after i get better? 
my friend said maybe he is testing me to see if i can respect his boundary of not wanting to speak to me anymore and seeing if therapy will really help? 

idfk he is confusing me so much because why won't he just block me there too knowing how much in the trenches i am, i am sure he knows that leaving me unblocked there is just not giving me closure but more questions
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:10
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Sylvan wrote:
Just stop contacting him
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:18
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Solar wrote:
i'm saying this will love and kindness in my heart, but i think the responsibility shouldn't lie with him to block you, but with you not to contact him right now
if he has you blocked everywhere except for that one place and he's asked you not to contact him, it's on you to respect his boundaries, however painful that might be : ( 
constantly messaging someone who needs some space will only have the opposite effect of what you want to happen i fear
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:18
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Doll wrote:
Sylvan wrote:
Just stop contacting him
i stopped contacting him since yesterday actually now i am just confused :c
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:19
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Doll wrote:
Solar wrote:
i'm saying this will love and kindness in my heart, but i think the responsibility shouldn't lie with him to block you, but with you not to contact him right now
if he has you blocked everywhere except for that one place and he's asked you not to contact him, it's on you to respect his boundaries, however painful that might be : ( 
constantly messaging someone who needs some space will only have the opposite effect of what you want to happen i fear
yeah i stopped contacting him because i texted my therapist and she also convinced me to stop and i even deleted the last message i had sent which was still on delivered 

i am just so so so confused because i very much still love him and he knows that so why would he block me everywhere but there 
what am i supposed to do with this
as much as i won't contact him, the fact that he didn't block me there but blocked me everywhere else will still eat away at my brain and heart and make it much harder to move on because of the what ifs

i am just lost
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:21
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Solar wrote:
Doll wrote:
Solar wrote:
i'm saying this will love and kindness in my heart, but i think the responsibility shouldn't lie with him to block you, but with you not to contact him right now
if he has you blocked everywhere except for that one place and he's asked you not to contact him, it's on you to respect his boundaries, however painful that might be : ( 
constantly messaging someone who needs some space will only have the opposite effect of what you want to happen i fear
yeah i stopped contacting him because i texted my therapist and she also convinced me to stop and i even deleted the last message i had sent which was still on delivered 

i am just so so so confused because i very much still love him and he knows that so why would he block me everywhere but there 
what am i supposed to do with this
as much as i won't contact him, the fact that he didn't block me there but blocked me everywhere else will still eat away at my brain and heart and make it much harder to move on because of the what ifs

i am just lost
mhm i get how it can be confusing for you, it sounds like you're really wanting a door to still be kind of open
but the best thing you can do is listen to what he's actually communicated to you, you can count on that being real/honest. if i understand you correctly i think you're mostly confusing yourself by looking for signs in small things that he might not even consider : / 
if you keep thinking about what ifs you're sabotaging your own healing process. if it comes to a point where he wants you back, he will say so (if he wanted to he would yaknow). everything he's saying/doing right now shows that he's currently not wanting to continue your relationship, and the sooner you accept that the sooner you can start healing 
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:31
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Doll wrote:
Solar wrote:
Doll wrote:
Solar wrote:
i'm saying this will love and kindness in my heart, but i think the responsibility shouldn't lie with him to block you, but with you not to contact him right now
if he has you blocked everywhere except for that one place and he's asked you not to contact him, it's on you to respect his boundaries, however painful that might be : ( 
constantly messaging someone who needs some space will only have the opposite effect of what you want to happen i fear
yeah i stopped contacting him because i texted my therapist and she also convinced me to stop and i even deleted the last message i had sent which was still on delivered 

i am just so so so confused because i very much still love him and he knows that so why would he block me everywhere but there 
what am i supposed to do with this
as much as i won't contact him, the fact that he didn't block me there but blocked me everywhere else will still eat away at my brain and heart and make it much harder to move on because of the what ifs

i am just lost
mhm i get how it can be confusing for you, it sounds like you're really wanting a door to still be kind of open
but the best thing you can do is listen to what he's actually communicated to you, you can count on that being real/honest. if i understand you correctly i think you're mostly confusing yourself by looking for signs in small things that he might not even consider : / 
if you keep thinking about what ifs you're sabotaging your own healing process. if it comes to a point where he wants you back, he will say so (if he wanted to he would yaknow). everything he's saying/doing right now shows that he's currently not wanting to continue your relationship, and the sooner you accept that the sooner you can start healing 
i swear i know everything you're saying is right and i do admit that i am looking for small signs because i am desperate but it really is very odd
to give you a concrete example i sent him some voice messages on instagram yesterday evening and i texted him on the messaging app (because he had last seen my messages there) and told him to check instagram and he saw that message as well and went to instagram, replied on instagram, BLOCKED on instagram and not on the messaging app, again. and like this it happened multiple times when i told him i texted u on x place
so it is genuinely very very confusing even if i was not looking for signs
if he wants me to move on so bad why is he doing this 
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:40
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Solar wrote:
maybe he's having a tough time with the breakup as well and doesn't quite know how to keep to his boundaries? i know from experience it can be pretty tough to break up with someone you've spend a lot of time with even though you want to break up with them, and that it can feel horrible afterwards even if you're the one who ended the relationship. 
perhaps he's not sure how to manage the current situation where he can both stand by his decision and not hurt you, so he gives in sometimes despite needing the space. this is why your responsibility to not contact him is so important! you don't know what is going on inside his head or why he does the things he does, you just know what he's told you; that he needs space and that he'd rather not have you contacting him right now : / 
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Date: 11-10-2026 12:59
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