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Dwaal
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Dwaal wrote:

hmm wrote:

Dwaal wrote:

hmm wrote:
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oh yes the part about avoidance eventually bleeding into everything else is true... and i agree with all you said yes.. the only real solution is to face and experience the pain that comes w that, cus sometimes it might be worth it yes! it is hard to consistently think of it like that but. it's the only way

mmm i should try yes yes... the "being seen more" is so wow.. cus honestly i Should allow myself to be seen more as i've always felt like i should be doing the opposite instead..

omg really?!!!? aww i seriously hope it all works out for you!!! that does explain it yes NHBNJBHD i honestly thought you just enjoyed studying but i see i see... but yes it can be hard unless there's not much time or chances left..

PLEASE there's no way i'm sorry u don't seem mean at all?!!?!!?! just from what you're saying alone whabwbaaw u are too kind thank you seriously i really appreciate reading this it's very reassuring

.... i think in the end people have no choice but to deal with me anyway honestly mkjnbBHANJNSB

about others feeling the same way all along when someone goes against the norm, that is true, but it does take a lot of courage to be the first to do so yes... but it's still essential!

also the friendship sadly fell through because they just vanished HABNJBSNJE and frankly i didn't even take the necessary steps for it to flourish anyway, but they did end up leaving their friends behind too so perhaps it was dodging a bullet....

and you're right about "having nowhere else to go", as i said my best option is to keep adding things to my life rather than eliminate what i do now completely and have no clue what to do next

oh can you elaborate on the "what would I think if I wrote this to someone I hadn't spoken to in a long time" part, maybe i am Slow KAJBANJJAN i don't understand i'm so sorry :/// do you mean like... to think of making a first impression as just talking to an old friend to ease the anxiety or...

For the what would I think part, its more like if someone I hadn’t talked to in a long time messaged me, I tried to think less about how they might judge me (if I were the one to write/call etc.) and more about how I would feel in their position. Most likely, I’d just be glad they reached out. Thinking about it that way helped me stop focusing so much on being embarrassing or unwelcome, and that made it easier to do things I otherwise would’ve been too scared to do. The same with new relationships... more like thinking, what would I feel if a person I didn't know reached out to me like this rn?

And the mean thing is true, I'm not really that welcoming and not always good at expressing myself calmly and gracefully irl, so I do very often come across as mean, even if it's not intended... and sometimes I just get so pissed off and tbf I can't stay silent for the life of me.

But yea, again, small steps maybe a vp update of your achievements once a week? Just to keep a deadline and yourself up to it??

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Sylvan wrote:
Showering more instead of bathing.
I love bathing but I'm always more tired afterward.

Hmm
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hmm wrote:

Dwaal wrote:

hmm wrote:
@Dwaal Im sorry i am So sleepy today i kept forgetting NBBSNSHVGE

Don't worry I was just confused hahahaha also how did piercing ear go

i have not done this yet i havent even bought the equipment yet i'm kinda hesitant but i'm gonna wax my face today maybe that'll get me used to the pain JIEUHEUI9O?

Hmm
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hmm wrote:

bexxi wrote:
moving from trier to way bigger city
it was really scarybecause i moved away from friends that i know but man, life has been on the up ever since

oh that's so nice!! have you managed to stay in contact with your old friends or mmmm

Hmm
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hmm wrote:

Dwaal wrote:

hmm wrote:

Dwaal wrote:
x

oh yes the part about avoidance eventually bleeding into everything else is true... and i agree with all you said yes.. the only real solution is to face and experience the pain that comes w that, cus sometimes it might be worth it yes! it is hard to consistently think of it like that but. it's the only way

mmm i should try yes yes... the "being seen more" is so wow.. cus honestly i Should allow myself to be seen more as i've always felt like i should be doing the opposite instead..

omg really?!!!? aww i seriously hope it all works out for you!!! that does explain it yes NHBNJBHD i honestly thought you just enjoyed studying but i see i see... but yes it can be hard unless there's not much time or chances left..

PLEASE there's no way i'm sorry u don't seem mean at all?!!?!!?! just from what you're saying alone whabwbaaw u are too kind thank you seriously i really appreciate reading this it's very reassuring

.... i think in the end people have no choice but to deal with me anyway honestly mkjnbBHANJNSB

about others feeling the same way all along when someone goes against the norm, that is true, but it does take a lot of courage to be the first to do so yes... but it's still essential!

also the friendship sadly fell through because they just vanished HABNJBSNJE and frankly i didn't even take the necessary steps for it to flourish anyway, but they did end up leaving their friends behind too so perhaps it was dodging a bullet....

and you're right about "having nowhere else to go", as i said my best option is to keep adding things to my life rather than eliminate what i do now completely and have no clue what to do next

oh can you elaborate on the "what would I think if I wrote this to someone I hadn't spoken to in a long time" part, maybe i am Slow KAJBANJJAN i don't understand i'm so sorry :/// do you mean like... to think of making a first impression as just talking to an old friend to ease the anxiety or...

For the what would I think part, its more like if someone I hadn’t talked to in a long time messaged me, I tried to think less about how they might judge me (if I were the one to write/call etc.) and more about how I would feel in their position. Most likely, I’d just be glad they reached out. Thinking about it that way helped me stop focusing so much on being embarrassing or unwelcome, and that made it easier to do things I otherwise would’ve been too scared to do. The same with new relationships... more like thinking, what would I feel if a person I didn't know reached out to me like this rn?

And the mean thing is true, I'm not really that welcoming and not always good at expressing myself calmly and gracefully irl, so I do very often come across as mean, even if it's not intended... and sometimes I just get so pissed off and tbf I can't stay silent for the life of me.

But yea, again, small steps maybe a vp update of your achievements once a week? Just to keep a deadline and yourself up to it??

ohhhh i see i see!! that makes sense yes... it's a very positive way to see it too

which is good yes i think i should practice seeing things from a positive perspective more often.... but you're right, i also sometimes think about how glad i feel when someone new tries to reach out to me even if i'm initially put off so that might be more common than i think

awww anhbnajwhnsme nooo well it's okay . I would still Love to talk to u irl.

oh goddd updating about my achievements.. maybe this would be the only way but also i hate accountability for some reason NJAHBNASBHNJE like oh look she fell off the wagon boohoo -_- I will consider this though .

Hmm
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hmm wrote:

Sylvan wrote:
Showering more instead of bathing.
I love bathing but I'm always more tired afterward.

stop this turned your life around?!