FT: Taking care of yourself - Forum

Pitbull
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Pitbull wrote:

Good morning everyone.

Selfcare and mental health is something that I personally think is important not to forget.
Sometimes we do forget it and tend to find ourselves when it's a bit too late.
So, how do you take care of yourself? Or do you want to know how to start doing so, perhaps even make a routine? Or is it something that you find hard? (why?)

I've added a few links to sites that might help you.
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Sending loads of hugs and warm thoughts to each member on this site <3
You're never alone.

Diabolic
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Diabolic wrote:
I find self care extremely difficult as I am disabled and chronically ill, often bedridden or find myself locked inside my flat in intense and agonising pain. The basic things are hard, so I find if I can manage a bath, or a shower, or even just able to lift an arm enough to brush my hair is self-care enough because it's so difficult normally. I'm a bit of a clean freak, so it's something I do find horrible mentally when I can't. My only other option is call up my 71 and 72 year old grandparents to come and help me bathe, when really at 22 it should be the other way around, my grandma even has to help me dress myself some days, and if she can't, I simply have no choice but to stay in my sleep clothes.

Sometimes just managing the basics is a huge, huge step, whether it's because of physical issues or mental issues. We should give ourselves credit for even the little things when we're finding things hard. (l)

I have had no sleep as of yet and so my grammar might not be as well spoken as my very English accent, so I apologise if this doesn't quite make full sense. I hope you all are doing well and will remember to take care of yourselves. Drink plenty, especially if it's hot. (l)

Pitbull
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Pitbull wrote:

Diabolic wrote:
I find self care extremely difficult as I am disabled and chronically ill, often bedridden or find myself locked inside my flat in intense and agonising pain. The basic things are hard, so I find if I can manage a bath, or a shower, or even just able to lift an arm enough to brush my hair is self-care enough because it's so difficult normally. I'm a bit of a clean freak, so it's something I do find horrible mentally when I can't. My only other option is call up my 71 and 72 year old grandparents to come and help me bathe, when really at 22 it should be the other way around, my grandma even has to help me dress myself some days, and if she can't, I simply have no choice but to stay in my sleep clothes.

Sometimes just managing the basics is a huge, huge step, whether it's because of physical issues or mental issues. We should give ourselves credit for even the little things when we're finding things hard.

I have had no sleep as of yet and so my grammar might not be as well spoken as my very English accent, so I apologise if this doesn't quite make full sense. I hope you all are doing well and will remember to take care of yourselves. Drink plenty, especially if it's hot.

You should be proud of yourself for doing that. Even though you refer to it as "basics" then it's not "just" a basic when you're dealing with different things (I'm ill & handicapped, so I understand you)
Have you ever faced being judged due to finding the small things hard?

And your english is fine! Don't put yourself down <3

Diabolic
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Diabolic wrote:

Escobar wrote:

Diabolic wrote:
I find self care extremely difficult as I am disabled and chronically ill, often bedridden or find myself locked inside my flat in intense and agonising pain. The basic things are hard, so I find if I can manage a bath, or a shower, or even just able to lift an arm enough to brush my hair is self-care enough because it's so difficult normally. I'm a bit of a clean freak, so it's something I do find horrible mentally when I can't. My only other option is call up my 71 and 72 year old grandparents to come and help me bathe, when really at 22 it should be the other way around, my grandma even has to help me dress myself some days, and if she can't, I simply have no choice but to stay in my sleep clothes.

Sometimes just managing the basics is a huge, huge step, whether it's because of physical issues or mental issues. We should give ourselves credit for even the little things when we're finding things hard.

I have had no sleep as of yet and so my grammar might not be as well spoken as my very English accent, so I apologise if this doesn't quite make full sense. I hope you all are doing well and will remember to take care of yourselves. Drink plenty, especially if it's hot.

You should be proud of yourself for doing that. Even though you refer to it as "basics" then it's not "just" a basic when you're dealing with different things (I'm ill & handicapped, so I understand you)
Have you ever faced being judged due to finding the small things hard?

And your english is fine! Don't put yourself down <3

Oh of course I have, and unfortunately I'm sure you have at least once before. I have lost a lot of friends over it, been accused of pretending to be ill for attention. Well, I get far less attention than I did before I was sick, so surely if it was purely for attention it wouldn't be worth pretending over. I've lost a lot of "friends" over my health because they didn't and wouldn't even try to listen or understand where I was coming from when I said I struggled. They didn't like that when they came over to my flat they'd have to get their own drinks, because I just wanted to be 'lazy'. I've had all the assumptions and judgements from a combination of friends and strangers because on top of chronic illnesses and such, I have a hormonal issue which affects my weight greatly, on top of that I also have lipodema and lymphodema in both of my legs, one of which that the nerves are under so much strain of swelling I have no feeling or sensation in it. The muscle is fine-ish, but there is just nothing there. I have to use a stick to walk because of my lack of balance and my back anyway, I was on crutches for 2 years before reverting to a walking stick. But I got a better reaction when on the crutches, than I do being with a stick. It's weird the stigma changes so dramatically.

English is my first and only language atm, I am learning French but due to chronic illness my memory can be horrendous and because I've got a sick bug on top of everything, I've been more than ditzy, so my spelling hasn't made much sense to me, I wanted to make sure people could actually read the things I was saying. (I am told I speak like the Queen, because I speak quite well, at least when I'm less ill)

You're so sweet. I can understand being ill and having a handicap. I had some mobility to begin with but that has become progressively worse over the years.