Q - I am madly in love with someone who is in a relationship, I think about him all night and all day and I want nothing more than to be with him - what do I do?
It is hard to like someone who is already with someone else and there’s not much advice I can give you. I could tell you to get over him and move on, that is pretty much all you can do. But I know how hard that is. I’m sure most people have been in your situation, as have I. Try to make yourself not think about him. I would suggest to find something to do like toss a ball between your hands whenever you start to think about this boy. Or play with a stress ball. Cry because it will help but never take your eyes off that ball and try not to let it drop. Eventually, you wont need the ball and you wont need the cry because someone else may have walked into your life who really cares about you. Don’t push them away, let them in and in time that boy will be forgotten about.
PS don’t try to break him and his partner up, you will only hurt him and that hurt will turn to hate. It’s better to be sad and upset than have him not like you. And remember, sadness is an emotion you have to feel,otherwise you will never feel happiness.
I have tried my best to answer your questions based on my own experiences and opinions. I have tried to be realistic in my answers and also sensitive. I hope I helped the person who asked as well as others who may be going through the same thing.
Owlinfestation <3
Q - My Mom keeps pressuring me to wear make up no matter how often I say no!!! I feel prettier without it, how do I tell her to back off?
A - Just let your mom know that you don’t want to follow social constructions about females having to wear make-up. Let her know that you are comfortable in your own skin and that you don’t want to wear make-up because you feel you don’t need it. It sounds a bit to me like your mom wants to do something with you and make-up is something she is good at. So why not offer another hobby you can do together. If you don’t mind nail varnish, for example, you could let her do your nails and you could do hers.
Q - my whole family eat meat and it is a huge part of early meal, my friend is a vegan and she is coming over next week and i asked my parents if they could accommodate but they said that its rude for a guest to refuse food, i don't want to offend my friend!!
A - Why not offer to make dinner for your family? Or maybe you could just ask your mum if you could order take-out and give your friend the option of where to order from. Try not to hurt your family but try to make them understand that you don’t want to fall out with your friend because she feels uncomfortable around your family.
Q - i have no passion for school, i want to do well but i just don't care anymore!
A - It is hard to keep the motivation going but, all you have to think about is that you don’t have long left at school. You aren’t forced to continue into higher education but it is better for you to get good grades now just in case. Learn to find the balance in your life between friendships, hanging out and schoolwork. You might find that people will blow you off to do school work, just as you should them. Whenever you sit down and do homework, make a few snacks and your favourite drink as a treat. Nibble and drink whilst you do it. Try to keep things away that get you distracted. Once it’s done,you don’t have to think about it any more and you can indulge in whatever it is you like to do.
Q - My boyfriend never wants to hang out with me but he never gives me a good reason, helpppp!
A - I think you just need to talk to him. Maybe he isn’t feeling the same towards you or maybe he just has a lot going on at home. Ask him to meet you in private for an hour or more to talk things out. If he’s not happy, he should let you know so you can work things out. It’s better to know the truth than be left in the dark. If there is something going on at home, you need to make sure he knows you are there for him and that you will help him through whatever is going on.