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is this homophobic?
Bloodflowers
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Bloodflowers wrote:
I have been asked by 2 people if me liking girls has anything to do with my bad experiences with men. One being a girl friend and the other my now ex.

Idk why I feel the need to explain but I've told them the first person I had a crush on was a girl when I was 12 when I didn't have any bad experiences with boys.

Sort of makes it seem like sexuality is caused by something and idk it just upset me a little bit. Why must there be a reason? Why can't it just be the way it is?
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:15 | Times changed: 1
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commander2 wrote:
yee i think it is like   not raging homophobe bbut it jsut does make me feel like they have some internalised ideas tht its not normal or sth? 
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:20
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Miguel wrote:
more like ignorant tbh
next time ask them (if theyre straight) if they are straight bc they had bad experience w ppl from their same gender. they might get a clue 
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:23
Bloodflowers
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Miguel wrote:
more like ignorant tbh
next time ask them (if theyre straight) if they are straight bc they had bad experience w ppl from their same gender. they might get a clue 
so true, sounds crazy when u think about it
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:27
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Rouya wrote:
little bit homophobic yes, it implies that (if youre afab) liking men is natural and liking girls isnt, it has to be caused by something traumatic (even though it is just as natural)
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:27
Bloodflowers
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Rouya wrote:
little bit homophobic yes, it implies that (if youre afab) liking men is natural and liking girls isnt, it has to be caused by something traumatic (even though it is just as natural)
yes exactly this
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:29
Bimbo
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Bimbo wrote:
I agree with Miguel, not homophobic but def a bit ignorant (and tbh also kinda dumb, like that makes no sense)
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:44
Bloodflowers
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Bimbo wrote:
I agree with Miguel, not homophobic but def a bit ignorant (and tbh also kinda dumb, like that makes no sense)
true
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Date: 08-10-2022 20:49
MissLondon
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MissLondon wrote:
I don’t think it’s phobia 
Comes across more so as curiosity about 
something they don’t understand 
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:04
Bloodflowers
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Bloodflowers wrote:
MissLondon wrote:
I don’t think it’s phobia 
Comes across more so as curiosity about 
something they don’t understand 
it's just a weird thing to ask to me
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:14
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devilcake wrote:
Bloodflowers wrote:
MissLondon wrote:
I don’t think it’s phobia 
Comes across more so as curiosity about 
something they don’t understand 
it's just a weird thing to ask to me
i wouldnt trust misslondons opnionion on this she strikes me as the sort of person whod say the same sorta thing as ur friend lol
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:18
MasileinDE
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MasileinDE wrote:
Rouya wrote:
little bit homophobic yes, it implies that (if youre afab) liking men is natural and liking girls isnt, it has to be caused by something traumatic (even though it is just as natural)
a little bit of this, maybe a little bit of curiosity (and lack of understanding, which are both caused by hetronormative thinking patterns)

I guess it's in as much casually homophobic as many heteronormative thinking patterns are
it's not outright hateful or willfully ignorant, it's just not thinking about things that don't take part in your life and your perception on the world (not of the world, but how you interact with it and your preconceived notion that other people share this experience with you)

but I definitely understand how and why it's hurtful, because for you it's not how you look onto the world and thus it feels really invalidating
even if it's out of curiosity, it's like asking people "hey, I saw you being different to me, do you have a trauma that I need to know about?"
it's a bit ... direct, maybe even crude and tasteless to just out of the gate ask stuff like that
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:24
MissLondon
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MissLondon wrote:
Bloodflowers wrote:
MissLondon wrote:
I don’t think it’s phobia 
Comes across more so as curiosity about 
something they don’t understand 
it's just a weird thing to ask to me
It’s odd and most people 
wouldn’t ask 
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:30
Private
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Rouya wrote:
MasileinDE wrote:
Rouya wrote:
little bit homophobic yes, it implies that (if youre afab) liking men is natural and liking girls isnt, it has to be caused by something traumatic (even though it is just as natural)
a little bit of this, maybe a little bit of curiosity (and lack of understanding, which are both caused by hetronormative thinking patterns)

I guess it's in as much casually homophobic as many heteronormative thinking patterns are
it's not outright hateful or willfully ignorant, it's just not thinking about things that don't take part in your life and your perception on the world (not of the world, but how you interact with it and your preconceived notion that other people share this experience with you)

but I definitely understand how and why it's hurtful, because for you it's not how you look onto the world and thus it feels really invalidating
even if it's out of curiosity, it's like asking people "hey, I saw you being different to me, do you have a trauma that I need to know about?"
it's a bit ... direct, maybe even crude and tasteless to just out of the gate ask stuff like that
yes i agree, it's casual, normalized/internalized homophobia in the way that it naturalizes the heteronormative experience. it is also, as you say, a crude and ignorant question
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:33 | Times changed: 1
MissLondon
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MissLondon wrote:
devilcake wrote:
Bloodflowers wrote:
MissLondon wrote:
I don’t think it’s phobia 
Comes across more so as curiosity about 
something they don’t understand 
it's just a weird thing to ask to me
i wouldnt trust misslondons opnionion on this she strikes me as the sort of person whod say the same sorta thing as ur friend lol
Thanks, you strike me as 
a fat and goofy person lol
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:48
5sar
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5sar wrote:
MissLondon wrote:
devilcake wrote:
Bloodflowers wrote:
it's just a weird thing to ask to me
i wouldnt trust misslondons opnionion on this she strikes me as the sort of person whod say the same sorta thing as ur friend lol
Thanks, you strike me as 
a fat and goofy person lol
girl ur so fucking weird actually log off
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Date: 08-10-2022 21:53
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