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unofficial complaint thread 2k21
Kit
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Kit wrote:
Heaven wrote:
Kit wrote:
Heaven wrote:
oh they do
honestly i've taken those quizzes since age 14 or smth and think i've gotten like every single possible variation i'm sorry but mbti says nothing abt personality and everything about self-image its . Something for sure
i absolutely agree kit, lets join forces and destroy vp's obsession with the mbti and the enneagram 
ajkfldsl pls but they need an alternative reductive personality categorization to overidentify with then like . cant have em regress to sorting themselves into hogwarts houses or divergent factions mhjkdfjskl imagine the toll
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Date: 05-10-2020 13:46
Kit
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Kit wrote:
sry just like. how are u gonna act butthurt about me not knowing when i'll be over when u can't even move 2 inches to check the fridge so i can make a grocery list 
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Date: 05-10-2020 13:49
Kit
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Kit wrote:
o and also please ? why are u randomly liking a single tumblr post i made that has nothing to do with u, any interest we share, or anything at all ? like it's literally abt tumblr rp, something u have nothing to do with and no interest in and is my kinda weird niche interest can u pls stop making me feel observed every second of every day ? literally wanna make a new tumblr so she doesn't like any post i make about 10min after i make it ? its the first tumblr post i made in months and its specifically asking a question of a specific community on tumblr liek idk its weird ! go away ! 
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Date: 05-10-2020 13:51
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Salem wrote:
Kit wrote:
Salem wrote:
Kit wrote:

idk the things is like i really like her a lot ! i think she's very smart n very funny and i rly enjoy hanging out with her ! it's just that in the past few months she's stopped therapy and stopped seeing a lot of people and i really don't like being her sole support system, i also think she's just a lil too comfortable treating me / friends like life partners instead of like friends idk

like i love her a lot i just hate how codependent we've gotten during lockdown/quarantine etc. and i really hate that she's not really willing to work with me on letting that go ? but yea idk i just feel like it's really hard to have constructive conversations w her and she keeps getting worse n relying on me more n more n that's . not great

idk she also will NOT establish boundaries for herself with me which makes it hard to do so for myself ? and its like . idk hard . 
ahhhh okay I understand a lil more !! I'd feel the same as u in this situation I think, but I rly do believe the only way ur gonna get thru to her is to be nice but blunt cos the more u bottle the feelings as a result of knowing ur not gonna have a productive conversation w her about it, the worse it's gonna get. at the least maybe somethin like look I love ur company and hanging out and stuff but I'm really trying to work on myself n not smoke as much weed etc. like it's really important 2 me u know? just thought u would get it ! or somethin like be a lil passive aggressive urself if necessary hahah but idk. make ur point n make it clear so if she then does somethin that just makes u want to blow ur lid u can remind her n be like look dude I just need a bit of time or whatever it is u need in that situ and if she reacts badly again like. idk then u kno for sure it ain't a good thing 2 be so close to her rn
idk if any of this even made sense but I need 2 go sort my breakfast although it's lunch now rip
ajfkdslj thank u . so much honestly this made a Lot of sense and ! yeah i think smth that rly stops me from discussing this w her the way i need to is that im afraid to hurt her feelings or freak her out bc she's v rejection sensitive but like ? that just means i'm ultimately not being completely honest w her and not giving her the opportunity to change thigns that r bothering me and i jsut gotta .... call it as i see it more
but ya thats honestly very good advice im going to try ! <3
anytime ! I hav lots of thoughts when it comes to stuff like this but 9 times outta 10 struggle tryna explain
but yea it needs to be said so it may hurt her feelings but as long as ur happy w how u frame it like u don't say somethin intentionally mean or whatever then I don't think u should feel guilty or afraid of hurting her feelings like. ur sayin it in the nicest way possible and it's for both of ur benefits and for ur friendship cos it's important to u. ALSO idk if she'll appreciate it but if it was me I would. like I was havin a vry bad time n the 1 person I used to meet up with at the time I'd talk 2 abt it n stuff, n outta the blue she just completely stopped responding 2 me and like. I had abt a week of "has somethin happened to her oh no is she ok" and then months of "what did I do wrong she won't even reply 2 me when I messaged saying 'look if u don't wanna be friends n stuff that's fine, can u just lemme know cos you just not responding is like the worst thing for me' or somethin for the life of me I can't remember. so to this day idk why but I'm guessin I was fairly whiny looool which would explain it, n I woulda much preferred in that situation for her 2 tell me it was bothering her a bit so I could try n change my behaviour or at least know? rather than guess why it went wrong n spend months thinkin ok what did I do, was it this or this or am I just someone no one will ever like blah blah
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Date: 05-10-2020 13:53
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Kit wrote:
grrrrrr ok complaint lite but . gonna have dinner with my cousin and offered to get groceries, i texted her just double checking the grocery list to make sure i'm not forgetting anything & to check if she needs / wants anything else

that was over an hour ago and still no response : ( 
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Date: 09-10-2020 15:24
Pavlov
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Pavlov wrote:
have u ever tried nicely telling someone to leave ur thread
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Date: 09-10-2020 15:26
Pavlov
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Pavlov wrote:
Pavlov wrote:
have u ever tried nicely telling someone to leave ur thread
u can practice here right now
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Date: 09-10-2020 15:27
Kit
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Kit wrote:
also im super broke and had to ask my mom for money again nd its so fucking embarrassing and i feel so guilty and : ( idk every time i spend money even just on groceries i feel kinda sick with myself 
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Date: 09-10-2020 15:39
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toraix wrote:
Why is this such a serious thread like what
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Date: 09-10-2020 15:57
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toraix wrote:
This sounds like some gossip girl esc problems about omg i love my friend but i also gossip behind her back bc i also hate her??

Like i am just amazed how People come up with drama from nothing
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Date: 09-10-2020 15:59
Kit
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Kit wrote:
toraix wrote:
Why is this such a serious thread like what

idk man i take absolutely everything a lil too seriously and also i got a lot of shit going on . like a lot of feelings . what can i say
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Date: 09-10-2020 15:59
Kit
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Kit wrote:
toraix wrote:
This sounds like some gossip girl esc problems about omg i love my friend but i also gossip behind her back bc i also hate her??

Like i am just amazed how People come up with drama from nothing
idk from my perspective i'm not gossiping ? like. none of y'all know or will ever know her. i just need to rant a lil bc i have a lot of feelings about it and i think it would be, you know, creating actual drama if i were to talk about these things with people irl who know her. i have a lot of thoughts n feelings and am struggling with a lot of things rn, and don't always have people irl i can talk to about them, but it helps to get stuff out, especially if there are kind people such as some ppl in this thread who offer sympathy and support! i do love my friend, and i absolutely do not hate her, i just struggle with our interactions because they can be very codependent and very difficult to navigate.

and i mean this in the most respectful way possible, but if you don't like it you're under no obligation to read or respond or involve yourself
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Date: 09-10-2020 16:05
Kit
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Kit wrote:
ghhhhhh i love that i can go from like.
- trying to find an external hard drive so i can back up my laptop
- to realizing i 110% can't afford to buy anything for the next month at least
- to looking at jobs again online for students who don't actually have qualifications 
- and seeing all of these "part time" functions that are still 35 hours a week, just not 40 so they don't have to pay benefits, but i definitely can't work 35 hours a week
- to realizing that the only part time jobs available for students without real qualifications r either for medical students, IT/ICT students, or are all customer service/call center/telemarketing jobs that are 110% social/sales skills that i do not have
- to looking for jobs specifically for autistic people who lack the social skills/ability to metaphorically&emotionally suck a customer's dick for 8 hours a day
- to finding organizations which help autistic people find jobs
- except those jobs are exclusively in IT or finance because apparently the only thing autistic people are capable of is numbers ? and i don't do fucking IT
- to looking at info about job coaching 
- to realizing that that costs money which i don't have and if i did have enough money to pay someone else's fucking salary i wouldn't need a job now would i !
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Date: 10-10-2020 13:33
Kit
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Kit wrote:
idk i just literally have no idea how or where to start like. the only thing i can do is google and all i'm getting are shitty information sites with no actual support or help or jobs or anything it's just like. "oh lol people with autism have special talents that are good for jobs! they should get jobs! only 30% of people with autism have real job! if you are autistic and want help getting a job there are organizations out there if you are a man with IT skills and the most stereotypical presentation of autism! if you aren't in IT, computer science, or medicine your only options are emotional labor! wow can you believe how good autistic people are at IT? have we mentioned it enough yet? have you finally gotten it through your thick autistic skull that the only thing you will ever be able to do is IT? that you have no other skills or personality other than your ability to work with computers and do math?" fuuuuuck
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Date: 10-10-2020 13:39
Kit
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Kit wrote:
idk just like every time i try looking into this for more than like 15 minutes i end up just wanting to fucking die like ..... idk i feel like im being so dramatic being like "can't work in customer service or like waiting tables or shit like that" bc i have and i can ? in fucking ENGLISH ? because ive been practicing how to make small talk and be friendly nd learned all the lil phrases and shit for 20 years in ENGLISH ? and i do not know how it works in dutch and i simply CANNOT mask as well in dutch so its just like not a fucking option
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Date: 10-10-2020 13:55
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