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www.reddit.com/r/aspergirls/

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Rouya wrote:

AntivianWaitress wrote:

Crawk wrote:
these are some stuff i've picked up along the way that are of good help!!

- having a calendar to put up all the dates
- making sure to not put 2 much pressure on urself with basically overbooking urself, make sure meetings / appointments are evenly spread out
- if problems with food smells and not being able to eat from the same fridge as the rest of the people u live with: get ur own fridge (!!!) this has helped me so much with reducing the anxiety / overload i experience
- make sure u have comfy clothes that feel good on u, it will be much easier
- have reminders of basic stuff if u struggle with such, can be eating, brushing ur teeth, shower n what not
- plan ur activities !
- but also plan ur rest! sometimes we get caught up with having to complete something that we forget to take a break, a break can make u gain some energy again and this will be a thing u have to learn for urself!
- tell people how u function and how for them to make it easier for u, there will be less stress from ur side and people will have a better understanding of u, if ur not confident enough to tell people u can always make sure the person closest to u can bring ur msg to them
- accept that there will be frustration, this isn't easy when u feel everything has failed because it didn't go to plan, instead think that there's a day tomorrow and reflect over what went wrong
- don't hold back, masking is sometimes needed as i use it myself to not cause any evil stares, but don't compromise urself to fit a mould, be yourself and learn to accept that you are just like any other person
- let people take charge of the planning every now and then! even though i like having my own plans, sometimes i don't know my own limits and i want too much that i'm just not mentally capable of

Im diagnosed with adhd and absolutely love ur list right now because all of this applies to me as well and I never even thought about how to solve some of this

adhd and autism overlap a lot more than one might think

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I wonder ehy everyone on vp is autistic

the official numbers of about 1 on 50 ppl estimated to be autistic adds up to at least 4 autistics being online at once, add to that socialising is far easier online than in person for a lot of autistic ppl making us all flock to social sites like this like were getting paid, small pixel clothing cute brain go YEA

also the sheer amount of dumb shit people say and do on here its hard to feel like ur being judged for being slightly off key i think it adds up

dressup games and collecting both have been a special interest for me for literally 15 years so brain go brrrr

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GvcciGoddess wrote:

Allie wrote:
I want mine removed as I've worked a lot with my issues. Used to be really insecure and shy, something I'm not anymore in real life.

I remember when I got my diagnosis I was relieved because it was some sort of explanation as to why I wasn't like everyone else. I hope that's what you feel too!

Wait can u even get diagnoses like that removed from ur record? Like its not like u can just stop having autism

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ouch wrote:

GvcciGoddess wrote:

Allie wrote:
I want mine removed as I've worked a lot with my issues. Used to be really insecure and shy, something I'm not anymore in real life.

I remember when I got my diagnosis I was relieved because it was some sort of explanation as to why I wasn't like everyone else. I hope that's what you feel too!

Wait can u even get diagnoses like that removed from ur record? Like its not like u can just stop having autism

Probably, I mean u can be misdiagnosed so it shouldn't be a problem removing it if u don't display symptoms anymore? I think at least

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GvcciGoddess wrote:

ouch wrote:

GvcciGoddess wrote:

Allie wrote:
I want mine removed as I've worked a lot with my issues. Used to be really insecure and shy, something I'm not anymore in real life.

I remember when I got my diagnosis I was relieved because it was some sort of explanation as to why I wasn't like everyone else. I hope that's what you feel too!

Wait can u even get diagnoses like that removed from ur record? Like its not like u can just stop having autism

Probably, I mean u can be misdiagnosed so it shouldn't be a problem removing it if u don't display symptoms anymore? I think at least

I have a hard time believing that tbh

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AntivianWaitress wrote:

Crawk wrote:
these are some stuff i've picked up along the way that are of good help!!

- having a calendar to put up all the dates
- making sure to not put 2 much pressure on urself with basically overbooking urself, make sure meetings / appointments are evenly spread out
- if problems with food smells and not being able to eat from the same fridge as the rest of the people u live with: get ur own fridge (!!!) this has helped me so much with reducing the anxiety / overload i experience
- make sure u have comfy clothes that feel good on u, it will be much easier
- have reminders of basic stuff if u struggle with such, can be eating, brushing ur teeth, shower n what not
- plan ur activities !
- but also plan ur rest! sometimes we get caught up with having to complete something that we forget to take a break, a break can make u gain some energy again and this will be a thing u have to learn for urself!
- tell people how u function and how for them to make it easier for u, there will be less stress from ur side and people will have a better understanding of u, if ur not confident enough to tell people u can always make sure the person closest to u can bring ur msg to them
- accept that there will be frustration, this isn't easy when u feel everything has failed because it didn't go to plan, instead think that there's a day tomorrow and reflect over what went wrong
- don't hold back, masking is sometimes needed as i use it myself to not cause any evil stares, but don't compromise urself to fit a mould, be yourself and learn to accept that you are just like any other person
- let people take charge of the planning every now and then! even though i like having my own plans, sometimes i don't know my own limits and i want too much that i'm just not mentally capable of

Im diagnosed with adhd and absolutely love ur list right now because all of this applies to me as well and I never even thought about how to solve some of this

i’m glad it could be of help ❤️

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ouch wrote:

GvcciGoddess wrote:

ouch wrote:

GvcciGoddess wrote:
Wait can u even get diagnoses like that removed from ur record? Like its not like u can just stop having autism

Probably, I mean u can be misdiagnosed so it shouldn't be a problem removing it if u don't display symptoms anymore? I think at least

I have a hard time believing that tbh

I was almost diagnosed w autism but I wasn't tho but I imagine if I had a worse therapist they could have diagnosed me, but now I don't have any symptoms anymore, so its def workable if u don't actually have symptoms because ur brain works that way but because of other issues

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Pavlov wrote:

GvcciGoddess wrote:

ouch wrote:

GvcciGoddess wrote:
Wait can u even get diagnoses like that removed from ur record? Like its not like u can just stop having autism

Probably, I mean u can be misdiagnosed so it shouldn't be a problem removing it if u don't display symptoms anymore? I think at least

I have a hard time believing that tbh

its possible to get a second opinion on your diagnoses which is a citizen's right but its not like u can just walk in and be like hi remove my diagnose

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Persona wrote:
thank you everyone! honestly, being diagnosed is a relief. the way he explained it really opened my eyes to my behaviour and how having to mask constantly (and not really understanding what was wrong) was causing me great stress. It all kinda made sense.

I'm happy i'm going down the right path now in understanding myself and my ways of thinking

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Anachronism wrote:

bones wrote:
I feel like there's a huge chunk of people on vp that are neurodivergent, avatar forum sites seem to attract autistic folks haha

Realized I was probably autistic from literally just tumblr posts. It's unfortunate that the less obvious traits are really not well known so everyone has just a very one dimentional view of how autistic people look. Most of us learn to mask very early in life and think that "well i'm just a little weird and awkward it's no big deal" when in reality masking and trying to blend in creates huge amounts of unnecessary stress for us

this might not happen to you but it did to me; I started to act "more autistic" when I realized I was neurodivergent. I just started stimming more because I stopped holding my instincts back, I stopped worrying about enjoying things or being weird or emotional and I just feel more like myself now? And I still keep noticing little things that most likely stem from me being neurotypical, just in my daily life and past as well
It can be weird at the start bcs youve learned to live and act a certain way but honestly it's a relief to know yourself better

Very interesting. was diagnosed in 02 back when it was called AS in the DSM-IV. it's now classified as level 1 autism in the DSM-V. Believe AS is still in the IDC, personally dont use the term tho cuz of the unfortunate ableist and nazi ties ):

Back then the disability view was more common than the difference view. I felt like a defective freak and my mom has a negative view of autism. It was all about what was "wrong" with me, my limitations, rather than a difference to cope with.

Spent my whole life trying not to seem autistic or w/e, still semi self-conscious unfortunately, but also glad to know I guess.

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kitkatpuddel wrote:
im autstic, and whatever you do, stay away from autism speaks, they're trash

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Gilmore wrote:

Allie wrote:
I want mine removed as I've worked a lot with my issues. Used to be really insecure and shy, something I'm not anymore in real life.

I remember when I got my diagnosis I was relieved because it was some sort of explanation as to why I wasn't like everyone else. I hope that's what you feel too!

You want yours removed? wut

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uhyre wrote:

kitkatpuddel wrote:
im autstic, and whatever you do, stay away from autism speaks, they're trash

aside from the fact that theyre horrid people, ive always thought the name was fuckin funny all things considered

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kitkatpuddel wrote:

lamb wrote:

kitkatpuddel wrote:
im autstic, and whatever you do, stay away from autism speaks, they're trash

aside from the fact that theyre horrid people, ive always thought the name was fuckin funny all things considered

that is true actually