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Six wrote:
here's a few things i am improving on

1) the biggest thing i've been working on is learning what to expect from others.  i used to feel so let down because i would pour way too much into a friendship and then not get the same in return, and i used to feel really angry and upset about that ... and then i realized it's not their fault, it's mine.  i can't expect to get what i put in as return.  so now i'm working on only giving what i can to people rather than putting my all into everyone and stretching myself thin.  don't know if it makes sense but it makes sense to me

2) my posture and my overall health.  i am very healthy and i work out but i want to look even better.  been a journey with my skin and i've been working out pretty much every day for a year ... so now it's just portion control and feeling more confident.

BrainFilth wrote:
Meeee too, it's really hard.
I tried therapy briefly and she just told me my anxiety was warranted and my life was stressful
like gee thanks this isn't debilitating or anything lol

Fantasy wrote:
i wish you the best really, I am not able to overcome this yet either
also sounds like a shitty therapist :/ i never tried therapy, just thought about it - but i fear i won't  be taken seriously for this lol "just stop overthinking" is what they'll probably think

Fantasy wrote:
i wish you the best really, I am not able to overcome this yet either
also sounds like a shitty therapist :/ i never tried therapy, just thought about it - but i fear i won't  be taken seriously for this lol "just stop overthinking" is what they'll probably think

BrainFilth wrote:
Oh she was a shitty therapist 
she hates poor people and drug users, talks over me, said that "folks like me" who are on medicaid are the reason that "folks like her" who pay for insurance have long waits for doctors
yet she works at a clinic for poor folks
Literally should not be a therapist, she's awful.
she actively was trying to get me not to come back 

Fantasy wrote:
also I hold onto bad past memories - that's also what I overthink a lot about
that's also probably the hardest for me to stop doing, I always regret things I literally can't change anymore (aka my past behavior)

BrainFilth wrote:
FEELS on #1
I let myself get SO LET DOWN by people who are literally just behaving in ways they've ALWAYS behaved that I just don't like.

Fantasy wrote:
wtf sounds like a nightmare? how is she even a therapist when she doesn't have an ounce of empathy?? i hate such doctors in general, literally shouldn't work in a section involving human interaction >:/

Six wrote:
i had a huge incident maybe 2 years ago now where all of my friends forgot my birthday.  i mean it's not that big of a deal for some people i guess, but it was a huge deal for me, because some people i didn't even know remembered.  i administrated my friend's discord server of 4k people and like some random lurkers somehow knew it was my birthday but even my best friend of 5 years forgot.  this was after i was doing everything for them ... hosted them at my house for a week at the summer, drove us all around, spent time administrating my friend's community and pouring time into making it alive ... kind of had a mental break

and then i realized i don't have to give myself to people who don't care for me.  because people are selfish and will take as much as they can of a good thing.  so now i regulate how much time i spend with people who don't reach out to me, etc.  and i no longer go over the top for people who don't matter just because they need it (but sometimes i find myself doing that).