Arthema wrote:
I was kinddaaaa in the boyfriend's shoes,
but i like told my ex and current man that I will NOT relay on them for that 100%, I WILL talk about it if I feel like it but not like... not like that
I did tell em the truth about how my current situation is, but BECAUSE I was serious with our relationship and with them,
I made sure that they're not going to become my therapists, as well
I have one, and I made sure to always go to him (also a psychologist) as I know how unfair it can be for your significant other to just dump everything on you, because no matter which situation is worse, yours or his, it is NEVER fair to do this to your partner.
Be there for him, yes, but he NEEDS help, and that help is not you, it's someone professional.
You can be there to support him going to get help and motivate him to do that, but not to be the therapist or psychologist.