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Evey wrote:
i would have been upset as well if i was in my teenage years but i've come to realize that i might be alone in every situation i find myself in and i worked on accepting that. or well, at least i know that i won't have the luxury of picking who comforts me in a particular moment every time. and to always assume that u will ahve to deal with things alone feels like something most heterosexual women should do and probably will do, in time, because it ain't worth it to be upset about men acting selfish/not understanding. it will likely happen more than once i am generalizing here yes

if i were u i would tell him that i don't like how he prioritizes and then i would start to reach out to friends instead and make close connections to my friends instead, but give him room to be better next time.

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autism wrote:
if you feel some way you shouldn't feel bad about it, it's not like your feelings are something you can control.

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Limbs wrote:
it's ok to feel any feelings that you have but i also think its ok for him to call you after the football game, since it's only a few hours that you'll have to wait. it's a bummer that he couldn't talk to you rn, but if he's out with friends watching the game or something i can understand it

if he's watching the game alone though maybe he could call you and talk to you about the game? then he wouldn't have to miss it haha and you'd still get a distraction

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brunhilde wrote:
i mean yea you can say whatever you want but i can't guarantee happy consequences, esp since i don't know how your relationship is otherwise
you're allowed to feel how you feel but if you ask my personal opinion then i think you're overreacting/being sorta selfish but that's just me. i know period cramps can b painful but it will pass

It's not like that I'm selfish and this bad pain(really bad one) doesn't happen every month, I also understand that this game is so interesting, but still I felt bad when he said that😔
I don't want to fight with him, just wanted to know that do I even have the right to be sad/angry or not, because I know this pain will pass، but that made me wonder how important am I to him, you know what I mean?

yeah, i understand, and i'm not saying your reaction isn't valid. i used to get extra bad moodswings (even outside periods) before i got medication for it, and i've said a lot of things i regretted afterwards. the fact you got mad also tells me that you know your worth, which is great. however he did say he's going to call you after the match which in return tells me he does care about you, and chooses to pick a better time instead of - if he's as into the game as some people i've seen - yell into your ear and add to your pains

🌸💖 Yeah maybe

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Meltychocolate wrote:

Evey wrote:
i would have been upset as well if i was in my teenage years but i've come to realize that i might be alone in every situation i find myself in and i worked on accepting that. or well, at least i know that i won't have the luxury of picking who comforts me in a particular moment every time. and to always assume that u will ahve to deal with things alone feels like something most heterosexual women should do and probably will do, in time, because it ain't worth it to be upset about men acting selfish/not understanding. it will likely happen more than once i am generalizing here yes

if i were u i would tell him that i don't like how he prioritizes and then i would start to reach out to friends instead and make close connections to my friends instead, but give him room to be better next time.

Actually I told him so and he said sorry, but I know in the same situation in future he will again do the same thing, I was never his priority through this whole 1 year we were together, but beside that we never had a severe fight or a major problem, we are like old couples somehow, no big fight no big love.
I don't know if he is the proper guy for me, really confused😔

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autism wrote:
if you feel some way you shouldn't feel bad about it, it's not like your feelings are something you can control.

Thank you love, for saying that💖💖
last night it really helped me reading your comments

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Limbs wrote:
it's ok to feel any feelings that you have but i also think its ok for him to call you after the football game, since it's only a few hours that you'll have to wait. it's a bummer that he couldn't talk to you rn, but if he's out with friends watching the game or something i can understand it

if he's watching the game alone though maybe he could call you and talk to you about the game? then he wouldn't have to miss it haha and you'd still get a distraction

No he was home alone, and it's not about just this football game which was kinda important, but every time there's a match or every time he is with his friends, I'm the one who should wait, I don't know where is the line between each person privacy and the respect you should expect from someone, that was my main concern

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He could call you in the break and then after, but also if he's occupied he's occupied like i assume we know how invested some ppl are in soccer and with tournaments running now... You'd probably only get half a ear anyways. Like if you need a distraction there's a lot of other things as well. And ye your feelings are valid but alas ppl meet you where they can or will, and you can take that into questioning as well since you already have noticed a pattern in your relationship that you don't like. For the sake of it, will go into some unsolisiticed story about how this sounds like my dad and ye if it doesn't get resolved, don't get stuck w a pattern where you don't feel appreciated. It's gonna suck long term and probably not be sustainable.

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Nesta wrote:
He could call you in the break and then after, but also if he's occupied he's occupied like i assume we know how invested some ppl are in soccer and with tournaments running now... You'd probably only get half a ear anyways. Like if you need a distraction there's a lot of other things as well. And ye your feelings are valid but alas ppl meet you where they can or will, and you can take that into questioning as well since you already have noticed a pattern in your relationship that you don't like. For the sake of it, will go into some unsolisiticed story about how this sounds like my dad and ye if it doesn't get resolved, don't get stuck w a pattern where you don't feel appreciated. It's gonna suck long term and probably not be sustainable.

Yes dear, it's exactly an unpleasant pattern, I already know this isn't a healthy relationship, I am just fooling myself that it's going to be better, but I know it's not😔
I just don't have enough strength now to take the first step

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Meltychocolate wrote:

Nesta wrote:
He could call you in the break and then after, but also if he's occupied he's occupied like i assume we know how invested some ppl are in soccer and with tournaments running now... You'd probably only get half a ear anyways. Like if you need a distraction there's a lot of other things as well. And ye your feelings are valid but alas ppl meet you where they can or will, and you can take that into questioning as well since you already have noticed a pattern in your relationship that you don't like. For the sake of it, will go into some unsolisiticed story about how this sounds like my dad and ye if it doesn't get resolved, don't get stuck w a pattern where you don't feel appreciated. It's gonna suck long term and probably not be sustainable.

Yes dear, it's exactly an unpleasant pattern, I already know this isn't a healthy relationship, I am just fooling myself that it's going to be better, but I know it's not😔
I just don't have enough strength now to take the first step

Good luck