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Hungover
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hungover wrote:
This post reminds me of myself like three years ago, back when I wasn't ready to get better, back when I didn't actually want to better myself. You have to want to get better before you see results. You cannot get help if you don't want it.

Drapetomania
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Drapetomania wrote:

hungover wrote:
This post reminds me of myself like three years ago, back when I wasn't ready to get better, back when I didn't actually want to better myself. You have to want to get better before you see results. You cannot get help if you don't want it.

I agree with this. It's a long healing process, but it's so worth it in the end!

Annie
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ladarrein wrote:
no i dont want to go to therapy

we're the same age and I was in the mental state you're in not that long ago. I know therapy isn't for everyone but give it a shot if you can/have the means. Since you live in the US there are a lot of resources available for free as well. I know it's hard opening up to a stranger either face to face or even online when you know it's their job to talk to you about it, but having outside help and perspective really feels great after some time. When I started seeing my therapist I was really worried and uncomfortable with the idea of talking about things that severely affect me, but as time goes on it gets easier and easier and life is so much better with those feelings off of your chest. They even give you healthy ways to destress or cope. And for me, personally, when my therapist gives me simple challenges to improve myself, it's really gratifying to come back to her at our next session and tell her that I succeeded.

Annie
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Annie wrote:
With your mom, I understand how you feel too. I love my mom, but there are some things I can't talk to her at all about for multiple reasons or some things I wish I could but I know would never work. Another thing therapy has started helping me with is having the ability to lay down my boundaries on certain topics, and have the courage to bring up others and help others see things from my perspective. Me and my mom have had conversations about my mental health that I'd never be able to have before I started seeing my therapist. And of course, she's not perfect, so sometimes she says or asks the wrong things. I can't make excuses for her, and it's really hard to not get upset over what she says, but at the end of the day I know that if there's an issue I can't resolve with her, I can see someone else who will guide me through the problem and either give me methods on how to fix things or help others help me, or just to help me move on from the problem. Of course it doesn't solve every issue, but it's really useful.

Ladarrein
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ladarrein wrote:

hungover wrote:
This post reminds me of myself like three years ago, back when I wasn't ready to get better, back when I didn't actually want to better myself. You have to want to get better before you see results. You cannot get help if you don't want it.

i do want help just not the same help u guys think i need

Ladarrein
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ladarrein wrote:

Annie wrote:

ladarrein wrote:
no i dont want to go to therapy

we're the same age and I was in the mental state you're in not that long ago. I know therapy isn't for everyone but give it a shot if you can/have the means. Since you live in the US there are a lot of resources available for free as well. I know it's hard opening up to a stranger either face to face or even online when you know it's their job to talk to you about it, but having outside help and perspective really feels great after some time. When I started seeing my therapist I was really worried and uncomfortable with the idea of talking about things that severely affect me, but as time goes on it gets easier and easier and life is so much better with those feelings off of your chest. They even give you healthy ways to destress or cope. And for me, personally, when my therapist gives me simple challenges to improve myself, it's really gratifying to come back to her at our next session and tell her that I succeeded.

ur right ¨therapy isnt for everyone¨ and its not for me. i wanna vent to someone im comforable with venting to

Ladarrein
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ladarrein wrote:

Annie wrote:
With your mom, I understand how you feel too. I love my mom, but there are some things I can't talk to her at all about for multiple reasons or some things I wish I could but I know would never work. Another thing therapy has started helping me with is having the ability to lay down my boundaries on certain topics, and have the courage to bring up others and help others see things from my perspective. Me and my mom have had conversations about my mental health that I'd never be able to have before I started seeing my therapist. And of course, she's not perfect, so sometimes she says or asks the wrong things. I can't make excuses for her, and it's really hard to not get upset over what she says, but at the end of the day I know that if there's an issue I can't resolve with her, I can see someone else who will guide me through the problem and either give me methods on how to fix things or help others help me, or just to help me move on from the problem. Of course it doesn't solve every issue, but it's really useful.

i hate my mom and the rest of my family. idk if they do it intentionally but they make my home life almost as miserable as my school life. its to the point where i dont wanna talk to them.

ArianaGrande
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ArianaGrande wrote:

ladarrein wrote:

hungover wrote:
This post reminds me of myself like three years ago, back when I wasn't ready to get better, back when I didn't actually want to better myself. You have to want to get better before you see results. You cannot get help if you don't want it.

i do want help just not the same help u guys think i need

yes i think that asking advice here probably wont be very effective because people here just think of more serious solutions than your problem requires. i'll assume you've already communicated w ur current friends that you want support, if it did not help atm id say that eventually you'll find friends that support u as u grow older (dunno why but makes sense tbh) cus i felt the same years ago too

Ladarrein
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ladarrein wrote:

Terrified wrote:

ladarrein wrote:

hungover wrote:
This post reminds me of myself like three years ago, back when I wasn't ready to get better, back when I didn't actually want to better myself. You have to want to get better before you see results. You cannot get help if you don't want it.

i do want help just not the same help u guys think i need

yes i think that asking advice here probably wont be very effective because people here just think of more serious solutions than your problem requires. i'll assume you've already communicated w ur current friends that you want support, if it did not help atm id say that eventually you'll find friends that support u as u grow older (dunno why but makes sense tbh) cus i felt the same years ago too

i mean i didnt really ask for help here. i just vented here just to get it off my chest ig. ive communicated with them just not to the extent of the post i made on here. and i hope i make more friends but its hard to make friends when i dont talk to anyone. ive had the same problem for 3 years now and my mental health has been getting worse and worse as time goes on

ArianaGrande
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ArianaGrande wrote:

ladarrein wrote:

Terrified wrote:

ladarrein wrote:
i do want help just not the same help u guys think i need

yes i think that asking advice here probably wont be very effective because people here just think of more serious solutions than your problem requires. i'll assume you've already communicated w ur current friends that you want support, if it did not help atm id say that eventually you'll find friends that support u as u grow older (dunno why but makes sense tbh) cus i felt the same years ago too

i mean i didnt really ask for help here. i just vented here just to get it off my chest ig. ive communicated with them just not to the extent of the post i made on here. and i hope i make more friends but its hard to make friends when i dont talk to anyone.

maybe u could try doing it as much as u did in this post, though if you're not comfortable w it it's understandable

hopefully some people come into ur life

Ladarrein
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ladarrein wrote:
guys i reached out to an old friend i had. it looks like we'll start talking again. im a bit nervous this isnt gonna turn out how i hope it will but we'll see

Pjmin
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pjmin wrote:
You know... I came here thinking I might be able to give some help...
But heck... I had been the exact same, and the only reason making my current life different from those days, is that my school finished... and now some other beauties have shown up.
I'm the very exact... but... I can tell you, I have gotten stronger and I'm trying see the world with better eyes now... but if you don't let go of past, things will never change. I know it feels so unfair to forgive and let go of all you've been through... but honestly, that's the only way.
There are times I remember my own FUCKEDUP ASSHOLE of a friend and I am filled with such rage and anger and hatred... but then I'm so out of being my own, and only the times she doesn't exist I'm better. One thing I tried with her, and worked actually pretty good, was saying the one last goodbye to her. I told her I want to start my own new life, and Hope she does well. and the last goodbye. It made me feel much calmer ever since and really stepped me up.

Private
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Sylvan wrote:
Your life isn't wasted, you are like what, 15? There is sooo much stuff you can still do.

Have you considered trying new hobbies to meet new people who don't know you in a school context?
Also not giving a shit about school is normal as a teen, I didn't either but I really regret it nowadays bc it gets so much harder to learn new shit once you turn 20.