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thoughts on kids on leashes
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uhyre wrote:
liv wrote:
i think it’s ok it’s to prevents ur child from running away in crowded places or something. some parents are rly paranoid, better safe than sorry. i’ve only seen it done with toddlers
i can imagine like, a mall. a place full of other ppl where u definitely dont want ut kid running around freely. god knows how many csi episodes have started with that premise
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:42
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Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
liv wrote:
i think it’s ok it’s to prevents ur child from running away in crowded places or something. some parents are rly paranoid, better safe than sorry. i’ve only seen it done with toddlers
i can imagine like, a mall. a place full of other ppl where u definitely dont want ut kid running around freely. god knows how many csi episodes have started with that premise
nah your own insecurity as a parent shouldn't affect your child's development
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:45
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sapovnela wrote:
no cause last week i literally saw a kid on a leash and was so confused that i had to triple check that i'm seeing things right
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:45
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liv wrote:
uhyre wrote:
liv wrote:
i think it’s ok it’s to prevents ur child from running away in crowded places or something. some parents are rly paranoid, better safe than sorry. i’ve only seen it done with toddlers
i can imagine like, a mall. a place full of other ppl where u definitely dont want ut kid running around freely. god knows how many csi episodes have started with that premise
yes it’s usually at malls. i’ve seen those kid leashes in person before lol they’re like decorated 
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:45
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uhyre wrote:
Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
liv wrote:
i think it’s ok it’s to prevents ur child from running away in crowded places or something. some parents are rly paranoid, better safe than sorry. i’ve only seen it done with toddlers
i can imagine like, a mall. a place full of other ppl where u definitely dont want ut kid running around freely. god knows how many csi episodes have started with that premise
nah your own insecurity as a parent shouldn't affect your child's development
give actual thoughts here i want to hear them
affect their development how
how does insecurity play into it
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:45
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liv wrote:
Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
liv wrote:
i think it’s ok it’s to prevents ur child from running away in crowded places or something. some parents are rly paranoid, better safe than sorry. i’ve only seen it done with toddlers
i can imagine like, a mall. a place full of other ppl where u definitely dont want ut kid running around freely. god knows how many csi episodes have started with that premise
nah your own insecurity as a parent shouldn't affect your child's development
it’s not like an actual dog leash and it doesn’t restrict them a lot. they’re still able to walk at their own pace freely. it’s probably only used on kids who have a tendency of running away and it’s usually babies/toddlers idk if they’ll even remember it
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:47
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Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
i can imagine like, a mall. a place full of other ppl where u definitely dont want ut kid running around freely. god knows how many csi episodes have started with that premise
nah your own insecurity as a parent shouldn't affect your child's development
give actual thoughts here i want to hear them
affect their development how
how does insecurity play into it
children learn to be confident by trying things out. this means doing things on their own and succeeding in doing so, or failing the first few times and then succeed. when parents constantly hover over their kids, they never learn to do things on their own, or make mistakes on their own and learn from them . which results in underdevelopment -> insecurity. which is why playing outside for example is so important (climbing trees, falling out of trees, learning that it might be dangerous to climb that high etc). so if you always hold your kids close in public - on a leash - you're essentially not trusting your kid or their decision making. if a kid runs away in public and gets lost, they will learn from that experience. not letting them learn from mistakes / trying things out is directly affecting their development
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:50
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uhyre wrote:
Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
Solar wrote:
nah your own insecurity as a parent shouldn't affect your child's development
give actual thoughts here i want to hear them
affect their development how
how does insecurity play into it
children learn to be confident by trying things out. this means doing things on their own and succeeding in doing so, or failing the first few times and then succeed. when parents constantly hover over their kids, they never learn to do things on their own, or make mistakes on their own and learn from them . which results in underdevelopment -> insecurity. which is why playing outside for example is so important (climbing trees, falling out of trees, learning that it might be dangerous to climb that high etc). so if you always hold your kids close in public - on a leash - you're essentially not trusting your kid or their decision making. if a kid runs away in public and gets lost, they will learn from that experience. not letting them learn from mistakes / trying things out is directly affecting their development
how does that differ from holding their hand
in ur in a mall, or in a crowded street, ur going to hold ur kids hand or even carry them
i dont see how this is different by this logic?

when ur saying "in public" ur not differing between walking next to the highway and a park, which also matter here
which i didnt specify in my original question bc id presume ppl would have to make their own perimeters for when they think its nonsense and when they think its ok
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:53
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uhyre wrote:
also specifying we are talking abt actual toddlers here, not 8 year olds
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:55
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MissLondon wrote:
uhyre wrote:
MissLondon wrote:
I think they’re used by cows
who are too lazy/fat to be bothered
chasing behind their kids.
Maybe it’s a cultural thing
because I never witness poc 
utilizing them
ive only ever heard/seen americans use them? like on social media. which is another reason i find it interesting
ive never even heard anyone talking abt child leashes here
Idk if it’s an American thing or not
but I’ve only seen white people utilizing them
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Date: 17-04-2022 12:55
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Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
give actual thoughts here i want to hear them
affect their development how
how does insecurity play into it
children learn to be confident by trying things out. this means doing things on their own and succeeding in doing so, or failing the first few times and then succeed. when parents constantly hover over their kids, they never learn to do things on their own, or make mistakes on their own and learn from them . which results in underdevelopment -> insecurity. which is why playing outside for example is so important (climbing trees, falling out of trees, learning that it might be dangerous to climb that high etc). so if you always hold your kids close in public - on a leash - you're essentially not trusting your kid or their decision making. if a kid runs away in public and gets lost, they will learn from that experience. not letting them learn from mistakes / trying things out is directly affecting their development
how does that differ from holding their hand
in ur in a mall, or in a crowded street, ur going to hold ur kids hand or even carry them
i dont see how this is different by this logic?

when ur saying "in public" ur not differing between walking next to the highway and a park, which also matter here
which i didnt specify in my original question bc id presume ppl would have to make their own perimeters for when they think its nonsense and when they think its ok
i feel like continuously holding a toddlers hand while walking is also not great . toddlers are capable of understanding requests and can follow their parents if they want to do so,, especially if you have a conversation beforehand explaining to them where you're going and what kind of behavior you expect from them - this gives them room to understand the situation, but also make their own choices. 
though, if the situation is truly dangerous (walking next to a highway i would think is dangerous and idk when u would ever walk next to a highway?? is that an american thing?) holding their hand is completely fine and understandable. a leash i find very dehumanizing though, why do that if you can just . hold their hand. 
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Date: 17-04-2022 13:01
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Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
also specifying we are talking abt actual toddlers here, not 8 year olds
toddlers actually have a lot of developing going on in making their own choices, saying no and exploring their identity - thats why puberty is also called the second puberty 
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Date: 17-04-2022 13:03
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uhyre wrote:
Solar wrote:
uhyre wrote:
Solar wrote:
children learn to be confident by trying things out. this means doing things on their own and succeeding in doing so, or failing the first few times and then succeed. when parents constantly hover over their kids, they never learn to do things on their own, or make mistakes on their own and learn from them . which results in underdevelopment -> insecurity. which is why playing outside for example is so important (climbing trees, falling out of trees, learning that it might be dangerous to climb that high etc). so if you always hold your kids close in public - on a leash - you're essentially not trusting your kid or their decision making. if a kid runs away in public and gets lost, they will learn from that experience. not letting them learn from mistakes / trying things out is directly affecting their development
how does that differ from holding their hand
in ur in a mall, or in a crowded street, ur going to hold ur kids hand or even carry them
i dont see how this is different by this logic?

when ur saying "in public" ur not differing between walking next to the highway and a park, which also matter here
which i didnt specify in my original question bc id presume ppl would have to make their own perimeters for when they think its nonsense and when they think its ok
i feel like continuously holding a toddlers hand while walking is also not great . toddlers are capable of understanding requests and can follow their parents if they want to do so,, especially if you have a conversation beforehand explaining to them where you're going and what kind of behavior you expect from them - this gives them room to understand the situation, but also make their own choices. 
though, if the situation is truly dangerous (walking next to a highway i would think is dangerous and idk when u would ever walk next to a highway?? is that an american thing?) holding their hand is completely fine and understandable. a leash i find very dehumanizing though, why do that if you can just . hold their hand.
it was just the first road name i thought of which on second thought is completely wrong sljdhgfdkg
there are a lot of semi busy roads here that arent made for walking by but u kinda have to if u want to get somewhere, l
esp if u live in more open and or wooded areas

ok i can get behind that bc thats consistent at least
i just dont rly see a practical difference between holding their hand and having them on a leash in the situations where u would hold their hand, except for for the kid who would then still get to run around as they please within a certain radius and pick up rocks or whatever it is they do

i dont have toddlers in my life im running off the memories i have of being one
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Date: 17-04-2022 13:08
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Pixel wrote:
a little strange but I'm not a parent so I mind my business
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Date: 17-04-2022 13:09
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uhyre wrote:
i dont know what i think of it tbh like i see the practical reasonings behind it and i dont know if my reservations are simply bc i associate leashes with dogs and thus see them as dehumanizing

tho octomom and family have my full endorsement for doing it no matter what imagine taking 8 three year olds for a walk down the road i would leash them to each other and get a herding dog
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Date: 17-04-2022 13:12
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