Eostre wrote:thog2 wrote:
the civil sorry! not dealing w the issue! what does it mean
I literally cannot figure ur goal like u don't even seem sure if it is genuine, and to me at least its like if u r gonna reconnect At all with someone you've had a fall out with, it would require an apology, not a question to be civil.Β
You mention you used to pride yourself on being peaceful and always righting wrongs (perfectionist) and now you haven't. It must be a new, sorta ugly feeling to sit with. I wonder what your goal is then, to obtain the normal decency (civility) of strangers who share a space, or to reconnect beyond that, eg a friendship, acquaintances - something which would require an apology and for it to be accepted ofc. to even start rebuilding, or to agree on common terms of communication.Β
Civil can be a way to sweep some of ur discomfort under the rug and it won't settle the "dispute" in any real way.Β
i think most of the time i want to apologize but also somehow try to respect the other person's feelings by asking to stay civil instead of pushing a friendship on themΒ