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Finding the right words of sympathy during a time of loss can be difficult. We want to say the right thing to help someone who is grieving. Although you may worry about the other person, it is easier than you may think to comfort a grieving friend or relative. A sympathy card or heart-to-heart talk can be just the right thing. Those who are grieving simply feel thankful that you care, and that you take the time to comfort them. We are often hesitant to express our sympathy because of our fear of sounding artificial. This is a good choice; choosing your words of sympathy carefully will both impact the meaning to the receiver and also clarify your feelings. I really encourage you to take time before you give your condolences.
Often, just being there helps immensely. Offer to be with them if they need someone to talk to or stay the night. Do enjoyable things with them such as making a lunch date so that they can talk about their feelings. Being there to listen and offer words of sympathy can offer so much comfort after a funeral. Don't be afraid or feel awkward about showing your sympathy out of fear you may say something inappropriate. You may not say anything at all, which may make you look like you do not care. Of course, you cannot take away the pain, but there are many things you can do to comfort a friend during their loss. It is so important to be there for someone that is feeling loss; I encourage you to listen to them and provide some helpful words of sympathy. - Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know that they are happy.