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Barbarella wrote:

hungover wrote:

Barbarella wrote:

hungover wrote:

That was me, I believe.

I also wrote in my post abt how I asked both my friend and their partner about how they felt, as I didn't want to overstep any boundaries. As I said, I believe it's about mutual respect? If they or their partner had told me they felt uncomfortable, I would've stopped immediately.

Yeah I've had guy friends I've had relationships like that with, but if it bothered a partner I wouldn't do it - but there's a difference between telling a partner a behavior is bothering them and saying they can't be friends with their best friends anymore.

Exactly!

I've never understood how some people feel justified in wanting their partner to almost completely "isolate" themselves from their friends, just because they feel jealous.

Dating shouldn't mean you don't get to have any friends.
Just communicate? lol.

I've been that shitty girlfriend before when my partner was definitely cheating on me - being with someone you don't trust turns you into a version of yourself that you aren't proud of.
But if I was ever placed in that situation again? no man is worth becoming a monster for.

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Alam wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Dew wrote:
because straight men are incapable of being friends with women without wanting to fuck them and if they say otherwise they're lying LMAO

the girl best friend will jus be someone they hold a torch for and can't have

i read somewhere that men tend to falsely think that they're falling in love with their female friends because they're not used to getting that kind of affection from their male friends. (because it's considered gay for male friends to show any sort of affection)

and so they often can't tell the difference between romantic love and platonic love.

if that makes sense?

Nah men are just horny sex machines incapable of human emotion or platonic affection.

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hungover wrote:

Barbarella wrote:

hungover wrote:

Barbarella wrote:
Yeah I've had guy friends I've had relationships like that with, but if it bothered a partner I wouldn't do it - but there's a difference between telling a partner a behavior is bothering them and saying they can't be friends with their best friends anymore.

Exactly!

I've never understood how some people feel justified in wanting their partner to almost completely "isolate" themselves from their friends, just because they feel jealous.

Dating shouldn't mean you don't get to have any friends.
Just communicate? lol.

I've been that shitty girlfriend before when my partner was definitely cheating on me - being with someone you don't trust turns you into a version of yourself that you aren't proud of.
But if I was ever placed in that situation again? no man is worth becoming a monster for.

Yeah!
We love self-improvement! <3

Also I love your outfit, it gives me like, 80's Gym video vibes!

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Barbarella wrote:

hungover wrote:

Barbarella wrote:

hungover wrote:

Exactly!

I've never understood how some people feel justified in wanting their partner to almost completely "isolate" themselves from their friends, just because they feel jealous.

Dating shouldn't mean you don't get to have any friends.
Just communicate? lol.

I've been that shitty girlfriend before when my partner was definitely cheating on me - being with someone you don't trust turns you into a version of yourself that you aren't proud of.
But if I was ever placed in that situation again? no man is worth becoming a monster for.

Yeah!
We love self-improvement! <3

Also I love your outfit, it gives me like, 80's Gym video vibes!

Gettin' my Jane Fonda vibes straight with my new username hah

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Vintergatan wrote:

Alam wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Dew wrote:
because straight men are incapable of being friends with women without wanting to fuck them and if they say otherwise they're lying LMAO

the girl best friend will jus be someone they hold a torch for and can't have

i read somewhere that men tend to falsely think that they're falling in love with their female friends because they're not used to getting that kind of affection from their male friends. (because it's considered gay for male friends to show any sort of affection)

and so they often can't tell the difference between romantic love and platonic love.

if that makes sense?

Nah men are just horny sex machines incapable of human emotion or platonic affection.

disagree

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Vintergatan wrote:

Barbarella wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Dew wrote:
because straight men are incapable of being friends with women without wanting to fuck them and if they say otherwise they're lying LMAO

the girl best friend will jus be someone they hold a torch for and can't have

i read somewhere that men tend to falsely think that they're falling in love with their female friends because they're not used to getting that kind of affection from their male friends. (because it's considered gay for male friends to show any sort of affection)

and so they often can't tell the difference between romantic love and platonic love.

if that makes sense?

Don't date men who are too immature and emotionally undeveloped that they don't understand platonic love.
I'm gonna start using this line with my friends lol

in this case i wouldn't say it's about immaturity, and more so about toxic masculinity

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Alam wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Alam wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:
i read somewhere that men tend to falsely think that they're falling in love with their female friends because they're not used to getting that kind of affection from their male friends. (because it's considered gay for male friends to show any sort of affection)

and so they often can't tell the difference between romantic love and platonic love.

if that makes sense?

Nah men are just horny sex machines incapable of human emotion or platonic affection.

disagree

How dare you

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Vintergatan wrote:

Alam wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Alam wrote:
Nah men are just horny sex machines incapable of human emotion or platonic affection.

disagree

How dare you

idk bro i'm just like rly brave

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Babybel wrote:

Barbarella wrote:
haven't y'all ever been the harmless girl best friend in these scenarios?
like, if your dude is so untrustworthy, or you are so paranoid, that you can't let them have a girl best friend, then clearly the relationship is doomed and no amount of forcing them to dump their friends will save it.

i have been many times, and i always try to be friends with my firends gf's, and one of them i actually got really close to!

and my bf had/has a girl best friend it was fine since she has a bf aswell, but oh god my trust issues was all over the place.. i still dont trust her tho since she have never ever talked to me and tried to be my friend(like why? i always try to become friends with my best firends girlfriends to make sure they dont se me as a threat)
he has known her since they were kids tho so idk

ps. they dont talk that much anymore(mainly cus of me) but they used to talk a lot(buut so did i with my guy best friend, and yes i dont talk to him as much anymore soo yh)

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Barbarella wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Barbarella wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:
i read somewhere that men tend to falsely think that they're falling in love with their female friends because they're not used to getting that kind of affection from their male friends. (because it's considered gay for male friends to show any sort of affection)

and so they often can't tell the difference between romantic love and platonic love.

if that makes sense?

Don't date men who are too immature and emotionally undeveloped that they don't understand platonic love.
I'm gonna start using this line with my friends lol

in this case i wouldn't say it's about immaturity, and more so about toxic masculinity

Living in a day and age where toxic masculinity is such a prevalent subject, a man who is not seeing and addressing that in himself, and working to be a better man, is immature. Strong, mature adults, want to be better versions of themselves.

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Vintergatan wrote:

Barbarella wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Barbarella wrote:
Don't date men who are too immature and emotionally undeveloped that they don't understand platonic love.
I'm gonna start using this line with my friends lol

in this case i wouldn't say it's about immaturity, and more so about toxic masculinity

Living in a day and age where toxic masculinity is such a prevalent subject, a man who is not seeing and addressing that in himself, and working to be a better man, is immature. Strong, mature adults, want to be better versions of themselves.

easier said than done

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Barbarella wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

Barbarella wrote:

Vintergatan wrote:

in this case i wouldn't say it's about immaturity, and more so about toxic masculinity

Living in a day and age where toxic masculinity is such a prevalent subject, a man who is not seeing and addressing that in himself, and working to be a better man, is immature. Strong, mature adults, want to be better versions of themselves.

easier said than done

lol I'm not saying never date anyone who isn't a perfect version of themselves, that's insane.
But like, we should always be trying. Men and women.

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Barbarella wrote:
also this

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Vintergatan wrote:

Barbarella wrote:
also this

oof
do decorative books count?

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Alam wrote:

Barbarella wrote:
also this

x

Also if they don't have landlines.