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wug wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
thog2 wrote:
i remember when u and ouch said u just liked to eat iceberg salad just straight up just chew it like. and u mfs think i'm crazy for tea dip
you dip butter in tea it's not the same
how many times do i have to tell u i dont drink the tea!! !! !!
butter in tea
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Date: 19-03-2022 00:38
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Arthema wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
thog2 wrote:
i remember when u and ouch said u just liked to eat iceberg salad just straight up just chew it like. and u mfs think i'm crazy for tea dip
you dip butter in tea it's not the same
how many times do i have to tell u i dont drink the tea!! !! !!
so tea = dip?
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Date: 19-03-2022 00:38
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BloomCissi wrote:


Also, 22 pages??
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Date: 19-03-2022 00:39
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Abby wrote:
Okay I DID manage to read it after all

I was in a very similar spot actually in my high school years, I was genuinely the person who wanted to stay civil with as many ppl as I could so they won't bug me or be shit with me, but as time went by and I learned how shit most of the people around me were, it affected me so badly I was actually all high and diplomatic for my own gain, and used my femininity and brain to get what I wanted when I wanted it.

but the last 2 years of high school I learned that this shit will come back and bite me in the ass, SO hard I won't know how to deal with it, because the same was happening at that time, so as you're doing now, I tried learning wtf was going on with me, do I actually regret shit or I just know it's the right thing to do?
in the last year, I managed to understand some stuff and realized I do want to be civil with people like my exes, or friends that were on the verge of falling out because I WAS friends with them and I valued them a lot so I did want to try and salvage what there was left, but it was dumb of me as I pretty much made them used to that version of me and that's what they expected, so I had to cut all ties and just... keep going?

after a while I just learned to use this... idk I guess you can call it skill? in places where it actually matters and might help, so like job interviews, uni-related shit... but in addition to that, we all have interests, so it's important to not bash yourself over wanting something or having people by you, it's natural and very human, nothing wrong with it, you just need to learn to respect them and well, understand that they have wants and needs as well, so if you take, you need to give back.

in addition, realizing that sometimes you just can't salvage stuff, people, relationships... just can't.
sorry won't cut it, favors won't as well, gifts and affection won't cut the bill, they all might make em stay a bit longer but if it doesn't work, it just doesn't.
all you CAN do is I guess... respect them from afar? lmao

but yeah that is what I have to answer to that and what my brain is capable atm of writing  eehhh I need a salad or a snack rn
ur right bro u are

good salat time please don't add croutons
Date: 19-03-2022 00:39
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wrote:
Abby wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
you dip butter in tea it's not the same
how many times do i have to tell u i dont drink the tea!! !! !!
so tea = dip?
exactly what i been saying!
Date: 19-03-2022 00:39
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wug wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Abby wrote:
thog2 wrote:
how many times do i have to tell u i dont drink the tea!! !! !!
so tea = dip?
exactly what i been saying!
holiday dip 
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Date: 19-03-2022 00:40
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misjel wrote:
BloomCissi wrote:


Also, 22 pages??
butter in tea
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wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
you dip butter in tea it's not the same
how many times do i have to tell u i dont drink the tea!! !! !!
butter in tea
butter in tea  once ur done w the sandwich just throw the tea away and brew new one
Date: 19-03-2022 00:40
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thog2 wrote:
Eostre wrote:
It is also normal in all relationships to give and take. Is a request for something or a preferance manipulative? You do enforce a will and a point of view that other migh not agree with. We all have an agenda and different opinions which requires different ways of phrasing and argumentation that highlight the benefits of that pov. So when does it become manipulative? From being a give, take, and let-be
-given dynamic of a relationship to harmful? A relationship where ppl don't feel like they are equally treated normally don't balance our well long-term. If you're sick, you often need to rely on other ppl harder for a while until you've regained your fotting. That is not manipulative, but it does if you start using it against other people or to excuse your actions so you don't have to take responsibility even if you didn't mean it. Hard times may make us act ugly, but we do get to apologizes and learn from it even when that ugly is a long time. Even if we repeat it. We might burn bridges in the process, that's life, but you might also find people who stick with you through it. 

Also, everyone does things for personal gains. Friendships are personal gains (survival, pack), but they are also what you share and each contribute with to the community. Personal gains are not always bad things, but they more often are when you add in other motivations like explotation for own benefit. That becomes a whole lot of take and a whole little of giving. Relationships are reciprocal. 

Like I don't know ur situation well enough to tell u what to do, but don't overthink the motivations of these dynamics and their roots. Figure what u did wrong, work on that if there's a truth to it, and figure how u want to proceed with those situations. You know what you need to do best. 
goddaum.. ur indeed right mate >_< ..
Good night 
Date: 19-03-2022 00:40
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misjel wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
thog2 wrote:
how many times do i have to tell u i dont drink the tea!! !! !!
butter in tea
butter in tea  once ur done w the sandwich just throw the tea away and brew new one
wasteful
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Maxolotl wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Abby wrote:
so tea = dip?
exactly what i been saying!
holiday dip 
i should try adding tortillas in tea now
Date: 19-03-2022 00:40
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wug wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
thog2 wrote:
how many times do i have to tell u i dont drink the tea!! !! !!
butter in tea
butter in tea  once ur done w the sandwich just throw the tea away and brew new one
i don't eat bread often it's too much effort 
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Date: 19-03-2022 00:41
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wug wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Maxolotl wrote:
thog2 wrote:
exactly what i been saying!
holiday dip 
i should try adding tortillas in tea now
no
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Date: 19-03-2022 00:41
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BloomCissi wrote:
Misjel wrote:
BloomCissi wrote:


Also, 22 pages??
butter in tea
Is that what you've been talking about for 22 pages??
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Date: 19-03-2022 00:41
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wrote:
Eostre wrote:
thog2 wrote:
Eostre wrote:
It is also normal in all relationships to give and take. Is a request for something or a preferance manipulative? You do enforce a will and a point of view that other migh not agree with. We all have an agenda and different opinions which requires different ways of phrasing and argumentation that highlight the benefits of that pov. So when does it become manipulative? From being a give, take, and let-be
-given dynamic of a relationship to harmful? A relationship where ppl don't feel like they are equally treated normally don't balance our well long-term. If you're sick, you often need to rely on other ppl harder for a while until you've regained your fotting. That is not manipulative, but it does if you start using it against other people or to excuse your actions so you don't have to take responsibility even if you didn't mean it. Hard times may make us act ugly, but we do get to apologizes and learn from it even when that ugly is a long time. Even if we repeat it. We might burn bridges in the process, that's life, but you might also find people who stick with you through it. 

Also, everyone does things for personal gains. Friendships are personal gains (survival, pack), but they are also what you share and each contribute with to the community. Personal gains are not always bad things, but they more often are when you add in other motivations like explotation for own benefit. That becomes a whole lot of take and a whole little of giving. Relationships are reciprocal. 

Like I don't know ur situation well enough to tell u what to do, but don't overthink the motivations of these dynamics and their roots. Figure what u did wrong, work on that if there's a truth to it, and figure how u want to proceed with those situations. You know what you need to do best. 
goddaum.. ur indeed right mate >_< ..
Good night 
guten nacht, i did read it all no worries... i'm not sure if i'm yet ready to break out of my current thought process but your points make perfect sense to me too yes
Date: 19-03-2022 00:41
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