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misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:

Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:
i should encourage myself to just go and seek people to talk to but i also am kinda torn between "getting out of my comfort zone" and just accepting that im a quiet introverted solitary freak and always have been (my mom always tells me about how as a toddler i hated guests at home and would cry, and i vividly remember hating social situations involving big groups of people, obviously i'm a whole adult now therefore much easier to handle those) and it's okay to be like that and i just go live my life being a weirdo bitch who watches gay anime u kno . smh it's a dilemma

Question is did you enjoy having english speaking friends in school before? It’s not like your only options are to love large gatherings or to live in solitary. When it comes to childhood I assume how your parents encouraged you to interact also plays a part in how you see social interactions blabla

yes!! it was nice. i heard there's a portuguese girl in the school i'm going to and ALSO i heard some girls speaking in english in the park in front of the school so maybe !! maybe i wont be so solitary when i start going there.
yes my mom just used to be like "oh she's very shy hahahha" and then tell me to go, so i think getting the affirmation that i'm shy + not having to sit through it did program me to be very avoidant and almost indifferent to socialization. i think i socialize because i want to maintain friendships, bc if i happened to forget abt that i would be a complete hermit i think, likely more unhinged than i currently am but

!! Right there we have your sign that you do like socializing, hope your find your group of english speakers!!!
Sadge ur mom just didn’t know better but you can work towards being more social :]

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Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:

Misjel wrote:
Question is did you enjoy having english speaking friends in school before? It’s not like your only options are to love large gatherings or to live in solitary. When it comes to childhood I assume how your parents encouraged you to interact also plays a part in how you see social interactions blabla

yes!! it was nice. i heard there's a portuguese girl in the school i'm going to and ALSO i heard some girls speaking in english in the park in front of the school so maybe !! maybe i wont be so solitary when i start going there.
yes my mom just used to be like "oh she's very shy hahahha" and then tell me to go, so i think getting the affirmation that i'm shy + not having to sit through it did program me to be very avoidant and almost indifferent to socialization. i think i socialize because i want to maintain friendships, bc if i happened to forget abt that i would be a complete hermit i think, likely more unhinged than i currently am but

!! Right there we have your sign that you do like socializing, hope your find your group of english speakers!!!
Sadge ur mom just didn’t know better but you can work towards being more social :]

true! thank u for the motivation estp chadder

what about u tho. i didnt read the whole thread

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misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:
also i do care abt my friends hello! but yes . i am out of my edgelord era i'm nice guys believe me

Yes i believe you

speaking of edgelord i hade to balance our my edgyness vibes this week

Wednesday this week i went to school in full and i quote my friend: “twilight that tumblr girl i read books and think abt sad things nobody understands me outfit” so i compensated by going to the school with a bright yellow coat the day after
🤙 don’t think anybody cared but it was funny for me cx

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Rotte wrote:
Both and also in groups, but it depends who is in the group too though.

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Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:
also i do care abt my friends hello! but yes . i am out of my edgelord era i'm nice guys believe me

Yes i believe you

speaking of edgelord i hade to balance our my edgyness vibes this week

Wednesday this week i went to school in full and i quote my friend: “twilight that tumblr girl i read books and think abt sad things nobody understands me outfit” so i compensated by going to the school with a bright yellow coat the day after
🤙 don’t think anybody cared but it was funny for me cx

omg awwwww.. yes need to balance the vibes so everyone thinks ur vibes are all aligned and centered mhm, no extreme vibes here u kno

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over text msgs but only with people i already know super well

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MasileinDE wrote:
online usually more thank offline since offline you feel awkwardness faster and online I have no sensor for it at all
also smaller groups work best for me irl, but online that really doesn't factor in
actually, I think the utmost talkative I'm when I'm on my own (no one judge but I talk a lot to myself)

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MissLondon wrote:

Misjel wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
I don’t have a problem
talking to anyone
but I prefer offline
because people are
less apt to misunderstand
Although I used to be shy
I don’t engage with those who are
because most times I’m not willing
to put forth the energy
to pull them out of their shell.

understandable, carrying a conversation takes energy as well, i think back to that vc session we had before and i’m regretting that i didn’t talk as much. it’s just so wack with vc cause you feel like you’re gonna interrupt someone if you speak

I enjoyed the chat
and I get what you mean
except I felt that at times
i was over talking lol

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Misjel wrote:

bones wrote:
offline
with my cats

Do you meow with your cats or speak in peasant human language

both

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misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:

Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:
yes!! it was nice. i heard there's a portuguese girl in the school i'm going to and ALSO i heard some girls speaking in english in the park in front of the school so maybe !! maybe i wont be so solitary when i start going there.
yes my mom just used to be like "oh she's very shy hahahha" and then tell me to go, so i think getting the affirmation that i'm shy + not having to sit through it did program me to be very avoidant and almost indifferent to socialization. i think i socialize because i want to maintain friendships, bc if i happened to forget abt that i would be a complete hermit i think, likely more unhinged than i currently am but

!! Right there we have your sign that you do like socializing, hope your find your group of english speakers!!!
Sadge ur mom just didn’t know better but you can work towards being more social :]

true! thank u for the motivation estp chadder

what about u tho. i didnt read the whole thread

Copy pasting what i wrote before

- anywhere, i talk anywhere, although it's not possible to interrupt people online so that might be a thing
- extrovert, i like talking in groups because it's more casual, but 1-1 is nice too since you can deep dive into topics, but then it also depends on the person
- If many people talk at once i'll just lay back and listen whilst if it gets quiet i'll initiate something

i used to be reaallly shy up (but still a crazy mf) until maybe 6th grade, i didn’t rly wanna take up some space or interrupt people (which still is a thing for me) i think my friends did play a large part in me getting more extroverted like now i’m the most extroverted in the circle, complimenting strangers? Asking the cafe people for recommendations? Asking for directions? initiating smalltalk? You name it i do it😎 except for calling when it’s for myself

my mom did call me shy as a kid but i was always the polite kid who said hello __ and thank you etc so no time to be megahidebehindthelegskindashy and she also forced me to go buy stuff at the registers etc so i’ve been exposed since childhood

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misjel wrote:

MasileinDE wrote:
online usually more thank offline since offline you feel awkwardness faster and online I have no sensor for it at all
also smaller groups work best for me irl, but online that really doesn't factor in
actually, I think the utmost talkative I'm when I'm on my own (no one judge but I talk a lot to myself)

Hahah i think it’s cool when people talk to themselves

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misjel wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Misjel wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
I don’t have a problem
talking to anyone
but I prefer offline
because people are
less apt to misunderstand
Although I used to be shy
I don’t engage with those who are
because most times I’m not willing
to put forth the energy
to pull them out of their shell.

understandable, carrying a conversation takes energy as well, i think back to that vc session we had before and i’m regretting that i didn’t talk as much. it’s just so wack with vc cause you feel like you’re gonna interrupt someone if you speak

I enjoyed the chat
and I get what you mean
except I felt that at times
i was over talking lol

I enjoyed it as well! It was great to have you in the chat, i don’t think anyone that evening (for me evening) would disagree

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misjel wrote:

bones wrote:

Misjel wrote:

bones wrote:
offline
with my cats

Do you meow with your cats or speak in peasant human language

both

Great mix😎

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Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:

Misjel wrote:
!! Right there we have your sign that you do like socializing, hope your find your group of english speakers!!!
Sadge ur mom just didn’t know better but you can work towards being more social :]

true! thank u for the motivation estp chadder

what about u tho. i didnt read the whole thread

Copy pasting what i wrote before

- anywhere, i talk anywhere, although it's not possible to interrupt people online so that might be a thing
- extrovert, i like talking in groups because it's more casual, but 1-1 is nice too since you can deep dive into topics, but then it also depends on the person
- If many people talk at once i'll just lay back and listen whilst if it gets quiet i'll initiate something

i used to be reaallly shy up (but still a crazy mf) until maybe 6th grade, i didn’t rly wanna take up some space or interrupt people (which still is a thing for me) i think my friends did play a large part in me getting more extroverted like now i’m the most extroverted in the circle, complimenting strangers? Asking the cafe people for recommendations? Asking for directions? initiating smalltalk? You name it i do it😎 except for calling when it’s for myself

my mom did call me shy as a kid but i was always the polite kid who said hello __ and thank you etc so no time to be megahidebehindthelegskindashy and she also forced me to go buy stuff at the registers etc so i’ve been exposed since childhood

talking in groups.. a power i cannot fathom, only like groups of 3-5 people are acceptable, my own mom and sister exclude me from the conversation pls

aw that's really nice i'm glad your friends encouraged you enough yes, i stan extrovert life. maybe i should start complimenting ppl cus i sometimes see someone w nice hair and i stare at it instead pls

im glad ur mom forced u to do so!!
i really only stopped being "avoidant" (like.. asking stuff at the counter avoidant, not necessarily avoiding it but i used to be anxious before doing it) when i turned 17-18

! aka after restrictions lifts and a little more brain development, so i am freshly out of the shell now lmao

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Alam wrote:
Online I guess but I'm not exactly shy irl. Still better in pairs than groups, I don't like being in groups, it's stressful and exhausting.