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Hmm
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hmm wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

hmm wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:
my sister is sad and crying which makes me sad and cry = empathy, u see some random ppl going to a funeral and u think to urself aw that's sad but u don't actually feel sad = sympathy, is that correct ??

yes (allegedly)

hmmmmmmmmmm then i agree i have no sympathy either

all i've been saying lately sounds so hopelessly chronically online it's so funny but i ought to just accept it and own it lmao
sometimes i can't even tell if i'm lying to myself or if i genuinely feel things, i do i think?! but if i weren't concerned abt being viewed as a bad person would i still care to feel it.. i think i would still care honestly. but surprisingly when i was younger i was even worse than now lol i'm glad my brain is kinda creating some decent neurons smh

Private
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autism wrote:

XxMiSSswagdripxX wrote:
why are we treating low empathy as a mental disorder or smth here

been wondering the same

Private
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misjel wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:
my sister is sad and crying which makes me sad and cry = empathy, u see some random ppl going to a funeral and u think to urself aw that's sad but u don't actually feel sad = sympathy, is that correct ??

but u recognize it as a sad thing? isn't that sympathy

Precious
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Precious wrote:
ok i hate this game

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Abbys wrote:

bones wrote:
ur issue seems to be more that you dont see others on the internet as real ppl so

1. get off the internet
2. get an actual human connection

that is a very good point actually

Abbys
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Abbys wrote:
but i don't feel empathetic towards people (offline) either, unless i personally know them.

when the school shooting in texas happened (uvalade), i remember talking to someone about it irl (to be fair, they were female + had kids) but she just started literally crying when talking to me about it because she felt so bad for the dead kids and their family.

it feels as if i'm lacking something. obviously i would feel terrible if i personally knew any of the victims but still, i want to feel more human.

Private
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Suchomimus wrote:

XxMiSSswagdripxX wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:
my sister is sad and crying which makes me sad and cry = empathy, u see some random ppl going to a funeral and u think to urself aw that's sad but u don't actually feel sad = sympathy, is that correct ??

but u recognize it as a sad thing? isn't that sympathy

but i don't have the thought that it is sad myself, other people around me will go, aw that's sad isn't it, n i'll say yea bc i don't want ppl to hate me but really i think nothing of it at all does that make sense idk

Pavlov
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Pavlov wrote:
male brain wiring innit

Hmm
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hmm wrote:

Pavlov wrote:
male brain wiring innit

it's exactly what i was gonna say lol

Pavlov
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Pavlov wrote:

Pavlov wrote:
male brain wiring innit

i dont think women counts as the average person women are weird

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Abbys wrote:
but i don't feel empathetic towards people (offline) either, unless i personally know them.

when the school shooting in texas happened (uvalade), i remember talking to someone about it irl (to be fair, they were female + had kids) but she just started literally crying when talking to me about it because she felt so bad for the dead kids and their family.

it feels as if i'm lacking something. obviously i would feel terrible if i personally knew any of the victims but still, i want to feel more human.

there is always the school of moral philosophy that will argue that the farther we are distanced from the person or happening experiencing something, the less we care about it. we do not have the capacity to care about everything or everyone, so the people we are closer to and who make a real impact in our lives - those we normally care for first and the strongest. so a online stranger on the other side would be quite far away from lets say a sister or parental figure.

and you also got just the mood of being used to reading bad news and watching horrible things go down so we start reacting less to it bc it has become more normalized to us.

to be fair, i do not feel much for school shootings in the us. like i can't affect them. yes they are bad, and yes i wish they didn't happen. but it's not like i stop my day to cry about something half a world away. maybe i'll shed a tear if i go in and decide to really read up on the details on it, but it's not good for me so i don't. onthe other hand, when it was closer to home like Utøya in 2011, I was definitively just in shock and crying bc it felt so much closer and i actually experienced the impact of it on the ppl around me and society in genereal..

Parasite
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Parasite wrote:

Abbys wrote:
but i don't feel empathetic towards people (offline) either, unless i personally know them.

when the school shooting in texas happened (uvalade), i remember talking to someone about it irl (to be fair, they were female + had kids) but she just started literally crying when talking to me about it because she felt so bad for the dead kids and their family.

it feels as if i'm lacking something. obviously i would feel terrible if i personally knew any of the victims but still, i want to feel more human.

Not everyone needs to cry over an event that happened far from them. That's not abnormal, some people have a very high sense of empathy compared to others and not crying doesn't make you a bad person. If you feel for them in anyway like knowing how terrible the event was then that's fine.

Alam
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Alam wrote:

autism wrote:
why would low empathy make one mean

Yeah you'd think it'd make you apathetic

Abbys
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Abbys wrote:

Parasite wrote:

Abbys wrote:
but i don't feel empathetic towards people (offline) either, unless i personally know them.

when the school shooting in texas happened (uvalade), i remember talking to someone about it irl (to be fair, they were female + had kids) but she just started literally crying when talking to me about it because she felt so bad for the dead kids and their family.

it feels as if i'm lacking something. obviously i would feel terrible if i personally knew any of the victims but still, i want to feel more human.

Not everyone needs to cry over an event that happened far from them. That's not abnormal, some people have a very high sense of empathy compared to others and not crying doesn't make you a bad person. If you feel for them in anyway like knowing how terrible the event was then that's fine.

i don't want to be on either extreme ends. i'm not saying that i want to cry over every little thing but it would be nice to feel something

Abbys
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Abbys wrote:

Eostre wrote:

Abbys wrote:
but i don't feel empathetic towards people (offline) either, unless i personally know them.

when the school shooting in texas happened (uvalade), i remember talking to someone about it irl (to be fair, they were female + had kids) but she just started literally crying when talking to me about it because she felt so bad for the dead kids and their family.

it feels as if i'm lacking something. obviously i would feel terrible if i personally knew any of the victims but still, i want to feel more human.

there is always the school of moral philosophy that will argue that the farther we are distanced from the person or happening experiencing something, the less we care about it. we do not have the capacity to care about everything or everyone, so the people we are closer to and who make a real impact in our lives - those we normally care for first and the strongest. so a online stranger on the other side would be quite far away from lets say a sister or parental figure.

and you also got just the mood of being used to reading bad news and watching horrible things go down so we start reacting less to it bc it has become more normalized to us.

to be fair, i do not feel much for school shootings in the us. like i can't affect them. yes they are bad, and yes i wish they didn't happen. but it's not like i stop my day to cry about something half a world away. maybe i'll shed a tear if i go in and decide to really read up on the details on it, but it's not good for me so i don't. onthe other hand, when it was closer to home like Utøya in 2011, I was definitively just in shock and crying bc it felt so much closer and i actually experienced the impact of it on the ppl around me and society in genereal..

that is right. that's why so many ask themselves "how can this parent empathize with their kid who murdered someone in coldblood, if it was my kid, i would want them dead" but how many of the people who say that would actually stick with their morals if it indeed was their child to committed the murder? NOOOT many.