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MissLondon
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MissLondon wrote:

Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:

Misjel wrote:
!! Right there we have your sign that you do like socializing, hope your find your group of english speakers!!!
Sadge ur mom just didn’t know better but you can work towards being more social :]

true! thank u for the motivation estp chadder

what about u tho. i didnt read the whole thread

Copy pasting what i wrote before

- anywhere, i talk anywhere, although it's not possible to interrupt people online so that might be a thing
- extrovert, i like talking in groups because it's more casual, but 1-1 is nice too since you can deep dive into topics, but then it also depends on the person
- If many people talk at once i'll just lay back and listen whilst if it gets quiet i'll initiate something

i used to be reaallly shy up (but still a crazy mf) until maybe 6th grade, i didn’t rly wanna take up some space or interrupt people (which still is a thing for me) i think my friends did play a large part in me getting more extroverted like now i’m the most extroverted in the circle, complimenting strangers? Asking the cafe people for recommendations? Asking for directions? initiating smalltalk? You name it i do it😎 except for calling when it’s for myself

my mom did call me shy as a kid but i was always the polite kid who said hello __ and thank you etc so no time to be megahidebehindthelegskindashy and she also forced me to go buy stuff at the registers etc so i’ve been exposed since childhood

Complimenting strangers?!?!?
I LOVE YOU BECAUSE I DO NOT
UNDERSTAND WHY OTHER
PEOPLE DON’T GET IT!!!

I’m the same and friends would
comment on it
but if someone has a nice smile
cute outfit, smells good whatever etc
i feel compelled to tell them
idc if idk the person lol

Private
Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:
online
1-1
with people I know or find interesting

Private
World Famous

misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:

Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:
true! thank u for the motivation estp chadder

what about u tho. i didnt read the whole thread

Copy pasting what i wrote before

- anywhere, i talk anywhere, although it's not possible to interrupt people online so that might be a thing
- extrovert, i like talking in groups because it's more casual, but 1-1 is nice too since you can deep dive into topics, but then it also depends on the person
- If many people talk at once i'll just lay back and listen whilst if it gets quiet i'll initiate something

i used to be reaallly shy up (but still a crazy mf) until maybe 6th grade, i didn’t rly wanna take up some space or interrupt people (which still is a thing for me) i think my friends did play a large part in me getting more extroverted like now i’m the most extroverted in the circle, complimenting strangers? Asking the cafe people for recommendations? Asking for directions? initiating smalltalk? You name it i do it😎 except for calling when it’s for myself

my mom did call me shy as a kid but i was always the polite kid who said hello __ and thank you etc so no time to be megahidebehindthelegskindashy and she also forced me to go buy stuff at the registers etc so i’ve been exposed since childhood

talking in groups.. a power i cannot fathom, only like groups of 3-5 people are acceptable, my own mom and sister exclude me from the conversation pls

aw that's really nice i'm glad your friends encouraged you enough yes, i stan extrovert life. maybe i should start complimenting ppl cus i sometimes see someone w nice hair and i stare at it instead pls

im glad ur mom forced u to do so!!
i really only stopped being "avoidant" (like.. asking stuff at the counter avoidant, not necessarily avoiding it but i used to be anxious before doing it) when i turned 17-18

! aka after restrictions lifts and a little more brain development, so i am freshly out of the shell now lmao

pain pain pain

Yeees, it was mostly in the form of "hello we are here you are nice" which gave me a baseline to be more extrovert if you get what i mean. Speaking of which i had besties before that as well but different dynamics in elementary school i guess

Yes do it!! If it's hard to do the first time you could keep it brief like approach with a smile, compliment then walk away, no time for awkwardness. Once you get used to it it's gonna be great :-D

One step at a time I'm proud of you let's keep it up and embrace the se

Private
World Famous

misjel wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Misjel wrote:

thog2 wrote:
true! thank u for the motivation estp chadder

what about u tho. i didnt read the whole thread

Copy pasting what i wrote before

- anywhere, i talk anywhere, although it's not possible to interrupt people online so that might be a thing
- extrovert, i like talking in groups because it's more casual, but 1-1 is nice too since you can deep dive into topics, but then it also depends on the person
- If many people talk at once i'll just lay back and listen whilst if it gets quiet i'll initiate something

i used to be reaallly shy up (but still a crazy mf) until maybe 6th grade, i didn’t rly wanna take up some space or interrupt people (which still is a thing for me) i think my friends did play a large part in me getting more extroverted like now i’m the most extroverted in the circle, complimenting strangers? Asking the cafe people for recommendations? Asking for directions? initiating smalltalk? You name it i do it😎 except for calling when it’s for myself

my mom did call me shy as a kid but i was always the polite kid who said hello __ and thank you etc so no time to be megahidebehindthelegskindashy and she also forced me to go buy stuff at the registers etc so i’ve been exposed since childhood

Complimenting strangers?!?!?
I LOVE YOU BECAUSE I DO NOT
UNDERSTAND WHY OTHER
PEOPLE DON’T GET IT!!!

I’m the same and friends would
comment on it
but if someone has a nice smile
cute outfit, smells good whatever etc
i feel compelled to tell them
idc if idk the person lol

hahhahahah I think it's a nice thing like if you think someone's outfit is cute why stop yourself when telling someone could make their day a little nicer!!

Klavier
Minister of Pop

Klavier wrote:

Misjel wrote:
emle is kantig till someone initiates a conversation

just waiting for permission to speak

Private
World Famous

misjel wrote:

Klavier wrote:

Misjel wrote:
emle is kantig till someone initiates a conversation

just waiting for permission to speak

now if you were meeting up with embla who'll speak first

Talent
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talent wrote:
i talk way more online cause im not afraid of interrupting people cause its much harder to interrupt someone online. im still extroverted irl but i prefer listening and talk less than i do if i was typing

Private
World Famous

Selcouth wrote:
I feel more confident online, preferable 1:1. In groups usually I listen more of what they are saying. Irl I feel like people don't listen to what I'm saying, or they consider it boring. I had/have a lot of moments when people start doing something else or start talking about another things, interrupting me while I'm talking. It feels weird in many ways.

Private
World Famous

BloomCissi wrote:

Klavier wrote:
whnever and wherever someone talks to me first
introvert until communication is initiated from someone else, then tbe switch is flipped to extrovert
tho u wont see me approaching ppl i am not allowed to speak without permission

what about u miciel

Basically same. Though I don't turn into a fullblown extrovert.

Private
World Famous

misjel wrote:

talent wrote:
i talk way more online cause im not afraid of interrupting people cause its much harder to interrupt someone online. im still extroverted irl but i prefer listening and talk less than i do if i was typing

same handshakey except i still talk lots offline i talk i talk i talk

Private
World Famous

misjel wrote:

Selcouth wrote:
I feel more confident online, preferable 1:1. In groups usually I listen more of what they are saying. Irl I feel like people don't listen to what I'm saying, or they consider it boring. I had/have a lot of moments when people start doing something else or start talking about another things, interrupting me while I'm talking. It feels weird in many ways.

eek that's disrespectful is it with the same people?

Private
World Famous

misjel wrote:

BloomCissi wrote:

Klavier wrote:
whnever and wherever someone talks to me first
introvert until communication is initiated from someone else, then tbe switch is flipped to extrovert
tho u wont see me approaching ppl i am not allowed to speak without permission

what about u miciel

Basically same. Though I don't turn into a fullblown extrovert.

just bigbrain collectedvert

Private
World Famous

Selcouth wrote:

Misjel wrote:

Selcouth wrote:
I feel more confident online, preferable 1:1. In groups usually I listen more of what they are saying. Irl I feel like people don't listen to what I'm saying, or they consider it boring. I had/have a lot of moments when people start doing something else or start talking about another things, interrupting me while I'm talking. It feels weird in many ways.

eek that's disrespectful is it with the same people?

Yes. I don't have a big circle of people I'm talking to or interacting. It happens a lot with the people from work and it used to happen in my family as well, my sister and father were doing that. Now not as much as before to be honest.

Mimi309
International Star

mimi309 wrote:
any time someone initiates a conversation tbh. i am extroverted and talkative and i even like small talk with random people but i rarely initiate the conversation

Battlefield
National Star

battlefield wrote:
weirdly enough offline, but in a smaller group like 3-6