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Cheese
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Cheese wrote:
Rouya wrote:
also, why have you been recommended to go to therapy in the past? it sounds like other people out there seem to catch that there's something you need help with
i'm not sure! though, most people who have told me i'm mentally ill and should get help aren't the ones who are close to me. they just don't know me well enough to make assumptions like that so i don't take it very seriously
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Date: 09-11-2021 18:26
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idk if i remember incorrect but havent u also been against therapy 
what no, only my therapist was a bitch and a hoe
we dont like therapists who are bitches and hoes
Bitches and hoes don't exist because the hoes know Bo's a feminist
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have u tried taking yass pills?
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Rouya wrote:
Terrified wrote:
storkuk wrote:
Rouya wrote:
i agree get therapy. have you actually tried talking with a therapist? a lot of the time when people say "therapy doesnt work for me" it's just bc they had a therapist they didn't click with. it's not the therapy that isn't working, it's the chemistry between you and the therapist. find a therapist you feel understands you and is able to help

also im not saying this because you're supposedly a racist, im saying this because it sounds like you have mental problems. no hate
no, i never tried therapy. but i have been recommended to go to therapy in the past so i have looked it up and i don't see how it would be beneficial to me

i don't think i have mental problems, i just think i'm very closed minded and childish (it's my way or the highway! type of deal)
therapy could still be an option even in the absence of evident mental problems. if you're really trying to grow out of your mindset but can't do it on your own and have the means for it, getting professional help could possibly be helpful
i agree with this
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Date: 09-11-2021 18:27
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kalypso wrote:
Terrified wrote:
kalypso wrote:
Terrified wrote:
why
idk if i remember incorrect but havent u also been against therapy 
what no, only my therapist was a bitch and a hoe
im confused
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Date: 09-11-2021 18:27
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kalypso wrote:
storkuk wrote:
Rouya wrote:
also, why have you been recommended to go to therapy in the past? it sounds like other people out there seem to catch that there's something you need help with
i'm not sure! though, most people who have told me i'm mentally ill and should get help aren't the ones who are close to me. they just don't know me well enough to make assumptions like that so i don't take it very seriously
you dont have to know good people to know if they probably need help 
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Date: 09-11-2021 18:29
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Rouya wrote:
storkuk wrote:
Rouya wrote:
also, why have you been recommended to go to therapy in the past? it sounds like other people out there seem to catch that there's something you need help with
i'm not sure! though, most people who have told me i'm mentally ill and should get help aren't the ones who are close to me. they just don't know me well enough to make assumptions like that so i don't take it very seriously
i think it's fair that you disregard the opinions of people who don't seem to mean well, but i also think that you should seriously consider seeking therapy to help you, since it does sound like you would benefit from it, if you find a therapist you like and the have the means for it. people can benefit from therapy no matter if they have mental problems or not - many people seek therapy to help them with every day life stuff, like relationship problems, issues at work/school etc., so you dont need to be mentally ill to seek help and therapy. i would recommend it a lot, and i would also just say, don't get discouraged if you don't find a therapist you like at first, just drop them and find a new one, if you don't feel like they understand you
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Date: 09-11-2021 18:30
Cheese
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Cheese wrote:
Rouya wrote:
storkuk wrote:
Rouya wrote:
i have had a very black/white mindset as well (not in a racist way tho lol), having a hard time understanding anything that's different from me, but having an open mindset and a curiosity towards understanding what's different, asking open questions and being willing to try to understand differences between you and others is what's going to help you change. saying "i cant change" is what's keeping you stuck like this. if you dont want to seek therapy, then at least try to ask yourself why you are so convinced you can't change. do you not want to change, is that it? or do you have no self-confidence in your ability to change? are you scared of change? do something about it
that's exactly how i feel too! it's not that i don't want to understand, it's that i just don't. i'm also open-minded in a sense that i'm a curious person and i love to gather information about just about anything. i would never say no to a conversation to someone who isn't like  me, it's just that i have a problem with them for not being like me. does that make sense?
yes. the thing with having a problem with things and people being different from you, is a problem though, and is what i would recommend seeking therapy for. because it's going to be difficult living in a world where many things and people are different from you, if you have a problem with it. i have had a difficulty understanding things different from me because i'm autistic and for many years could just not empathise with others. but to help with that, you just have to seek to understand the things that make you different, and try to find some common ground with the people, who you think seem so different from you. in many cases you will find that you are more similar to a lot of people than you would have imagined, who you might think you have nothing in common with. but you also won't have something in common with everyone in the world, and that is okay, and you have to accept that, you know?
you're right but i'm able to function. i'm doing ok! it's all in my head, after all. it's not like having this mind-set makes me unhappy. if there were more consequences for myself (or others) i would probably be more into the idea of getting into therapy but for now, i'm alright. i'm not autistic nor do i have problems empathizing with others. it's just, idk, in my head something "weird" according to society
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Date: 09-11-2021 18:31
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Rouya wrote:
storkuk wrote:
Rouya wrote:
storkuk wrote:
that's exactly how i feel too! it's not that i don't want to understand, it's that i just don't. i'm also open-minded in a sense that i'm a curious person and i love to gather information about just about anything. i would never say no to a conversation to someone who isn't like  me, it's just that i have a problem with them for not being like me. does that make sense?
yes. the thing with having a problem with things and people being different from you, is a problem though, and is what i would recommend seeking therapy for. because it's going to be difficult living in a world where many things and people are different from you, if you have a problem with it. i have had a difficulty understanding things different from me because i'm autistic and for many years could just not empathise with others. but to help with that, you just have to seek to understand the things that make you different, and try to find some common ground with the people, who you think seem so different from you. in many cases you will find that you are more similar to a lot of people than you would have imagined, who you might think you have nothing in common with. but you also won't have something in common with everyone in the world, and that is okay, and you have to accept that, you know?
you're right but i'm able to function. i'm doing ok! it's all in my head, after all. it's not like having this mind-set makes me unhappy. if there were more consequences for myself (or others) i would probably be more into the idea of getting into therapy but for now, i'm alright. i'm not autistic nor do i have problems empathizing with others. it's just, idk, in my head something "weird" according to society
well just because you're able to function, doesn't mean you don't need help. and it does really sound like you would benefit from therapy, because it seems like you're searching for some understanding of yourself, and a therapist would be able to help you with that. also, having a problem with people being different from you and being racist is definitely something that would justify seeking therapy
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Rouya wrote:
+ if you have a problem understanding and accepting people who are different from you, it sounds like you lack empathy. if you had a more developed sense of empathy, you most likely would not be having these issues. again, a therapist could help you with that. anyway, im all for therapy, i think you should seek help in one way or another and i think you should ask yourself why you are so biased against seeking help. does it make you seem week? why do you not think you need help? do you think only mentally ill people benefit from therapy? would you benefit from gaining a greater understanding of yourself? ask questions and be open to the answers you might find. don't get stuck in a one way track of thinking and claim yourself to be unable to change.
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Rouya wrote:
i dont have anymore to say on this, im gonna go play video games, i hope you take some of the replies in this thread to heart.
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Cheese
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Cheese wrote:
Rouya wrote:
+ if you have a problem understanding and accepting people who are different from you, it sounds like you lack empathy. if you had a more developed sense of empathy, you most likely would not be having these issues. again, a therapist could help you with that. anyway, im all for therapy, i think you should seek help in one way or another and i think you should ask yourself why you are so biased against seeking help. does it make you seem week? why do you not think you need help? do you think only mentally ill people benefit from therapy? would you benefit from gaining a greater understanding of yourself? ask questions and be open to the answers you might find. don't get stuck in a one way track of thinking and claim yourself to be unable to change.
it's hard for me to say that i have a genuine interest in trying therapy because that would mean that i would have to admit to myself that i'm at fault, i'm a problem and there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. i understand your comment about people without mental illnessess going to therapy but i don't see myself or my views as a problem because, again, "i'm right and anybody who disagrees is wrong". i have enough self-awareness to know that i'm being immature but i think it's just my personality

but to correct you on something, i'm actually very empathic as a person. i have a great understanding of other humans it's just that my brain goes "i don't like them". kind of like how you read a book. you are able to understand every sentences and meanings but the book itself, you do not like.

but i appreciate your passion about therapy. i can tell you have benefited a lot from it which is really cool!
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Date: 09-11-2021 18:44
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talent wrote:
storkuk wrote:
Rouya wrote:
+ if you have a problem understanding and accepting people who are different from you, it sounds like you lack empathy. if you had a more developed sense of empathy, you most likely would not be having these issues. again, a therapist could help you with that. anyway, im all for therapy, i think you should seek help in one way or another and i think you should ask yourself why you are so biased against seeking help. does it make you seem week? why do you not think you need help? do you think only mentally ill people benefit from therapy? would you benefit from gaining a greater understanding of yourself? ask questions and be open to the answers you might find. don't get stuck in a one way track of thinking and claim yourself to be unable to change.
it's hard for me to say that i have a genuine interest in trying therapy because that would mean that i would have to admit to myself that i'm at fault, i'm a problem and there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. i understand your comment about people without mental illnessess going to therapy but i don't see myself or my views as a problem because, again, "i'm right and anybody who disagrees is wrong". i have enough self-awareness to know that i'm being immature but i think it's just my personality

but to correct you on something, i'm actually very empathic as a person. i have a great understanding of other humans it's just that my brain goes "i don't like them". kind of like how you read a book. you are able to understand every sentences and meanings but the book itself, you do not like.

but i appreciate your passion about therapy. i can tell you have benefited a lot from it which is really cool!
comparing humans to books is imo lacking in empathy and the idea that other people have different lives and emotions and personalities. people are very different from books. social races are not genres, not every person belonging to that social race is the same, so to have a generalized negative opinion of someone based off of a factor that has 0.01% to do with who they are as a person isnt very empathetic
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