my bf called me a stupid wh*re - Forum

Aphrodite
World Famous

Aphrodite wrote:

Raquelle wrote:

Limited wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:
..... so then why were teams brought up in the convo

so when you bring up a team thing, it’s not a normal conversation? it’s just a normal conversation, nothing else.

You are abusing the power you have as a team member and the power you have to the potential applicant - Gilmore - by mentioning the teams and applications in the discussion completely unrelated to it. I really hope someone in the FT will have a discussion with you. This is Not the place.

In addition to this being on a team does not mean you have a sudden moderator position as well, that team is a whole another unit. This conversation in particular is NOT the place to have a discussion like this. Not at all.

Gilmore
World Famous

Gilmore wrote:

Limited wrote:

Gilmore wrote:

Limited wrote:
It’s a normal conversation, but oki

That's what I tried to tell you, but you kept saying that I didn't think about what I was writing and saying I was negative because I stated facts. Time for a reality check, maybe?

Yeah, im sorry. :c

Thanks, I'm sorry for dragging this on for too long in a COMPLETELY UNRELATED topic, but glad if you see my side now.

Hutsu
National Star

hutsu wrote:

Gilmore wrote:

hutsu wrote:

Gilmore wrote:
How long has this been going on? Has he always been like this? How long have you two been together? Don't answer if it's too much

i was abused in the past, met this guy whom i connected with, we had a lot on common and things were pretty magical at first. then i started remembering details of the past trauma which pretty much crippled me and he wanted to support me so badly that i told him pretty much every detail of the most horrible things ever happened to me. he never sought help and started showing ptsd-like symptoms from my trauma experiences, and there seem to be no boundaries on how far he will go to ease his own pain by hurting me. he keeps promising to get help but it's been 1.5 years and idk if it'll ever happen

anyway that's the tip of an iceberg

That sounds really rough. Keep in mind that it's not your fault and opening up is sometimes risky but always worth it. I hope you both get the help you need, although it seems you guys really should be apart while doing that.

Yeah I appreciate you not telling everything, after all it's your life and your issues and you have every right to keep it to yourself
Very brave to talk about it though!

thank you so much, i really appreciate your comments!!
it makes me feel kinda iffy when everyone seems to see my (ex) partner as some kind of a monster, i'm not writing these things to get him bashed. i love him to pieces but our relationship has become so dysfunctional that i am ranting about this on vp because i don't want to put my friends and family through this all the time.

Cult
Youtube Star

cult wrote:
no idea what's going on but i think you're aware it's not an ideal situation and that you need to get out of it. stay safe <3

Private
Princess of Pop

Limited wrote:

Gilmore wrote:

Limited wrote:

Gilmore wrote:
That's what I tried to tell you, but you kept saying that I didn't think about what I was writing and saying I was negative because I stated facts. Time for a reality check, maybe?

Yeah, im sorry. :c

Thanks, I'm sorry for dragging this on for too long in a COMPLETELY UNRELATED topic, but glad if you see my side now.

Yeah when i read all the pages i can see your point and im sorry that it took some time before i saw it ):

Gilmore
World Famous

Gilmore wrote:

Limited wrote:

Gilmore wrote:

Limited wrote:
Yeah, im sorry. :c

Thanks, I'm sorry for dragging this on for too long in a COMPLETELY UNRELATED topic, but glad if you see my side now.

Yeah when i read all the pages i can see your point and im sorry that it took some time before i saw it ):

It's ok, this is why conversations exist! No hard feelings

MissLondon
World Famous

MissLondon wrote:

Raquelle wrote:

Limited wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:
..... so then why were teams brought up in the convo

so when you bring up a team thing, it’s not a normal conversation? it’s just a normal conversation, nothing else.

You are abusing the power you have as a team member and the power you have to the potential applicant - Gilmore - by mentioning the teams and applications in the discussion completely unrelated to it. I really hope someone in the FT will have a discussion with you. This is Not the place.

Sending credits to put you on retainer
For VP legal representation ❤️

Gilmore
World Famous

Gilmore wrote:

hutsu wrote:

Gilmore wrote:

hutsu wrote:
i was abused in the past, met this guy whom i connected with, we had a lot on common and things were pretty magical at first. then i started remembering details of the past trauma which pretty much crippled me and he wanted to support me so badly that i told him pretty much every detail of the most horrible things ever happened to me. he never sought help and started showing ptsd-like symptoms from my trauma experiences, and there seem to be no boundaries on how far he will go to ease his own pain by hurting me. he keeps promising to get help but it's been 1.5 years and idk if it'll ever happen

anyway that's the tip of an iceberg

That sounds really rough. Keep in mind that it's not your fault and opening up is sometimes risky but always worth it. I hope you both get the help you need, although it seems you guys really should be apart while doing that.

Yeah I appreciate you not telling everything, after all it's your life and your issues and you have every right to keep it to yourself
Very brave to talk about it though!

thank you so much, i really appreciate your comments!!
it makes me feel kinda iffy when everyone seems to see my (ex) partner as some kind of a monster, i'm not writing these things to get him bashed. i love him to pieces but our relationship has become so dysfunctional that i am ranting about this on vp because i don't want to put my friends and family through this all the time.

Yeah I know. I'm sure he has good qualities, but the question is, do they outweigh the bad? Abusing is never ok, no matter how good the person has been before.

I'm glad that you see that something's wrong, not many have the power to do that when there's still love

I hope you figure things out one way or the other, and remember that you're always welcome to talk to the people of VP. We're all here for each other

Private
Princess of Pop

Limited wrote:

Gilmore wrote:

Limited wrote:

Gilmore wrote:
Thanks, I'm sorry for dragging this on for too long in a COMPLETELY UNRELATED topic, but glad if you see my side now.

Yeah when i read all the pages i can see your point and im sorry that it took some time before i saw it ):

It's ok, this is why conversations exist! No hard feelings

Lovely c:

Private
International Star

Raquelle wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Raquelle wrote:

Limited wrote:
so when you bring up a team thing, it’s not a normal conversation? it’s just a normal conversation, nothing else.

You are abusing the power you have as a team member and the power you have to the potential applicant - Gilmore - by mentioning the teams and applications in the discussion completely unrelated to it. I really hope someone in the FT will have a discussion with you. This is Not the place.

Sending credits to put you on retainer
For VP legal representation ❤️

😂😂 lmao love you
contact me for legal advice any time people

Account deleted

wrote:
i really hope you can get away from him soon.

Private
Princess of Pop

Limited wrote:
anyway, i really hope to find a solution for all this, hutsu
I wish you the best luck 🌻

Fantasy
World Famous

Fantasy wrote:
time to end that relationship

Private
World Famous

Salem wrote:

Raquelle wrote:
I’d leave his ass in a blink of an eye

Private
International Star

Flamink wrote:
im so sorry you have to go through this. i read the whole thread and im sorry he turned out like this, just remember its not your fault and that you deserve so much better.
im wishing you all the best