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ouch wrote:

hmm wrote:

ouch wrote:
I have zero empathy but it doesn't matter cus its not the lack of empathy that makes u stalk someone etc lmao

yes there has to be sum else to the equation

Ppl usually equate lack of empathy with like sadism and whatnot, makes no sense but lol.

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hmm wrote:
wow perfect timing
www.tiktok.com/@askreddit369/video/7117777294852164869

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Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:
that makes no sense

it does. no stranger deserves my empathy, nor kindness.
no nothing, thats the key how to get used. people only will take what they want and not give a damn.
giving empathy for free is a free ticket to giving the image of yourself that ur not worthy, ur basicly giving urself and welcoming everyone who wants to use you.

i don't think empathy works like that, it doesn't have an on/off switch

actually it has unless you do things without thinking, impulsively.
if ur friend needs advice or support - 1. do you think should u empathize or not
2. do u listen to them and give them advice
3. do u value the truth and ur morals more or do you empathize more and give useless pity with no reason (also pity helps none)

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Abbys wrote:

ouch wrote:
I have zero empathy but it doesn't matter cus its not the lack of empathy that makes u stalk someone etc lmao

if someone has a desire to stalk someone, the thing that would normally stop them would be their empathy.
if you have 0/low empathy, you can easily go through with doing immoral acts since your conscience wouldn't stop you.

obviously not every person with 0 empathy would automatically become a stalker or something ilke that!

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devilcake wrote:

hmm wrote:
wow perfect timing
www.tiktok.com/@askreddit369/video/7117777294852164869

Me when I worked with kids except I don’t wanted the kids to die that would have been a bit fucked up

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wug wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:
it does. no stranger deserves my empathy, nor kindness.
no nothing, thats the key how to get used. people only will take what they want and not give a damn.
giving empathy for free is a free ticket to giving the image of yourself that ur not worthy, ur basicly giving urself and welcoming everyone who wants to use you.

i don't think empathy works like that, it doesn't have an on/off switch

actually it has unless you do things without thinking, impulsively.
if ur friend needs advice or support - 1. do you think should u empathize or not
2. do u listen to them and give them advice
3. do u value the truth and ur morals more or do you empathize more and give useless pity with no reason (also pity helps none)

i have more empathy for people i don't know than my friends

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ouch wrote:

Abbys wrote:

ouch wrote:
I have zero empathy but it doesn't matter cus its not the lack of empathy that makes u stalk someone etc lmao

if someone has a desire to stalk someone, the thing that would normally stop them would be their empathy.
if you have 0/low empathy, you can easily go through with doing immoral acts since your conscience wouldn't stop you.

obviously not every person with 0 empathy would automatically become a stalker or something ilke that!

I am more so stopped by consequences, being nice has good consequences and being mean for no reason has bad consequences so I tend to act nice (ish), doesn't feel fake cus I don't want harm to ppl exactly lmao so it is what it is. Same with more serious stuff, murder, stalking etc, I don't want to do it but if I did, the consequences would stop me even if I don't have empathy

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devilcake wrote:

hmm wrote:
wow perfect timing
www.tiktok.com/@askreddit369/video/7117777294852164869

Me when I worked with kids except I don’t wanted the kids to die that would have been a bit fucked up

Like I cared very little about them, maybe one or two I was a bit awe a bout but not on any deeper level than like that one does a cute thing. Mostly I just came did my job and went home and didn’t give a flying fuck about them until I came back, but I always got a lot of praise and the kids always really liked me cause it ain’t rly hard to just treat people with kindness and respect even if you don’t care much about them,,,

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devilcake wrote:

Abbys wrote:

ouch wrote:
I have zero empathy but it doesn't matter cus its not the lack of empathy that makes u stalk someone etc lmao

if someone has a desire to stalk someone, the thing that would normally stop them would be their empathy.
if you have 0/low empathy, you can easily go through with doing immoral acts since your conscience wouldn't stop you.

obviously not every person with 0 empathy would automatically become a stalker or something ilke that!

I feel like you’re basing this purely on your own experience, sounds very anecdotal. If you have self control and common sense you can still abstain from doing something like that despite low empathy. The reason I do things aren’t dictated by my ability to put myself in their shoes or whatever

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Abbys wrote:

ouch wrote:

Abbys wrote:

ouch wrote:
I have zero empathy but it doesn't matter cus its not the lack of empathy that makes u stalk someone etc lmao

if someone has a desire to stalk someone, the thing that would normally stop them would be their empathy.
if you have 0/low empathy, you can easily go through with doing immoral acts since your conscience wouldn't stop you.

obviously not every person with 0 empathy would automatically become a stalker or something ilke that!

I am more so stopped by consequences, being nice has good consequences and being mean for no reason has bad consequences so I tend to act nice (ish), doesn't feel fake cus I don't want harm to ppl exactly lmao so it is what it is. Same with more serious stuff, murder, stalking etc, I don't want to do it but if I did, the consequences would stop me even if I don't have empathy

but if your desires are stronger than your will to abide by negative/positive consequences, then someone with low empathy will be more likely to do these bad things (whether we are talking about minor or more serious stuff here)

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Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:
i don't think empathy works like that, it doesn't have an on/off switch

actually it has unless you do things without thinking, impulsively.
if ur friend needs advice or support - 1. do you think should u empathize or not
2. do u listen to them and give them advice
3. do u value the truth and ur morals more or do you empathize more and give useless pity with no reason (also pity helps none)

i have more empathy for people i don't know than my friends

empathy is a feeling and every person can control their feelings aka its ur choice to have more empathy towards strangers.
for me its the other way around

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wug wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:
actually it has unless you do things without thinking, impulsively.
if ur friend needs advice or support - 1. do you think should u empathize or not
2. do u listen to them and give them advice
3. do u value the truth and ur morals more or do you empathize more and give useless pity with no reason (also pity helps none)

i have more empathy for people i don't know than my friends

empathy is a feeling and every person can control their feelings aka its ur choice to have more empathy towards strangers.
for me its the other way around

ok

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hmm wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:
actually it has unless you do things without thinking, impulsively.
if ur friend needs advice or support - 1. do you think should u empathize or not
2. do u listen to them and give them advice
3. do u value the truth and ur morals more or do you empathize more and give useless pity with no reason (also pity helps none)

i have more empathy for people i don't know than my friends

empathy is a feeling and every person can control their feelings aka its ur choice to have more empathy towards strangers.
for me its the other way around

u can control feelings???? or do u mean u can choose to pay mind to them

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wug wrote:

hmm wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:
i have more empathy for people i don't know than my friends

empathy is a feeling and every person can control their feelings aka its ur choice to have more empathy towards strangers.
for me its the other way around

u can control feelings???? or do u mean u can choose to pay mind to them

it's the new superpower clearly

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Parasite wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:

Klasifikovany wrote:

Hazelnut wrote:
actually it has unless you do things without thinking, impulsively.
if ur friend needs advice or support - 1. do you think should u empathize or not
2. do u listen to them and give them advice
3. do u value the truth and ur morals more or do you empathize more and give useless pity with no reason (also pity helps none)

i have more empathy for people i don't know than my friends

empathy is a feeling and every person can control their feelings aka its ur choice to have more empathy towards strangers.
for me its the other way around

Well, not entirely. For instance someone with anti-social personality disorder isn't choosing to feel empathy it's a mask they're wearing. Now ik this isn't exactly about extreme disorders like that, but just an example.