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Cobain
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cobain wrote:
oh! i'm also gonna order a FUCK TON of makeup and clothes this weekend i've decided

i'm single now i need to step up my game
lmao not rly the reason, i just wanna spoil myself and get some material happiness : ///
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Date: 10-09-2021 20:35
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Croaker wrote:
cobain wrote:
thank you all so much, this whole process would've been a million times harder without vp ♡♡♡♡
he has sent me some angry messages. i never answered that message he sent last night, so at around 11 i got this message

"i understand now sofie, holy shit.... you've longed to get rid of me for a long time but not had the guts to say it. fuck.... how fucking long have you waited to get out of this charade? like... this morning i was shocked as fuck and i've been confused and i don't know what all day. but now when i realize what it's probably about i feel myself dying inside. you can't do that do people. don't you understand you've totally fucked my psyche? for real!"

so i answered "that's not how it's like. i would love to meet up and talk. i've never wanted to hurt you, never"

and he said 
"no i don't think so either. you've been scared to hurt me so instead you've told me you love me, that you're attracted of me and fuck knows what. i fell apart now, i really mean it. there's nothing to talk about, stop pretending! i can't believe this is for real. fuck. i can't find the words now, there's no words for this"

and two hour laters he wrote this
"i'm grabbing all your things and putting them in a bag in the hallway. get it when i'm at school some day. bring all of my shit that's still left at yours and leave it at the same time. then lock the door and put the key in the letter box and then we're done with each other forever.
i won't even look at you if i see you"

so. great. just great
He sounds shitty tbh. I know it's a lot of feelings when you are getting broken up with, but you did everything right. "I won't even look at you if I see you" and also making you break up with him on text. 

I [personally] thinks it says more about a person what they say and do when you are no longer in their life. How they treat you, even tho your relation is not the same and the way that you wanted.

I don't know a lot about your relationship tho, but I think it was the best for you. 
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Date: 10-09-2021 20:52
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Croaker wrote:
Lolinontot wrote:
Bruh he's going through all the stages of grief at the same time all combined with a very childish behaviour of playing both the blame game and the aggressive child bully game...... 

Just make sure that once he starts the pleeding to get you back game, don't fall for it.
Take care of yourself ~ sending all my positive powers to you!!

Also I think he's threatening your non-existent partner because he thinks it's "charming"
In a freaky messed up way- men tend to think that women want men that are willing to fight over them, It's really primitive of him to act like that really, and if  you're ever going to respond to that then just respond by saying you'd call the police cause that's not cool, that's called assault.
And that's not okay even if he means it as a joke because he's scaring you. - a joke is meant to be funny - that's just threatening.
Words of wisdom ^
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Date: 10-09-2021 20:54
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cobain wrote:
the coworker who talked to me about her bf last week had bought wine and cigarettes on friday (she doesn't smoke lol) and when her bf came home he had asked her why she was smoking. she was like "you know what.... a girl at work just broke up with her boyfriend. you know why? because he was like you" LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO love that energy. she has shit talked him some more and it feels relieving. again i don't wish anyone to go through relationship problems but just.... girl power. or smth

another coworker today, the one who comforted me when i told them last week, asked me if my bf was the one who used to work there. bc she worked w him too back then. i knew she'd figured it out long ago lol. i told her yes and she asked me why i left him, i just said that i needed to do too much in our relationship and that i had to motivate him to do things etc which was very draining. she was like "YES good for you! you're his girlfriend, not his saviour". and i said to her i kept it a secret bc it felt weird if everyone knew, she told me she understood bc it gets "too close" and "too sensitive" when it's a coworker, even a previous coworker. so i'm hoping she doesn't gossip or tell people about it. idk if i trust her entirely but it doesn't matter too much. what's done is done, you know.
i'm a bit scared it'll get me in trouble tho lol there were rumors back when we worked together that we were a couple and we got in trouble over that, just rumors. we weren't a couple, it wasn't until he was moved to a different position when we got together (so, still a coworker but we didn't see each other at work very much). and he didn't stay for long, he stopped coming to work less than a month after we got together i think. 
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Date: 14-09-2021 20:58
Cobain
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cobain wrote:
i feel a bit better btw
it still feels a bit weird but i'm starting to get used to it, and being alone. i like being alone and focus entirely on myself. make my OWN decisions and not having to think about anyone else. i can do whatever the fuck i want, whenever. not that he didn't allow it or weird shit like that, just.... something so simple as going to the store. not having to think about what HE wants or what we're having for dinner. stuff like that

i still feel bad for him though, and i feel guilty. i know he's probably sad as shit still and most likely can't sleep, doesn't eat properly, doesn't take care of himself, wouldn't surprise me if he's slacking off at school. i don't want that for him.
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Date: 14-09-2021 21:03
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cobain wrote:
i miss him so much
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:21
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Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
i miss him so much
do you miss him or are you lonely like do you really miss a loser asshole lmfao 
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:22
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cobain wrote:
Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
i miss him so much
do you miss him or are you lonely like do you really miss a loser asshole lmfao 
i do miss him
ofc im feeling lonely too but i really miss him. we had a loooot of good times too, i know it doesn't sound like it but we did and rn i miss being in his arms so BAD like soo soooo bad
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:24
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Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
i miss him so much
do you miss him or are you lonely like do you really miss a loser asshole lmfao 
i do miss him
ofc im feeling lonely too but i really miss him. we had a loooot of good times too, i know it doesn't sound like it but we did and rn i miss being in his arms so BAD like soo soooo bad
theres like a physical withdrawel from a breakup that shit sucks
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:29
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cobain wrote:
Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
Claire wrote:
do you miss him or are you lonely like do you really miss a loser asshole lmfao 
i do miss him
ofc im feeling lonely too but i really miss him. we had a loooot of good times too, i know it doesn't sound like it but we did and rn i miss being in his arms so BAD like soo soooo bad
theres like a physical withdrawel from a breakup that shit sucks
it sucks assssss
i'm not as sad as i thought i'd be after all of this but i have this heavy feeling constantly and i think of him a lot and all that shit. and now and then i get really sad and miss him, like now. i hope it'll get better soon. and i hope he's ok and that he recovers from this fast tbh
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:36
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Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
i do miss him
ofc im feeling lonely too but i really miss him. we had a loooot of good times too, i know it doesn't sound like it but we did and rn i miss being in his arms so BAD like soo soooo bad
theres like a physical withdrawel from a breakup that shit sucks
it sucks assssss
i'm not as sad as i thought i'd be after all of this but i have this heavy feeling constantly and i think of him a lot and all that shit. and now and then i get really sad and miss him, like now. i hope it'll get better soon. and i hope he's ok and that he recovers from this fast tbh
hell be fine

your idea to go shopping and get new makeup nd shit is the best thing u can do imo
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:37
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cobain wrote:
when i get sad and cry i get more sad bc he's not here to comfort me
man he was always so good at comforting me when i was sad. and when i got panic attacks he could like bring me down from it so fast cuz he "grounded" me. he knew exactly what to do and what to say. he was my biggest fucking safety for over a year and i've never felt so safe w someone else
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:37
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cobain wrote:
Claire wrote:
cobain wrote:
Claire wrote:
theres like a physical withdrawel from a breakup that shit sucks
it sucks assssss
i'm not as sad as i thought i'd be after all of this but i have this heavy feeling constantly and i think of him a lot and all that shit. and now and then i get really sad and miss him, like now. i hope it'll get better soon. and i hope he's ok and that he recovers from this fast tbh
hell be fine

your idea to go shopping and get new makeup nd shit is the best thing u can do imo
i tried shopping this weekend but couldn't find anything i liked. i might try again soon
i stayed 2 extra hours at work today, unpaid (which goes completely against my principles), just to stay busy for a while. eugh
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Date: 15-09-2021 19:40
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cobain wrote:
i use tiktok to distract me a lot and it usually works
but is it a good tactic to distract yourself from the bad feelings????? when it comes to processing and getting over something. it feels like i'm shoving it aside

what a DUMB question but fr
when i'm heartbroken i usually go out and fuck some men to distract me which works for a while but then it doesn't work and it comes back and bites me in the aSS
this time i really don't want to fuck someone else in a GOOD while tho so. progress. i guess.
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Versailles wrote:
When my ex broke up few months ago which im still recovering from - i hit the gym or just walk whenever there’s nothing to do. It’s so much better than stay in bed and suffer. Stay distracted, get busy. Organize at home, clean extra. Break up and withdrawal makes us idealize the person so much in a unrealistic way. Is there friends you can talk or chat to when it’s hard? Be open and talk, and try make plans. Small plans, treat yourself with new stuff. Heck there’s so much to do and you got this!!! 

Also make a list with all the shit he you didnt like abt him and when he did you dirty. Whenever you miss him go back to that list. Remember how you felt. Give yourself time to heal. Think always about what’s the best you can do to yourself here and now. Never look back. It’s ok to grieve but keep going. It’s gonna be okay ❤️🌺🌻
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