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Cobain
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cobain wrote:
oh hey it's fucking me again

HOW do you break up with someone? like actually. i feel so fucking horrible about it but i'm pretty sure it needs to be done. i've talked a bit about my relationship on here and yeah it's not going great. and with each day this feeling just grows in me that this is not what i want, and not what i need. i can't see a future with my boyfriend.

i actually think my boyfriend is a great person, we just don't match relationship wise. i honestly don't know how he doesn't see/feel that himself. at least it seems like he doesn't. i don't know if it's just his negative outlook on things that makes him like in denial about it? because several times he has said that i'm his "last hope" or "last chance" (like to get kids etc which i've made it very very clear that i'm not having any babies for several more years, if at all).

anyways, what i'm trying to ask is... HOW?
what do i say? there's gonna be questions as to WHY i want to break up. i don't want to hurt him. i will inevitably hurt him, i know that, but i don't want to pour gas on the fire.
and he will most likely question why i haven't spoken to him about these issues and why i resorted to breaking up before i've talked to him. something like that. he said something along those lines when i did break up with him earlier this year. and he'll question why i've told him i love him and such if i don't love him. but i do love him, i just don't want to be with him. he didn't understand that the last time and he won't understand now.
idk. and when do you do it? like. this makes me want to puke
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Date: 04-09-2021 20:49 | Times changed: 1
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Whenever I broke up with someone I just said it straight up But That was cause those relationships were not healthy But I would recommend meeting up and just saying hey this ain't working Then again it is quite hard Breaking up with someone because some don't care others will cry and others will be lost and confused. Just be honest Because if u don't do it soon you will regret it.
Date: 04-09-2021 20:51 | Times changed: 1
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BunnyButts wrote:
Sit them down and be like hey, this isn't working and explain why and have an honest convo 
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Date: 04-09-2021 20:52
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Flamink wrote:
i think the best thing you can do is be as honest as possible. tell him you cant see yourself with him,
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Date: 04-09-2021 20:52
Cobain
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cobain wrote:
amakia wrote:
Whenever I broke up with someone I just said it straight up But That was cause those relationships were not healthy But I would recommend meeting up and just saying hey this ain't working Than again it is quite hard Breaking up with someone because some don't care others will cry and others will be lost and confused.
when i broke up with him earlier this year he was kinda lost and confused, yeah
and he got angry. not irl but over text hhh. this relationship isn't very healthy either i don't think. 
godddddddddddd i hate this
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Date: 04-09-2021 20:58
Cobain
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cobain wrote:
Flamink wrote:
i think the best thing you can do is be as honest as possible. tell him you cant see yourself with him,
he asked me the other day about where i see us in the future and i wanted to sink through the floor so bad. luckily i got a call as we were having that convo so i didn't really answer and he didn't bring it up again
it just feels horrible to crush someone like this
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Date: 04-09-2021 21:00
Cobain
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cobain wrote:
i feel horrible towards his family as well. they really like me, and i really like them. but i can't stay with someone because i like their family. you know
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Date: 04-09-2021 21:13
Cobain
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cobain wrote:
this whole age thing as well. i'm not into age gaps, i'm not into older men. i like people my own age, you know? always been like that. but he was the exception. i was hesitant as fuck about it before we got together, and in the beginning of our relationship too. he's getting closer and closer to fucking FORTY and i can't be with a 40 year old. that's just too much. i'm 25. twenty fucking five ! and i'm with a middle aged man? FOR WHAT?????
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Date: 04-09-2021 21:16
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Just tell him? idk what else there is. Be honest with him. Dating him out of guilt or whatever is shitty for both of you
Date: 04-09-2021 21:16
Cobain
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cobain wrote:
C4TH3DR4L wrote:
Just tell him? idk what else there is. Be honest with him. Dating him out of guilt or whatever is shitty for both of you
yeah there really isn't anything else. i just have to rip the band aid off bc as you say, it's shitty for everyone involved
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Date: 04-09-2021 21:20
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cobain wrote:
amakia wrote:
Whenever I broke up with someone I just said it straight up But That was cause those relationships were not healthy But I would recommend meeting up and just saying hey this ain't working Than again it is quite hard Breaking up with someone because some don't care others will cry and others will be lost and confused.
when i broke up with him earlier this year he was kinda lost and confused, yeah
and he got angry. not irl but over text hhh. this relationship isn't very healthy either i don't think. 
godddddddddddd i hate this
Break up with him because That relationship isn't good for u. You will regret I'm warning you its best to do it now.
Date: 04-09-2021 21:27
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MissLondon wrote:
Since you’re already feeling
resentful and trapped into roles
that you didn’t ask for
it should be easy, especially since
you’ve broken up before.

breakups are shit anyway 
and people inevitably get hurt
but it’s even worse to drag out something 
that you’re not feeling anymore 
good luck ✌️ 
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Date: 04-09-2021 22:06
Cobain
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cobain wrote:
Thank you for all your replies, I really realty appreciate it!

Now idk when I should break up.. as quickly as possible, I guess. Its scary though. And really sucks. 
Like, should I do it tonight? Idk. We haven't spoken much this weekend, he asked me this Friday if I could go to the store for him and I said no bc I'd worked 12 hours. He asked me yesterday too but I worked 12h then too so I said no. He hasn't replied to it and not sent anything since. So it feels a bit weird. Idk dude
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Date: 05-09-2021 14:04
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Rouya wrote:
from all ive read about this man, he doesnt get it bc he is literally getting everything he wants and he doesnt consider your feelings for even a second. honestly just say it like it is, how he reacts is not your responsibility and he sounds so toxic. also from your previous threads it does sound like youve tried talking to him, so him saying that you havent just straight up isnt true, it's just that he doesnt listen. just tell him how you feel, say it's not working out and that's that, you dont owe him more than what's true and it's going to hurt either way
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Date: 05-09-2021 14:12
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Rouya wrote:
and about when to do it, i would say just ask if you can meet up with him today and do it
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Date: 05-09-2021 14:13
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cobain wrote:
Thank you for all your replies, I really realty appreciate it!

Now idk when I should break up.. as quickly as possible, I guess. Its scary though. And really sucks. 
Like, should I do it tonight? Idk. We haven't spoken much this weekend, he asked me this Friday if I could go to the store for him and I said no bc I'd worked 12 hours. He asked me yesterday too but I worked 12h then too so I said no. He hasn't replied to it and not sent anything since. So it feels a bit weird. Idk dude
Wouldn't assume there's a perfect time. Just set a meeting and rip off thr bandaid
Date: 05-09-2021 14:20 | Times changed: 1
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