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You say at the beginning that people who say they have no friends really have friends who to hang and who asks are they okay and I just wanna say that these people usually don't feel like those people are really their friends. Like, people who you hang with school many times are not people who you can chat about everything like friends do, group which they hang with at free time they maybe don't feel any connection but they just don't wanna be completely alone but still they don't feel like they really had friends. I don't wanna make this seem like I think your problem isn't real, I just wanna say that those people feel friendless is as big problem too. Like, when you sit outside of store and some kind of drunkie comes to you and asks "hey, how are you" usually you don't think "hey, this guy asked how am I, so they are my friend". You yourself said that lots of peoole diapoint you and you lose you interest in them. The point is, most of people who say they don't have friends but still have 1. Maybe have mental illnes why they think they really don't have friends but they still have and maybe someday when they are at better place they can understand that 2. Have people around them who maybe just are people who that lonely one connects but chooses to have "friends" than be completely alone
Good place to find friends at older age is start doing hobbies which you are into at groups etc or just start chatting with random people who seem interesting if you feel safe at situation
And if you feel like it's hard to stay being friends with you because your mood swings then therapy is an good idea because it is true that if someone changes everyday it's pretty ruff and I think it is not thing that they have to have enough to handle it. I have many friends with bpd (idk if you have it but bpd people have pretty bad swings with their moods and thoughts) and sometimes it's pretty hard. One of my roomies have bpd and with him i have never had problem because it's not that strongly showing, but I have couple friends whos bpd is so strongly showing that I can't hang with them that much because that takes so much energy from me
I wish you'll find friends and inner peace
You say at the beginning that people who say they have no friends really have friends who to hang and who asks are they okay and I just wanna say that these people usually don't feel like those people are really their friends. Like, people who you hang with school many times are not people who you can chat about everything like friends do, group which they hang with at free time they maybe don't feel any connection but they just don't wanna be completely alone but still they don't feel like they really had friends. I don't wanna make this seem like I think your problem isn't real, I just wanna say that those people feel friendless is as big problem too. Like, when you sit outside of store and some kind of drunkie comes to you and asks "hey, how are you" usually you don't think "hey, this guy asked how am I, so they are my friend". You yourself said that lots of peoole diapoint you and you lose you interest in them. The point is, most of people who say they don't have friends but still have 1. Maybe have mental illnes why they think they really don't have friends but they still have and maybe someday when they are at better place they can understand that 2. Have people around them who maybe just are people who that lonely one connects but chooses to have "friends" than be completely alone
Good place to find friends at older age is start doing hobbies which you are into at groups etc or just start chatting with random people who seem interesting if you feel safe at situation
And if you feel like it's hard to stay being friends with you because your mood swings then therapy is an good idea because it is true that if someone changes everyday it's pretty ruff and I think it is not thing that they have to have enough to handle it. I have many friends with bpd (idk if you have it but bpd people have pretty bad swings with their moods and thoughts) and sometimes it's pretty hard. One of my roomies have bpd and with him i have never had problem because it's not that strongly showing, but I have couple friends whos bpd is so strongly showing that I can't hang with them that much because that takes so much energy from me
I wish you'll find friends and inner peace
