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Bloodflowers wrote:

Absinthe wrote:

Bloodflowers wrote:

Absinthe wrote:
l think that people are aware but at the same time they have their eyes closed. Because l have seen this happened more than once, not just with mental illnesses. l think what is very common neglect on people parts too is autism (I'm not the best to talk abt this, l just have noticed a pattern). People are aware of it but when they meet one they are absolutely human garbage towards them.

Another thing that annoys me is that when you explain your state to someone and they say you are using your illness as an excuse, like thank you. lm might be mentally ill and it doesn't disregard me of being accountable for my actions but really at what point having ups and downs on your mental health is an excuse. l would get that if l had done something wrong and would try to claim it on my mental state but no. l get shit on because lm having ups and downs.

I've been told before when I've been manicdepressed to "stop being like that it makes me uncomfortable" like lmao that's just not how it works.

I've never got the that im using it as an excuse but i absolutely HATE when people try hard to relate or they say "oh so its like this". But u can tell they 100% just don't get what ur saying

Honestly, once again it just tells a lot more of the person putting their comfort over someone else's mental state especially when they express it. l don't understand what kind of thought traffic one would have to think saying things like that are okay. You can tell when a person is genuinely trying to relate or understand rather than have their own weird-ass motives pretending that they are. l rather have a person not care rather than trying to act when in reality they don't.

Yea like it doesn't hurt to be at least nice about it its not like im doing whatever im doing because i want to

That's true but like I think even if they care and they try hard to be like yea I totally relate it just doesn't feel nice like just be supportive but not THAT supportive. Or when they have their own opinion like some sort of doctor like a friend told me when I was manic that I was probably just addicted to nicotine and hadn't smoked when I described this crawling sensation in my skin and I was like ??tf?? but now after as a tru nicotine addict the best description for how mania feels in the body that i have ever Heard, if you smoke a lot lot every day and you wake up one day and you dont have cigarettes that is the feeling.

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Bloodflowers wrote:

Absinthe wrote:

Bloodflowers wrote:
I've been told before when I've been manicdepressed to "stop being like that it makes me uncomfortable" like lmao that's just not how it works.

I've never got the that im using it as an excuse but i absolutely HATE when people try hard to relate or they say "oh so its like this". But u can tell they 100% just don't get what ur saying

Honestly, once again it just tells a lot more of the person putting their comfort over someone else's mental state especially when they express it. l don't understand what kind of thought traffic one would have to think saying things like that are okay. You can tell when a person is genuinely trying to relate or understand rather than have their own weird-ass motives pretending that they are. l rather have a person not care rather than trying to act when in reality they don't.

Yea like it doesn't hurt to be at least nice about it its not like im doing whatever im doing because i want to

That's true but like I think even if they care and they try hard to be like yea I totally relate it just doesn't feel nice like just be supportive but not THAT supportive. Or when they have their own opinion like some sort of doctor like a friend told me when I was manic that I was probably just addicted to nicotine and hadn't smoked when I described this crawling sensation in my skin and I was like ??tf?? but now after as a tru nicotine addict the best description for how mania feels in the body that i have ever Heard, if you smoke a lot lot every day and you wake up one day and you dont have cigarettes that is the feeling.

To me doesn't appear as supportive even tho when it is unintentional. l would speculate it is because people aren't used to handling mentally ill people. l just think people should tell that they are there for me like you would say to someone of a physical illness, chronic or terminal. Also, l don't understand why a lot of times people have this excessive need to box or analyze everything. Sometimes things just are as it is said or done.

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Bloodflowers wrote:

Absinthe wrote:

Bloodflowers wrote:

Absinthe wrote:
Honestly, once again it just tells a lot more of the person putting their comfort over someone else's mental state especially when they express it. l don't understand what kind of thought traffic one would have to think saying things like that are okay. You can tell when a person is genuinely trying to relate or understand rather than have their own weird-ass motives pretending that they are. l rather have a person not care rather than trying to act when in reality they don't.

Yea like it doesn't hurt to be at least nice about it its not like im doing whatever im doing because i want to

That's true but like I think even if they care and they try hard to be like yea I totally relate it just doesn't feel nice like just be supportive but not THAT supportive. Or when they have their own opinion like some sort of doctor like a friend told me when I was manic that I was probably just addicted to nicotine and hadn't smoked when I described this crawling sensation in my skin and I was like ??tf?? but now after as a tru nicotine addict the best description for how mania feels in the body that i have ever Heard, if you smoke a lot lot every day and you wake up one day and you dont have cigarettes that is the feeling.

To me doesn't appear as supportive even tho when it is unintentional. l would speculate it is because people aren't used to handling mentally ill people. l just think people should tell that they are there for me like you would say to someone of a physical illness, chronic or terminal. Also, l don't understand why a lot of times people have this excessive need to box or analyze everything. Sometimes things just are as it is said or done.

yea like actually it would make no sense if i went to a cancer patient or something and was like i totally get u look at all these things i Think are similar that ive gone through

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Bloodflowers wrote:

Absinthe wrote:

Bloodflowers wrote:
Yea like it doesn't hurt to be at least nice about it its not like im doing whatever im doing because i want to

That's true but like I think even if they care and they try hard to be like yea I totally relate it just doesn't feel nice like just be supportive but not THAT supportive. Or when they have their own opinion like some sort of doctor like a friend told me when I was manic that I was probably just addicted to nicotine and hadn't smoked when I described this crawling sensation in my skin and I was like ??tf?? but now after as a tru nicotine addict the best description for how mania feels in the body that i have ever Heard, if you smoke a lot lot every day and you wake up one day and you dont have cigarettes that is the feeling.

To me doesn't appear as supportive even tho when it is unintentional. l would speculate it is because people aren't used to handling mentally ill people. l just think people should tell that they are there for me like you would say to someone of a physical illness, chronic or terminal. Also, l don't understand why a lot of times people have this excessive need to box or analyze everything. Sometimes things just are as it is said or done.

yea like actually it would make no sense if i went to a cancer patient or something and was like i totally get u look at all these things i Think are similar that ive gone through

Yes, exactly. It is like comparing potatoes to beetles.