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Kalypso
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kalypso wrote:
idk in my case there probably a lot im struggling with i dont know. i have been removed before from my home, i have experienced a lot of neglect and so and so on, and experienced traumatic stuff i havent talked with anyone rlly with. talking with my brother about it was just telling me i probably im way more affected than i think and something i really should talk with a therapist about, cause it has still formed me into the person and the struggles i have and probs the reason i have anxiety, but i dont know what and how and why, these things wouldn't be something i would talk with my friends about as it can be tough for them or even triggering (depending on what it is, but my friend for example has a eating disorder which i CANT talk with her about, as it's extremely triggering for me). it also about figuring why u choose as u do, why u act as u do, why u respond as u do and so on

I think I have just figured out everything just by myself in my own head from before, they rlly just got no input

that's good for u, but it's not like that for everyone, that's why people go to it. also to release things ig

also wantrd to add, that what is a person's reality is not always what really IS the reality. and then suppressed emotions
probably could keep going, like there's various of reasons

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xBillieEyelashx wrote:

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i wish i had a car or sum lmao would make life much easier, like i'd be willing to get a driver's license if i didn't have to wait 20min in the freezing cold for the bus, sorry global warming or whatever but yes

can you watch any shows/read books while waiting for public transportation? maybe that would make the time you have to sacrifice to go to your therapist more acceptable?

oh the therapy place is nearby thankfully, as i said it's the school that stresses me out.. i have to wake up at like 5:40am and then go home by like 4pm allegedly ;_;

Oh I'm sorry for misunderstanding your messages. that does sound like a pretty stressful routine. sad

especially if you don't feel like therapy is helping you. do you feel like it's because of the therapist? because as someone mentioned before you really need to find the right therapist for yourself which can be pretty time consuming

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xBillieEyelashx wrote:

latinsimone wrote:

xBillieEyelashx wrote:
can you watch any shows/read books while waiting for public transportation? maybe that would make the time you have to sacrifice to go to your therapist more acceptable?

oh the therapy place is nearby thankfully, as i said it's the school that stresses me out.. i have to wake up at like 5:40am and then go home by like 4pm allegedly ;_;

Oh I'm sorry for misunderstanding your messages. that does sound like a pretty stressful routine.

especially if you don't feel like therapy is helping you. do you feel like it's because of the therapist? because as someone mentioned before you really need to find the right therapist for yourself which can be pretty time consuming

i'm not sure, i wouldn't say it is because of her.. it's just that whichever advice i get regarding anxiety it all boils down to the same solution -> "just do it and cope" lolol.. so it's useless to change therapist in this case i believe. i haven't talked to her abt other stuff because i think i'm alright at handling that by myself, i don't necessarily feel the need to sort it out in therapy or to vent abt it.
+ as i said, she's more solution oriented perhaps, i guess it'd be nice to have someone who is more willing to introspect with me than someone who is more willing to find a solution, so that i'd also mention some of the other off topic things that might affect me stronger occasionally (although i end up getting over it, and i do try to find ways to cope with it better and compared to 2020 i've definitely improved).
so yes, in the end it's up to me to go with exposure therapy, but in the circumstances i'm currently in i feel like medication would make it easier to expose myself to in-person school u kno

i hope that wasnt too confusing lolol

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latinsimone wrote:

xBillieEyelashx wrote:

latinsimone wrote:
oh the therapy place is nearby thankfully, as i said it's the school that stresses me out.. i have to wake up at like 5:40am and then go home by like 4pm allegedly ;_;

Oh I'm sorry for misunderstanding your messages. that does sound like a pretty stressful routine.

especially if you don't feel like therapy is helping you. do you feel like it's because of the therapist? because as someone mentioned before you really need to find the right therapist for yourself which can be pretty time consuming

i'm not sure, i wouldn't say it is because of her.. it's just that whichever advice i get regarding anxiety it all boils down to the same solution -> "just do it and cope" lolol.. so it's useless to change therapist in this case i believe. i haven't talked to her abt other stuff because i think i'm alright at handling that by myself, i don't necessarily feel the need to sort it out in therapy or to vent abt it.
+ as i said, she's more solution oriented perhaps, i guess it'd be nice to have someone who is more willing to introspect with me than someone who is more willing to find a solution, so that i'd also mention some of the other off topic things that might affect me stronger occasionally (although i end up getting over it, and i do try to find ways to cope with it better and compared to 2020 i've definitely improved).
so yes, in the end it's up to me to go with exposure therapy, but in the circumstances i'm currently in i feel like medication would make it easier to expose myself to in-person school u kno

i hope that wasnt too confusing lolol

no no it's fine. but as i said before she got a point especially with the anxiety thing. anxieties get worse if you don't try to do anything about it. That doesn't mean i agree with her 'just cope mentality' maybe try small steps towards battling this anxiety instead? and maybe this therapist rly isn't for you. i remember you saying there aren't any therapists in your area but what if you took a longer way? I guess you would def find something to do in that extra time and maybe you will find a therapist that will cover you needs? it's def worth a shot imo.

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xBillieEyelashx wrote:

latinsimone wrote:

xBillieEyelashx wrote:
Oh I'm sorry for misunderstanding your messages. that does sound like a pretty stressful routine.

especially if you don't feel like therapy is helping you. do you feel like it's because of the therapist? because as someone mentioned before you really need to find the right therapist for yourself which can be pretty time consuming

i'm not sure, i wouldn't say it is because of her.. it's just that whichever advice i get regarding anxiety it all boils down to the same solution -> "just do it and cope" lolol.. so it's useless to change therapist in this case i believe. i haven't talked to her abt other stuff because i think i'm alright at handling that by myself, i don't necessarily feel the need to sort it out in therapy or to vent abt it.
+ as i said, she's more solution oriented perhaps, i guess it'd be nice to have someone who is more willing to introspect with me than someone who is more willing to find a solution, so that i'd also mention some of the other off topic things that might affect me stronger occasionally (although i end up getting over it, and i do try to find ways to cope with it better and compared to 2020 i've definitely improved).
so yes, in the end it's up to me to go with exposure therapy, but in the circumstances i'm currently in i feel like medication would make it easier to expose myself to in-person school u kno

i hope that wasnt too confusing lolol

no no it's fine. but as i said before she got a point especially with the anxiety thing. anxieties get worse if you don't try to do anything about it. That doesn't mean i agree with her 'just cope mentality' maybe try small steps towards battling this anxiety instead? and maybe this therapist rly isn't for you. i remember you saying there aren't any therapists in your area but what if you took a longer way? I guess you would def find something to do in that extra time and maybe you will find a therapist that will cover you needs? it's def worth a shot imo.

hmmm we'll see how things will be unfolding for the time being, i will have in-person school like 2 days next week and then 3 days the next before holidays, so i'll see if i can ease myself into it, it may be easier as it's not all 5 days of the week.

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latinsimone wrote:

xBillieEyelashx wrote:

latinsimone wrote:
i'm not sure, i wouldn't say it is because of her.. it's just that whichever advice i get regarding anxiety it all boils down to the same solution -> "just do it and cope" lolol.. so it's useless to change therapist in this case i believe. i haven't talked to her abt other stuff because i think i'm alright at handling that by myself, i don't necessarily feel the need to sort it out in therapy or to vent abt it.
+ as i said, she's more solution oriented perhaps, i guess it'd be nice to have someone who is more willing to introspect with me than someone who is more willing to find a solution, so that i'd also mention some of the other off topic things that might affect me stronger occasionally (although i end up getting over it, and i do try to find ways to cope with it better and compared to 2020 i've definitely improved).
so yes, in the end it's up to me to go with exposure therapy, but in the circumstances i'm currently in i feel like medication would make it easier to expose myself to in-person school u kno

i hope that wasnt too confusing lolol

no no it's fine. but as i said before she got a point especially with the anxiety thing. anxieties get worse if you don't try to do anything about it. That doesn't mean i agree with her 'just cope mentality' maybe try small steps towards battling this anxiety instead? and maybe this therapist rly isn't for you. i remember you saying there aren't any therapists in your area but what if you took a longer way? I guess you would def find something to do in that extra time and maybe you will find a therapist that will cover you needs? it's def worth a shot imo.

hmmm we'll see how things will be unfolding for the time being, i will have in-person school like 2 days next week and then 3 days the next before holidays, so i'll see if i can ease myself into it, it may be easier as it's not all 5 days of the week.

that sounds like a good idea imo. i would def wait until this thing is over before making a decision! (:

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xBillieEyelashx wrote:

latinsimone wrote:

xBillieEyelashx wrote:
no no it's fine. but as i said before she got a point especially with the anxiety thing. anxieties get worse if you don't try to do anything about it. That doesn't mean i agree with her 'just cope mentality' maybe try small steps towards battling this anxiety instead? and maybe this therapist rly isn't for you. i remember you saying there aren't any therapists in your area but what if you took a longer way? I guess you would def find something to do in that extra time and maybe you will find a therapist that will cover you needs? it's def worth a shot imo.

hmmm we'll see how things will be unfolding for the time being, i will have in-person school like 2 days next week and then 3 days the next before holidays, so i'll see if i can ease myself into it, it may be easier as it's not all 5 days of the week.

that sounds like a good idea imo. i would def wait until this thing is over before making a decision! (:

yes, thank uu

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latinsimone wrote:

xBillieEyelashx wrote:

latinsimone wrote:
hmmm we'll see how things will be unfolding for the time being, i will have in-person school like 2 days next week and then 3 days the next before holidays, so i'll see if i can ease myself into it, it may be easier as it's not all 5 days of the week.

that sounds like a good idea imo. i would def wait until this thing is over before making a decision! (:

yes, thank uu

def keep me updated! and if you need anymore advice feel free to hmu (: