are men more okay with being objectified? - Forum

SweetLapis
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Yasu wrote:
Idk i usually try to ignore thinking that personally. Sexualizing men etc is like... So normal and mmh. Idk. It is kinda stressful when old women look at me with burning fire of their will to touch me... Idk, it makes me very uncomfy.

I've got old ladies to come dance with me a bars and trying to flirt me.

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This happened when I were 18. I were there with my current fwb (also a guy) and there were woman(if i remember correctly she were age 47) who were first trying to flirt with my fwb (also 18 ). Then she once watched me to eyes and then got obsessed with me and my "deep looking eyes" and tried that whole time get me touch her sexually and when we were saying that she could "check us with one touch" or something. When we were leaving there she tried to group with us but we said that we wanna leave without her. I lived like other side of the road from that bar and she seemed to wanna follow us so I gave her kiss to the lips when she continued to wanna "even a kiss". Then we left and she did not follow us but it were very stressful and that is the reason why i don't like to go nearest bar from where i live :--) i don't wanna creepy old ladies know where i live :---)

I know that old men being creepy to young girls is more usual but can say that old women to be creepy to young boys is 100% happening. And understanding to it be uncomfy to boys is happening so much less. "Men always want it".

Also, guys have some kind of obsession to lesbians but gay guy obsession with some straight girls is not beautiful to see

And there is such a thing as "men's sexuality" more than like bi, straight and gay. I feel like women have got so much sexual positivity and fetish normalization. But when we talk about men. They are just perverted. But women are strong. And that is great. But why still men usually are just perverted. To gay men it is somehow better. But straight men, poor straight men

Your example, just makes me think of how it's considered sexy and fine when male students have a fling with their female teacher vs when the roles are reversed. It's always considered creepy when older men go after young women, but when older women go after men it's oddly considered okay when really it should be consider creepy just as much when men do it. Blame def goes to society.

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So the answer is no, men are not okay with that. They are just more casual about it. And there is men who like it, so there is women who like it. But you should not objectify anyone if you don't know do they want it :--)

Men have so much shame to say no when it comes to sexuality. "Man is weak if he does not always want". I know so many men who just don't wanna say no to sex so they don't seem like pussies. More straight you are the worse it kinda is. My bf is bi and I'm first guy who he dates. And he have started to even regonize he thinks like that after we have went together.

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SweetLapis wrote:

Yasu wrote:
Idk i usually try to ignore thinking that personally. Sexualizing men etc is like... So normal and mmh. Idk. It is kinda stressful when old women look at me with burning fire of their will to touch me... Idk, it makes me very uncomfy.

I've got old ladies to come dance with me a bars and trying to flirt me.

tw
This happened when I were 18. I were there with my current fwb (also a guy) and there were woman(if i remember correctly she were age 47) who were first trying to flirt with my fwb (also 18 ). Then she once watched me to eyes and then got obsessed with me and my "deep looking eyes" and tried that whole time get me touch her sexually and when we were saying that she could "check us with one touch" or something. When we were leaving there she tried to group with us but we said that we wanna leave without her. I lived like other side of the road from that bar and she seemed to wanna follow us so I gave her kiss to the lips when she continued to wanna "even a kiss". Then we left and she did not follow us but it were very stressful and that is the reason why i don't like to go nearest bar from where i live :--) i don't wanna creepy old ladies know where i live :---)

I know that old men being creepy to young girls is more usual but can say that old women to be creepy to young boys is 100% happening. And understanding to it be uncomfy to boys is happening so much less. "Men always want it".

Also, guys have some kind of obsession to lesbians but gay guy obsession with some straight girls is not beautiful to see

And there is such a thing as "men's sexuality" more than like bi, straight and gay. I feel like women have got so much sexual positivity and fetish normalization. But when we talk about men. They are just perverted. But women are strong. And that is great. But why still men usually are just perverted. To gay men it is somehow better. But straight men, poor straight men

Your example, just makes me think of how it's considered sexy and fine when male students have a fling with their female teacher vs when the roles are reversed. It's always considered creepy when older men go after young women, but when older women go after men it's oddly considered okay when really it should be consider creepy just as much when men do it. Blame def goes to society.

Yep. I read from news that at UK there were a female teacher who were sent nudes and even had sex her middle school student (guy) and then got jail and she had to pay to that guy. And most of the comments at article were just "i think that guy just liked it" "he got hot teacher and money, not bad" "if i had been that guy i would not told about that teacher, i would just enjoyed". So yeah, also older men objectify young boys so casually and make it harder to stop believing that "to be real man you should be cold fuck machine"

SweetLapis
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SweetLapis wrote:

Yasu wrote:

SweetLapis wrote:

Yasu wrote:
Idk i usually try to ignore thinking that personally. Sexualizing men etc is like... So normal and mmh. Idk. It is kinda stressful when old women look at me with burning fire of their will to touch me... Idk, it makes me very uncomfy.

I've got old ladies to come dance with me a bars and trying to flirt me.

tw
This happened when I were 18. I were there with my current fwb (also a guy) and there were woman(if i remember correctly she were age 47) who were first trying to flirt with my fwb (also 18 ). Then she once watched me to eyes and then got obsessed with me and my "deep looking eyes" and tried that whole time get me touch her sexually and when we were saying that she could "check us with one touch" or something. When we were leaving there she tried to group with us but we said that we wanna leave without her. I lived like other side of the road from that bar and she seemed to wanna follow us so I gave her kiss to the lips when she continued to wanna "even a kiss". Then we left and she did not follow us but it were very stressful and that is the reason why i don't like to go nearest bar from where i live :--) i don't wanna creepy old ladies know where i live :---)

I know that old men being creepy to young girls is more usual but can say that old women to be creepy to young boys is 100% happening. And understanding to it be uncomfy to boys is happening so much less. "Men always want it".

Also, guys have some kind of obsession to lesbians but gay guy obsession with some straight girls is not beautiful to see

And there is such a thing as "men's sexuality" more than like bi, straight and gay. I feel like women have got so much sexual positivity and fetish normalization. But when we talk about men. They are just perverted. But women are strong. And that is great. But why still men usually are just perverted. To gay men it is somehow better. But straight men, poor straight men

Your example, just makes me think of how it's considered sexy and fine when male students have a fling with their female teacher vs when the roles are reversed. It's always considered creepy when older men go after young women, but when older women go after men it's oddly considered okay when really it should be consider creepy just as much when men do it. Blame def goes to society.

Yep. I read from news that at UK there were a female teacher who were sent nudes and even had sex her middle school student (guy) and then got jail and she had to pay to that guy. And most of the comments at article were just "i think that guy just liked it" "he got hot teacher and money, not bad" "if i had been that guy i would not told about that teacher, i would just enjoyed". So yeah, also older men objectify young boys so casually and make it harder to stop believing that "to be real man you should be cold fuck machine"

Similar thing happened from where I'm from. People are so fucked up.
It's sad, men are basically expected to macho's or be called sissies.