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Iotus wrote:
okay yes that is true but sadly the experience is that male doctors (usually  white and cis worse if theyre over the age of 30) arent really empathetic when it comes to being a doctor. i know so many women along with myself who prefer to speak to a woman when it comes to seeing the doctor (specially mental health), not for the soul reason we feel more comfortable but because we actually feel understood?
i have gone into my doctors on the verge of a break down extremely suicidal breaking down in front of my doctor asking for some kind of help (my therapy had been messed up due to another case of someone with a degree in psychology completely discrediting my experience) and man did nothing just sent me out the clinic to go home n deal with it myself. he looked so annoyed that he, a doctor, had to deal with me being a ill? same doctor did the exact same thing when i came in abt my excema and he, again, didnt really help at all. i was explaining that my excema (didnt know it at the time) cant be scabies because ive had it too long and no one in my family gets it bar me. he ignored me prescribed me scabies cream anyway. had a (female!) trainee doctor not been there to learn and had she not suggest the creams i use now (which arent the most ideal because that man cba with me he wanted me out asap so i never was assessed properly but they were the best i could do) id just be burning all the time (i am tbf). i told him it was related to unknown allergies too because i always flared up after and he ignored that so now i also have an allergy ive no clue what it is. it took me a year to find out what it actually was up by myself and all i had to do was a google search and now i know what creams i need to ask for?. ive seen another male doctor about my adhd diagnosis. although i havent been diagnosed the symptoms are there and extremely prominent since childhood. he was an arse abt it. kept trying to tell me it was depression despite telling him my mum has it i act like her and also the symptoms started way before my mental health issues began. after he saw i wasnt budging from the idea of me having adhd he got so annoyed with me? was all “i genuinely just think its your mental health hers the form but i dont seen why your bothering”. i havent been to get an adhd diagnosis since because the way he treated me made me feel it wasnt even worth it even though now ive rlly come to terms with the fact i most likely do have it and im getting checked. that was 2 years ago... i would have been diagnosed and probably medicated rn : )))

the worst case ive experienced though is when it came to my mum. she had sepsis really bad and the male doctors completely ignored how ill she was. she was in hospital too which is mad. it took a female nurse coming to give her something to realise she was really bad. like really bad. had that nurse not done anything i dont even know if id still have a mum.

its actually mental how men have failed sm ill women lol