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i guess just tell him what u like and not thenĀ
Iotus wrote:
that's good. (this sentence always sounds so passive-agressive oouf)Nesta wrote:
I hate people looking at me being on the phone\laptop, anything that's not entirely games (not counting vp). Like if you're not comfy with it, then that's your boundary atm. Put it down, tilt the screen, talk about it with him if you wanna so you guys know where each other stands.Ā If he doesn't respect it, that's on him, and that's not okay.
like you should put down boundaries. i would not let ppl past my lock screen unless i'm there in the room beside them, or if they asked to use it for a specific task - where i open my phone and lend it to them while being around.Ā He has his own phone. It isn't too hard to just use it. And also, yeah, you should be able to say that "no this time doesn't suit me because i'm talking to someone and it's confidential" and that should be respected. and i think i never will understand why ppl let other ppl into their images either tho. not without them asking and getting it approved. phones are private today, like it has so much of our life on and securiy codes and all that stuff.Ā
it sounds sorta bad like don't get into some control-abuse bullshit with ur bf
can i just say hes not controlling or abusive, just really paranoid and insecure i think. we both have similar issues he just is mentally unwell and has been through an extremely abusive relationship before so i think hes still just a little raw from that pretty sure she cheated on him too. i get that because ive been in the exact sameĀ position as well i also have my issues left from my own trauma but my boyfriend sadly was really failed by his doctors when he tried to get help for his problems so hes not been seen to or anything so hes not healed so i totally kinda get if hes not going to be his best. hes kinda acknowledged that though as when he usually has his moments he will say sorry and he is going to get help now hes changed doctor. honestly, ive witnessed and experienced a lot of abusive relationships and heās honestly nothing like the men who are. i can kinda clock red flags easier than i use to and so far ive not had any? Ā heās genuinely been the most caring and gold hearted person ive ever dated and he really does go the extra mile. ive honestly never had that beforeI hate people looking at me being on the phone\laptop, anything that's not entirely games (not counting vp). Like if you're not comfy with it, then that's your boundary atm. Put it down, tilt the screen, talk about it with him if you wanna so you guys know where each other stands.Ā If he doesn't respect it, that's on him, and that's not okay.
like you should put down boundaries. i would not let ppl past my lock screen unless i'm there in the room beside them, or if they asked to use it for a specific task - where i open my phone and lend it to them while being around.Ā He has his own phone. It isn't too hard to just use it. And also, yeah, you should be able to say that "no this time doesn't suit me because i'm talking to someone and it's confidential" and that should be respected. and i think i never will understand why ppl let other ppl into their images either tho. not without them asking and getting it approved. phones are private today, like it has so much of our life on and securiy codes and all that stuff.Ā
it sounds sorta bad like don't get into some control-abuse bullshit with ur bf
i guess just tell him what u like and not thenĀ