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scoff wrote:

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scoff wrote:
I know, I know. It’s just hard to afford a therapist, you know? Because I’d have to cough up the money for it since I’m not actually suffering from bad mental health or shit like that. I’m just going through some kind of age related crisis where nothing suddenly is what it has been and I’ve no idea what anything can become. I’m lost and that’s an issue, but it’s not mental illness. And I’m not really that rich lol I need a car and a drivers license

and yes I want change and I need change
its just hard to figure out how or where to even begin and it’s sort of making me miserable

maybe ungdomsmottagningen would be a first step? they could always give u advice and maybe let u know what they think,, like if u would need more help in terms of professional mental health people or maybe more of a life coach or something like that
i still don't think ur struggles are 2 little to have therapy / talks for

i think it's more of a having to start somewhere,, u can't possibly do stuff all at once, that's unrealistic
u need to figure out what parts of u, that u wanna work on
is it maybe socially ? then maybe a contact person would be good
if it's ur personality ? maybe the psychiatry could help u work out how to get to know urself
past trauma ? psych would be good as well
get to the root of the problem u know,, maybe ur shutting things out making u feel like this,, but once again i can't know what types of stuff has landed u to feel this way

but yeah don't be afraid to contact people, ur worthy of help and u shouldn't be ashamed of it either
lots of people struggle and it's ok

I’m too old for ungdomsmottagningen
they only accept you until you turn 23 and I’m 24

I think a therapist would be a good thing perhaps, only issue is I’d have to pay out of pocket eh
i think I could possibly manage that, but then there’s also the travel and train tickets aren’t free and I also don’t work on a schedule meaning I could get a call in the morning asking me to come in on the afternoon and... idk everything is so hard
but I think it would be good
but then also what would I even say to them? I have this thing that whenever I’ve tried this before I just tell them I’m well and it was pms uhm

i see...

but only until frikort tho? unless u go private but that's a whole thing of itself
if u tell them ur well u don't rly trust the person tho? it's quite a lot to be vulnerable and letting people know the real you
or that u don't wanna bother them with ur problems
but then again they are there to help u,,, so i think u need to keep looking until u find that person that understands u for u and can help u in the best way possible
like heck, it took me like 4 people before i finally found the right one and this was vuxenpsyk alone

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scoff wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

scoff wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
How did you change things
when you experienced this before?

Did I ever experience this before? Did I really do anything about it?

idk the last time I was tired of life I was 19 and went on a 6 month bar hopping drinking binge with my friends only to meet a guy and move in with him within basically weeks only to realize he was an asshole yet staying with him until he kicked me out when I was 23

at least I think that’s how it happened

I’m not sure I didn’t keep up with the story.
Idk how things are in your country
but if you’re tired of things
change them..starting with using some
of your savings for mental health
Instead of being upset that you have to pay
think of it as an INVESTMENT in YOURSELF
good luck!

Yeah I just need to get my drivers license first because my boss is nagging me about it since I really do need it for work... which is prio #1 because eh I need to keep making money obviously
then I’ll cough up whatever money is needed

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scoff wrote:

Nice wrote:

scoff wrote:

Nice wrote:
maybe ungdomsmottagningen would be a first step? they could always give u advice and maybe let u know what they think,, like if u would need more help in terms of professional mental health people or maybe more of a life coach or something like that
i still don't think ur struggles are 2 little to have therapy / talks for

i think it's more of a having to start somewhere,, u can't possibly do stuff all at once, that's unrealistic
u need to figure out what parts of u, that u wanna work on
is it maybe socially ? then maybe a contact person would be good
if it's ur personality ? maybe the psychiatry could help u work out how to get to know urself
past trauma ? psych would be good as well
get to the root of the problem u know,, maybe ur shutting things out making u feel like this,, but once again i can't know what types of stuff has landed u to feel this way

but yeah don't be afraid to contact people, ur worthy of help and u shouldn't be ashamed of it either
lots of people struggle and it's ok

I’m too old for ungdomsmottagningen
they only accept you until you turn 23 and I’m 24

I think a therapist would be a good thing perhaps, only issue is I’d have to pay out of pocket eh
i think I could possibly manage that, but then there’s also the travel and train tickets aren’t free and I also don’t work on a schedule meaning I could get a call in the morning asking me to come in on the afternoon and... idk everything is so hard
but I think it would be good
but then also what would I even say to them? I have this thing that whenever I’ve tried this before I just tell them I’m well and it was pms uhm

i see...

but only until frikort tho? unless u go private but that's a whole thing of itself
if u tell them ur well u don't rly trust the person tho? it's quite a lot to be vulnerable and letting people know the real you
or that u don't wanna bother them with ur problems
but then again they are there to help u,,, so i think u need to keep looking until u find that person that understands u for u and can help u in the best way possible
like heck, it took me like 4 people before i finally found the right one and this was vuxenpsyk alone

I’d have to go private because with the state of things they don’t really have time for people who aren’t actually ill or need actual treatment. I mean I function and could probably go on living the rest of my life this way, it’s just that I probably don’t want to. So yeah, money. I’ll get there eventually.

And idk I don’t think I trust anyone unless I’m drunk and I can’t go to a therapist while drunk. Actually most of the time I don’t have problems at all and feel perfectly fine, but lately something’s been bothering me and I don’t really know what the fuck is up. I’ll do it. Imma save up.

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scoff wrote:
I mean I thought I knew what I wanted but then I got drunk for two nights in a row this weekend because I finally had a weekend off lol and now I don’t know anything anymore??? Godddd

It always always always comes back to me just wanting to be someone who stands out. I want to be paid attention, I want to be liked, I want to be admired. I think I’m a narcissist. That’s what it always comes back to. I don’t want to have to be empathetic or caring towards others if they aren’t towards me (except of course at work - at work I get paid to do things for others and thus I like doing it,,, and it’s genuine too because I don’t get caught up in never ending thoughts about how I’m getting NOTHING out of it at all after hours and hours)