my dad kicked me out TW: su!cide - Forum

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Versailles wrote:
Oh my god your dad is a prick. I'm so sorry to hear how he treats you. You're an adult and make your own choises around how you want to dress, and the whole s*icide part quite fucked up. It is traumatizing experience and i'm so sorry that you went trough that.

I hope you got your brother and people around you who can support you. But i'm proud that you look forward; to study and get a job, n get economical indipendent. This isn't envoriment to live with and shouldn't accept such behaviour. Focus on yourself, your mental health and be kind to yourself.

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Lemon wrote:

Abby wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Abby wrote:
Man he remindsme too much of my own father but mine is more... less vocal and more actions type of guy )))
but yeah mine's partially Azeri so I know the pain more or less, it's so bad

i am sorry you went through that :/ middle eastern dads are... something.

truly are, mine'snot eveen fully turkic like BRUH PLEASE
not that russians arebetter but godDAMN

like
your kids should be your treasure what the FUCK are you DOING people
uuuuugggggh

if you were gonna abuse the life energy out of em whyd u have children

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Lemon wrote:

Versailles wrote:
Oh my god your dad is a prick. I'm so sorry to hear how he treats you. You're an adult and make your own choises around how you want to dress, and the whole s*icide part quite fucked up. It is traumatizing experience and i'm so sorry that you went trough that.

I hope you got your brother and people around you who can support you. But i'm proud that you look forward; to study and get a job, n get economical indipendent. This isn't envoriment to live with and shouldn't accept such behaviour. Focus on yourself, your mental health and be kind to yourself.

this is the first time he's done that so i saw his real face i think...
thank you lovely. i am trying to live, gathering this much energy is first tbh

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Arthema wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Abby wrote:

Lemon wrote:
i am sorry you went through that :/ middle eastern dads are... something.

truly are, mine'snot eveen fully turkic like BRUH PLEASE
not that russians arebetter but godDAMN

like
your kids should be your treasure what the FUCK are you DOING people
uuuuugggggh

if you were gonna abuse the life energy out of em whyd u have children

I wholeheartly agree and the main reason why I won't have em, won't continue the cycle
I count those people as weak people that fell to peer pressure of having kids and just
not everyone should be allowed to have em, and I'd include myself in the "can't have em"

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Lemon wrote:

Abby wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Abby wrote:
truly are, mine'snot eveen fully turkic like BRUH PLEASE
not that russians arebetter but godDAMN

like
your kids should be your treasure what the FUCK are you DOING people
uuuuugggggh

if you were gonna abuse the life energy out of em whyd u have children

I wholeheartly agree and the main reason why I won't have em, won't continue the cycle
I count those people as weak people that fell to peer pressure of having kids and just
not everyone should be allowed to have em, and I'd include myself in the "can't have em"

and you know whats the worst part?
today my bf's mom texted me, "hey how are you my baby? i ate the biscuits you left this morning. i love you btw! my good hearted, pretty girl <3"
and... it just shows. it is not that hard to love me. take care of me. if you see me as your daughter, you have to support me. this woman takes better care of me and supports me better than my parents.
because she does not think of me as a "good successful daughter" trophy she can show to everyone. she sees me as her daughter.
and it broke me.
it was this easy... to just... not fucking abuse me.

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Arthema wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Abby wrote:

Lemon wrote:
if you were gonna abuse the life energy out of em whyd u have children

I wholeheartly agree and the main reason why I won't have em, won't continue the cycle
I count those people as weak people that fell to peer pressure of having kids and just
not everyone should be allowed to have em, and I'd include myself in the "can't have em"

and you know whats the worst part?
today my bf's mom texted me, "hey how are you my baby? i ate the biscuits you left this morning. i love you btw! my good hearted, pretty girl <3"
and... it just shows. it is not that hard to love me. take care of me. if you see me as your daughter, you have to support me. this woman takes better care of me and supports me better than my parents.
because she does not think of me as a "good successful daughter" trophy she can show to everyone. she sees me as her daughter.
and it broke me.
it was this easy... to just... not fucking abuse me.

yeah it's baffling how shocking it is seeing the parents of your partner being so caring and loving to you, while yours... it happened to me for the first time now and just... crushed me.

Sadly some people are just incapble of loving the right and healthy way

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Anachronism wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Anachronism wrote:
I agree with @Delusion1111111

idk your age but you sound young. I'm guessing late teens? early twenties?

when you start your own independent life things will get better. If you have to cut them off, do it. I cut my mom off for awhile. I regained contact but I'm not afraid to cut it off either. I'm hoping your dad turns around. If not focus on the positive people in your life. It sucks when your own family can't be positive figures but just find other people to focus your energy on.

Is there anywhere else you could stay? doesn't seem like being around your parents is a good idea rn

i am 22
i have to finish school and get a job n that is not happening before a year... i just hope i can hang on. i will get a job though, so i hope it will get better once i get a job.

Ok, thought you were somewhere around there in age.

You sure you can't get out now? Is it possible to get a part time job and a roommate at all?

definitely just focus on getting out of there as you become established and develop your own life and don't need your parents anymore. Interact with them as little as you can for now. Be at home as little as possible.

Life was so much better when I cut my mom off for a year and moved out on my own. My mom and I have a good relationship now. Cannot say it will be true for you or that your relationship blunders will be temporary, but breaking away from them will open a whole new world at least. I promise you that.

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Limbs wrote:
i'm so sorry ur going through this. your dad sounds like actually severely mentally ill

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Miguel wrote:
my brain literally melts every time i read this, but your father is in fact insane. theres no possible way he'd behave this crazy because of some crocs
also, i really hope you're somewhere safe and cut him off cause he looks like he could harm you next time in a physical way. take a lot of care hun and please remember this is not your fault, as well as you can and must wear what you want

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Lemon wrote:

Anachronism wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Anachronism wrote:
I agree with @Delusion1111111

idk your age but you sound young. I'm guessing late teens? early twenties?

when you start your own independent life things will get better. If you have to cut them off, do it. I cut my mom off for awhile. I regained contact but I'm not afraid to cut it off either. I'm hoping your dad turns around. If not focus on the positive people in your life. It sucks when your own family can't be positive figures but just find other people to focus your energy on.

Is there anywhere else you could stay? doesn't seem like being around your parents is a good idea rn

i am 22
i have to finish school and get a job n that is not happening before a year... i just hope i can hang on. i will get a job though, so i hope it will get better once i get a job.

Ok, thought you were somewhere around there in age.

You sure you can't get out now? Is it possible to get a part time job and a roommate at all?

definitely just focus on getting out of there as you become established and develop your own life and don't need your parents anymore. Interact with them as little as you can for now. Be at home as little as possible.

Life was so much better when I cut my mom off for a year and moved out on my own. My mom and I have a good relationship now. Cannot say it will be true for you or that your relationship blunders will be temporary, but breaking away from them will open a whole new world at least. I promise you that.

they won't let me and i cannot escape this "desperation" feelings. more than tthat, economy here is fucked and everything is so expensive. i cannot live off of part time jobs. unless i finish school and earn my money and get MYSELF a house, they wont let me move out.

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Lemon wrote:

Limbs wrote:
i'm so sorry ur going through this. your dad sounds like actually severely mentally ill

yeah, i think he is also burnt out from working too much and economical issues we face rn. does not justify him i know it is just i kind of understand him. will i forgive though? no.

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Lemon wrote:

Miguel wrote:
my brain literally melts every time i read this, but your father is in fact insane. theres no possible way he'd behave this crazy because of some crocs
also, i really hope you're somewhere safe and cut him off cause he looks like he could harm you next time in a physical way. take a lot of care hun and please remember this is not your fault, as well as you can and must wear what you want

i am trying to live in my brother's place but eventually i will have to go back. i just want him to regret. i will find a job so i wont see him during the day, and in the evenings i just can sleep early so i wont see him.
thank you so much. for now i think i will cut my nails since every family member tells me to. it is like they are so unhealthily obsessed with my long nails i dont understand.
it is autumn too, so crocs would be too cold to wear.
i am afraid i will have to bow down for 1 year, then get a job and leave.

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MissLondon wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Limbs wrote:
i'm so sorry ur going through this. your dad sounds like actually severely mentally ill

yeah, i think he is also burnt out from working too much and economical issues we face rn. does not justify him i know it is just i kind of understand him. will i forgive though? no.

If your dad is burnt out from working/financial strain
maybe he wouldn’t be upset if you worked part time
while living at home.
It would give you some independence
and allow you to save money for your own place
It might also make him and others chill
about your nails, shoes whatever
if their money didn’t pay for it.

Also would be weird if he got upset over it
because most parents want their kids to be independent
since they won’t live forever.

Anyway, best of luck with
your situation

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Lemon wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Lemon wrote:

Limbs wrote:
i'm so sorry ur going through this. your dad sounds like actually severely mentally ill

yeah, i think he is also burnt out from working too much and economical issues we face rn. does not justify him i know it is just i kind of understand him. will i forgive though? no.

If your dad is burnt out from working/financial strain
maybe he wouldn’t be upset if you worked part time
while living at home.
It would give you some independence
and allow you to save money for your own place
It might also make him and others chill
about your nails, shoes whatever
if their money didn’t pay for it.

Also would be weird if he got upset over it
because most parents want their kids to be independent
since they won’t live forever.

Anyway, best of luck with
your situation

i already told him i made cv and that i am reaching out to a job giver. he knew i was going to get a work. in fact ii worked 2 jobs last semester so i could pay myself without any help and took off 450tl a month off of his back.
i also bought my sheos with my money sad