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> Friend started new group rp, invites me and our usual rp friends
> Friend asks her bf if he wants to join
> Everything is fine and nice and we're all having fun creating characters
> I go to bed last night
> Someone mentions how it is yucky that that belle in beauty in the beast is 17 and the beast is 21
> The bf decides it's v important to him to mention that it was okay back then because it was the norm or whatever
> other person + two other peeps argues that it still aint okay just because it's historical
>They start to argue
> Eventually they seem to reluctantly stop
> Everyone continues to chat normally
> The bf starts to pm the people he was arguing with that they should die/kill themselves. Multiple times.
> I wake up and log on to my friend having written a long message about how stressed out she is about this and how it's not like her boyfriend at all, and that he's stressed because of mental + physical health complications.
> people try to get back to normal but it awkward now yo
> now friend + her boyf has apparently talked about it, and he apologized through her.
> O - o

The thing is... I was honestly not even surprised, because to me he has always seemed like a hot head and he has on multiple occasions gotten really argumentative with me. Like deadass had a text convo with my friend once and he disagreed with me and felt like he had to text me separately to argue with me about it - based on a conversation he was not even participating in??? And my friend has started to like defend the use of slurs in 'certain contexts' because 100% the dude yells them when gaming...

But i can't say anything cause i don't wanna be mean to her and they live each other and he seems to be nice to her + she really needs someone in her life to be close to since a good chunk of her family have been really awful to her.

feel really bad for her tho cause like this group of people is her friends?? imagine telling your so's friends to kill themselves because you felt like your opinion about the modern day illegal age gap in beauty in the best was kind of okay.

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devilcake wrote:
This is also the guy who got a book on femenism for christmas for a family member because it's an inside joke among those who knows him that he's anti-feminist/sexist or smth?

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devilcake wrote:
> Friend started new group rp, invites me and our usual rp friends
> Friend asks her bf if he wants to join
> Everything is fine and nice and we're all having fun creating characters
> I go to bed last night
> Someone mentions how it is yucky that that belle in beauty in the beast is 17 and the beast is 21
> The bf decides it's v important to him to mention that it was okay back then because it was the norm or whatever
> other person + two other peeps argues that it still aint okay just because it's historical
>They start to argue
> Eventually they seem to reluctantly stop
> Everyone continues to chat normally
> The bf starts to pm the people he was arguing with that they should die/kill themselves. Multiple times.
> I wake up and log on to my friend having written a long message about how stressed out she is about this and how it's not like her boyfriend at all, and that he's stressed because of mental + physical health complications.
> people try to get back to normal but it awkward now yo
> now friend + her boyf has apparently talked about it, and he apologized through her.
> O - o

The thing is... I was honestly not even surprised, because to me he has always seemed like a hot head and he has on multiple occasions gotten really argumentative with me. Like deadass had a text convo with my friend once and he disagreed with me and felt like he had to text me separately to argue with me about it - based on a conversation he was not even participating in??? And my friend has started to like defend the use of slurs in 'certain contexts' because 100% the dude yells them when gaming...

But i can't say anything cause i don't wanna be mean to her and they live each other and he seems to be nice to her + she really needs someone in her life to be close to since a good chunk of her family have been really awful to her.

feel really bad for her tho cause like this group of people is her friends?? imagine telling your so's friends to kill themselves because you felt like your opinion about the modern day illegal age gap in beauty in the beast was kind of okay.

> So your friend is now his mom? What a joke of a man
> You should tell your friend that slurs are slurs, no matter the context, and that it's a big problem to defend her boyfriend when he says it.
> It's not about being mean or not, it's about being real with her. Perhaps not even tell her, but rather her boyfriend since he's the one acting like an asshole
> You could try to be that someone; make her know that she's not alone
> Even if he was right, why would he tell someone to kill themselves for not thinking the same way as he does? He's a man-child

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devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:
> Friend started new group rp, invites me and our usual rp friends
> Friend asks her bf if he wants to join
> Everything is fine and nice and we're all having fun creating characters
> I go to bed last night
> Someone mentions how it is yucky that that belle in beauty in the beast is 17 and the beast is 21
> The bf decides it's v important to him to mention that it was okay back then because it was the norm or whatever
> other person + two other peeps argues that it still aint okay just because it's historical
>They start to argue
> Eventually they seem to reluctantly stop
> Everyone continues to chat normally
> The bf starts to pm the people he was arguing with that they should die/kill themselves. Multiple times.
> I wake up and log on to my friend having written a long message about how stressed out she is about this and how it's not like her boyfriend at all, and that he's stressed because of mental + physical health complications.
> people try to get back to normal but it awkward now yo
> now friend + her boyf has apparently talked about it, and he apologized through her.
> O - o

The thing is... I was honestly not even surprised, because to me he has always seemed like a hot head and he has on multiple occasions gotten really argumentative with me. Like deadass had a text convo with my friend once and he disagreed with me and felt like he had to text me separately to argue with me about it - based on a conversation he was not even participating in??? And my friend has started to like defend the use of slurs in 'certain contexts' because 100% the dude yells them when gaming...

But i can't say anything cause i don't wanna be mean to her and they live each other and he seems to be nice to her + she really needs someone in her life to be close to since a good chunk of her family have been really awful to her.

feel really bad for her tho cause like this group of people is her friends?? imagine telling your so's friends to kill themselves because you felt like your opinion about the modern day illegal age gap in beauty in the beast was kind of okay.

> So your friend is now his mom? What a joke of a man
> You should tell your friend that slurs are slurs, no matter the context, and that it's a big problem to defend her boyfriend when he says it.
> It's not about being mean or not, it's about being real with her. Perhaps not even tell her, but rather her boyfriend since he's the one acting like an asshole
> You could try to be that someone; make her know that she's not alone
> Even if he was right, why would he tell someone to kill themselves for not thinking the same way as he does? He's a man-child

I am and i do try to be that person to be there for her, and I have been in the past, but she lives in another country so i can't be there for her as in physically there for her. Like he's helping her through surgery recovery and shit right now, they live together etc.

But i get wym, like i am doing her a disservice by not calling it out. I try to argue when i feel like his toxic behavior are rubbing off usually, without coming on too strong and put her off because unlike him she's very like 'eh let's just agree to disagree and move on' I'd tell him off personally but at this point i think it'd just cause her more stress if we start fighting.

Everyone in the group chat who were affected agreed that telling people to kill themselves is deeper than having a bad day so at least that has been pointed out

but yeah man-child. defo.

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devilcake wrote:
he's also her first real boyfriend and at this point i really wish i had told her to maybe consider if they were going to fast when they started dating e - e

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remains wrote:
yikes throw the whole man i the trash

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BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:
> Friend started new group rp, invites me and our usual rp friends
> Friend asks her bf if he wants to join
> Everything is fine and nice and we're all having fun creating characters
> I go to bed last night
> Someone mentions how it is yucky that that belle in beauty in the beast is 17 and the beast is 21
> The bf decides it's v important to him to mention that it was okay back then because it was the norm or whatever
> other person + two other peeps argues that it still aint okay just because it's historical
>They start to argue
> Eventually they seem to reluctantly stop
> Everyone continues to chat normally
> The bf starts to pm the people he was arguing with that they should die/kill themselves. Multiple times.
> I wake up and log on to my friend having written a long message about how stressed out she is about this and how it's not like her boyfriend at all, and that he's stressed because of mental + physical health complications.
> people try to get back to normal but it awkward now yo
> now friend + her boyf has apparently talked about it, and he apologized through her.
> O - o

The thing is... I was honestly not even surprised, because to me he has always seemed like a hot head and he has on multiple occasions gotten really argumentative with me. Like deadass had a text convo with my friend once and he disagreed with me and felt like he had to text me separately to argue with me about it - based on a conversation he was not even participating in??? And my friend has started to like defend the use of slurs in 'certain contexts' because 100% the dude yells them when gaming...

But i can't say anything cause i don't wanna be mean to her and they live each other and he seems to be nice to her + she really needs someone in her life to be close to since a good chunk of her family have been really awful to her.

feel really bad for her tho cause like this group of people is her friends?? imagine telling your so's friends to kill themselves because you felt like your opinion about the modern day illegal age gap in beauty in the beast was kind of okay.

> So your friend is now his mom? What a joke of a man
> You should tell your friend that slurs are slurs, no matter the context, and that it's a big problem to defend her boyfriend when he says it.
> It's not about being mean or not, it's about being real with her. Perhaps not even tell her, but rather her boyfriend since he's the one acting like an asshole
> You could try to be that someone; make her know that she's not alone
> Even if he was right, why would he tell someone to kill themselves for not thinking the same way as he does? He's a man-child

I am and i do try to be that person to be there for her, and I have been in the past, but she lives in another country so i can't be there for her as in physically there for her. Like he's helping her through surgery recovery and shit right now, they live together etc.

But i get wym, like i am doing her a disservice by not calling it out. I try to argue when i feel like his toxic behavior are rubbing off usually, without coming on too strong and put her off because unlike him she's very like 'eh let's just agree to disagree and move on' I'd tell him off personally but at this point i think it'd just cause her more stress if we start fighting.

Everyone in the group chat who were affected agreed that telling people to kill themselves is deeper than having a bad day so at least that has been pointed out

but yeah man-child. defo.

I'm truly sorry for her, and I hope that she'll understand that he's doing wrong, and that she can not be the mother of her partner (I mean, she isn't supposed to care for him as if he was a child, he's an adult)

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bones wrote:
yikes throw the whole man i the trash

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devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:
> So your friend is now his mom? What a joke of a man
> You should tell your friend that slurs are slurs, no matter the context, and that it's a big problem to defend her boyfriend when he says it.
> It's not about being mean or not, it's about being real with her. Perhaps not even tell her, but rather her boyfriend since he's the one acting like an asshole
> You could try to be that someone; make her know that she's not alone
> Even if he was right, why would he tell someone to kill themselves for not thinking the same way as he does? He's a man-child

I am and i do try to be that person to be there for her, and I have been in the past, but she lives in another country so i can't be there for her as in physically there for her. Like he's helping her through surgery recovery and shit right now, they live together etc.

But i get wym, like i am doing her a disservice by not calling it out. I try to argue when i feel like his toxic behavior are rubbing off usually, without coming on too strong and put her off because unlike him she's very like 'eh let's just agree to disagree and move on' I'd tell him off personally but at this point i think it'd just cause her more stress if we start fighting.

Everyone in the group chat who were affected agreed that telling people to kill themselves is deeper than having a bad day so at least that has been pointed out

but yeah man-child. defo.

I'm truly sorry for her, and I hope that she'll understand that he's doing wrong, and that she can not be the mother of her partner

yeah it's honestly sad to see her take responsibility for his actions in the chat.. Everyone's been telling her it's not her job to excuse him, he should take accountability for his own actions, but obviously she feels responsible because he's her boyfriend and she invited him to the group

We'll see if he decides to act like an adult and actually apologize but i doubt it

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devilcake wrote:

bones wrote:
yikes throw the whole man i the trash

truly

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devilcake wrote:
All my friends end up with shitty bfs and i'm the only one who can see it apparently.

My other bff's boyfriend was a shit-head too and i got real bad vibes from him the moment we met lmao

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BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:

I am and i do try to be that person to be there for her, and I have been in the past, but she lives in another country so i can't be there for her as in physically there for her. Like he's helping her through surgery recovery and shit right now, they live together etc.

But i get wym, like i am doing her a disservice by not calling it out. I try to argue when i feel like his toxic behavior are rubbing off usually, without coming on too strong and put her off because unlike him she's very like 'eh let's just agree to disagree and move on' I'd tell him off personally but at this point i think it'd just cause her more stress if we start fighting.

Everyone in the group chat who were affected agreed that telling people to kill themselves is deeper than having a bad day so at least that has been pointed out

but yeah man-child. defo.

I'm truly sorry for her, and I hope that she'll understand that he's doing wrong, and that she can not be the mother of her partner

yeah it's honestly sad to see her take responsibility for his actions in the chat.. Everyone's been telling her it's not her job to excuse him, he should take accountability for his own actions, but obviously she feels responsible because he's her boyfriend and she invited him to the group

We'll see if he decides to act like an adult and actually apologize but i doubt it

She's really brainwashed, I'm sorry to say that but it's an objective fact

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devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:
I'm truly sorry for her, and I hope that she'll understand that he's doing wrong, and that she can not be the mother of her partner

yeah it's honestly sad to see her take responsibility for his actions in the chat.. Everyone's been telling her it's not her job to excuse him, he should take accountability for his own actions, but obviously she feels responsible because he's her boyfriend and she invited him to the group

We'll see if he decides to act like an adult and actually apologize but i doubt it

She's really brainwashed, I'm sorry to say that but it's an objective fact

yeah maybe that's it. She's a very empathetic person too, normally. so if he's going through a hard time with his health right now it's not surprising she's blaming that, because she feels bad for him yanno.

idk it feels manipulative on his part too. To be all 'no it wasn't me it's all the shit i've been going through.' She's been through so much shit as well though and she would never.

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devilcake wrote:
Hate it when people act as if they were a separate person when they were angry like stfu that's you

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BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:

BEWAREARTEMIS wrote:

devilcake wrote:

yeah it's honestly sad to see her take responsibility for his actions in the chat.. Everyone's been telling her it's not her job to excuse him, he should take accountability for his own actions, but obviously she feels responsible because he's her boyfriend and she invited him to the group

We'll see if he decides to act like an adult and actually apologize but i doubt it

She's really brainwashed, I'm sorry to say that but it's an objective fact

yeah maybe that's it. She's a very empathetic person too, normally. so if he's going through a hard time with his health right now it's not surprising she's blaming that, because she feels bad for him yanno.

idk it feels manipulative on his part too. To be all 'no it wasn't me it's all the shit i've been going through.' She's been through so much shit as well though and she would never.

She's brainwashed into thinking that she's responsible for everything her boyfriend does. I get that she can feel bad, but still isn't her responsability

He's def manipulating her and everyone else. No matter how much shit have you been going through; everyone has gone through bad shit and many of us still behave like a decent human being. He's just not mature enough to take accountability for the things he does

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Best of luck. Take care.