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I'm too nice
Private
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No seriously, can anyone give me tips on how to stop???
It has gotten me in some many unnecessary situations 


I'm kind of annoyed right now
I'm working 8 days rotating shifts right now and I'm running on next to no sleep 
2 days ago a housemate lost her key
So she called me at 1am and was like "Alina I'm sleeping at ur place"  and I mean sure
but the day after I had the only chance to sleep in and instead I had to get up early before my shift and drive to several cities with her in search of her key (she has no license/car (basically I have to drive her everywhere)
thankfully I did find the key 
but when we got back she went to sleep in my bed
eventough I had to leave in half an hour
I let her chill a bit but then I told her I had to leave soon
And I had to tell her a million times after because she simply didn't care to leave to her place 
So I got to work later than I had planned which was an annoyance but she was exhausted, so okay I guess
Well today
Right as I walked in the building my phone rang and she told me she doesn't have any money left on her bank account this month blah blah but she has a hairdresser appointment 
She said she asked her mom for money and her mom apparently just said "go ask Alina"
and my housemate said I should just get the rest that's on my bank account bc she has no idea how much it's gonna cost today (around 300 apparently)
So now eventough I planned to sleep after getting home
I now have to go to the bank, get the money, drive to her barber and wait till she's finished there 
And then she'll probably expect me to listen to her brabble about her day eventough I have 0.0 energy left already 

I already had a shit day with my patient, a 2 week old baby basically being gone inside after several brain aneurysms 
Shitty treatment from a new Dr and all the nurses being stressed af bc I'm in the pediatric intensive care unit now 
Like my day was crap and I'm through 
But I can't fucking say no 
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no you don't have to get the money, tell her to cancel the appointment
Kalypso
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Heaven wrote:
no you don't have to get the money, tell her to cancel the appointment
yeah, wtf??? she shouldn't had got an appointment at the hair dresser if she wouldn't have the money for it jesus
MissLondon
Queen of Queens



Learn to say no and not feel guilty
otherwise you’ll be a doormat forever 
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Heaven wrote:
no you don't have to get the money, tell her to cancel the appointment
THIS.
Like that's a luxury, not a nessecity. 
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Honestly, say no, you don't have any energy and space for it right now. It will suck at first, but you have to set yourself first too. You have already prioritized her over yourself for 2 days and not gotten the sleep you needed. She should understand that, and respect that. Tell her no b\c ppl will just take until you don't have more to give if you don't start putting down the boundaries. 

Your sleep is more important than her spending your money on an appointment that she can cancel or reshedule.
Private
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Bug
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Flush her down the toilet honestly
Lean
Streetmusician



DO NOT go to that appointment. tell her you're not doing that, seriously i can walk you through the whole process if you need. she's majorly taking advantage of you. real friends don't ask for money for luxuries. just reading that got me heated.
Lean
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lean wrote:
DO NOT go to that appointment. tell her you're not doing that, seriously i can walk you through the whole process if you need. she's majorly taking advantage of you. real friends don't ask for money for luxuries. just reading that got me heated.
ik you know that that's Bad Friend Behaviour, i don't mean to explain that to you when you obviously already know. it just really aggrivates me to see friends take advantage of other people's kindness like that.
SweetLapis
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It sounds like she's taking an advantage of you honestly.
Don't know what to tell you other then just straight up say no, I know it's not easy but it's better then being treated like some doormat. If she gives you crap, then I'd consider not bothering to help her with anything anymore since by acting like that then she feels entitled to that special treatment on your part and that's not right. Besides taking advantage here, your own needs are being ignored cause of this. Everybody needs sleep in order to function at their best, your needs for the most part should never be ignored cause of somebody.
So, yeah tell her no. Seriously your doing yourself a big favor at the end of the day. There's nothing wrong with saying no once in a while.
Private
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just ghost her tbh, if you don't wanna say no just don't answer her / don't show up to the appointment. if she tries to call you don't answer and if she asks about it later just say something came up. it's her problem not yours

she's treating you like crap right now so i think it's ok to not treat her the best either. n she won't ask you to help anymore if she learns that you're unreliable to her. in the long term it would be better to learn to stand up for yourself tho but this is a quick solution
Private
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also if you can contact her mom tell the mom this isn't acceptable.
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