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People are trying to talk my mother into going to the funeral of her father while I'm here trying to counter all of that because I honestly do not think she should go it's only going to end up in a lot of bitching and bad energy.
Context:
In October 2019, slightly more than half a year after my grandmother passed away, my mother had had enough with her father because she is low key a horrible person who cannot fathom that other people experience illness and life different from her. My grandfather had COPD so he was anxious about doing things because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to breathe, which to be fair none of his children had any understanding of. One of the things was that he stopped showering because his (late) wife wasn't forcing him anymore, and he was anxious about the steam and how it would affect his breathing which I completely understand. So this was going on my mother's nerves in addition to him, in my mother's word, feeling sorry for himself when the real victim was my grandmother who had to endure him just "sitting down" after being diagnosed and never doing anything more in his life.
So my mother had spent a lot of time cleaning the home and helping him and being there and she reached the conclusion that he was ungrateful for everything she did for him.
That October he was muttering about my mother clogging the sink with some food she had cooked which she has a tendency of doing because you can't teach an old dog new tricks obviously, and it offended her so much she just left and they literally did not talk again over it. My mother's siblings sided with their dad and refused to hear my mother's side of the story (the only side which I've heard). So she hadn't talked to either of them since October 2019, until my last Friday when he suddenly passed away.
My mother has been snarky and bitter about the entire thing for 2.5 years at this point, as she is still bitching about things that happened 30 years ago I can't see that stopping any time soon.
My mother isn't the only horrible person in her family, my uncle and aunt are... objectively worse people than what my mother is.
I don't think my mother should attend, and she doesn't want to. But her friends and boyfriend are trying to talk her into it and I'm ... I don't get it. He's already dead it's too late for her to mend any relation she had with him so there's no point in her being there honestly.
Anyway idk my point I just needed to write it down I guess.
People are trying to talk my mother into going to the funeral of her father while I'm here trying to counter all of that because I honestly do not think she should go it's only going to end up in a lot of bitching and bad energy.
Context:
In October 2019, slightly more than half a year after my grandmother passed away, my mother had had enough with her father because she is low key a horrible person who cannot fathom that other people experience illness and life different from her. My grandfather had COPD so he was anxious about doing things because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to breathe, which to be fair none of his children had any understanding of. One of the things was that he stopped showering because his (late) wife wasn't forcing him anymore, and he was anxious about the steam and how it would affect his breathing which I completely understand. So this was going on my mother's nerves in addition to him, in my mother's word, feeling sorry for himself when the real victim was my grandmother who had to endure him just "sitting down" after being diagnosed and never doing anything more in his life.
So my mother had spent a lot of time cleaning the home and helping him and being there and she reached the conclusion that he was ungrateful for everything she did for him.
That October he was muttering about my mother clogging the sink with some food she had cooked which she has a tendency of doing because you can't teach an old dog new tricks obviously, and it offended her so much she just left and they literally did not talk again over it. My mother's siblings sided with their dad and refused to hear my mother's side of the story (the only side which I've heard). So she hadn't talked to either of them since October 2019, until my last Friday when he suddenly passed away.
My mother has been snarky and bitter about the entire thing for 2.5 years at this point, as she is still bitching about things that happened 30 years ago I can't see that stopping any time soon.
My mother isn't the only horrible person in her family, my uncle and aunt are... objectively worse people than what my mother is.
I don't think my mother should attend, and she doesn't want to. But her friends and boyfriend are trying to talk her into it and I'm ... I don't get it. He's already dead it's too late for her to mend any relation she had with him so there's no point in her being there honestly.
Anyway idk my point I just needed to write it down I guess.
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