absintjente wrote:
ok so i have a friend group from folk high school, which is a super norwegian dorm school thing after high school and very friends for life type beat. we've kept contact since we graduated and we do stuff together often, even when all of us dont live in oslo! we've celebrated new years eve together for the last three years n so on n so forth. we have lots of fun.
BUT
last year my friend Jessie had her birthday. n i was not invited to the birthday dinner, despite it being in oslo n me living closer to oslo when im summer working than she does. i was not invited at all. it was not mentioned to me at all. i was kinda miffed but chalked it up to "they assumed i worked" (i rarely work evenings)
n then in february there was An Event! we all gathered in Oslo to have fun n hang out, n while walking Jessie mentioned her birthday and was like "oh it was so sad that you couldnt make it" n i was like ???? "uhm, i was not invited". she went like o.o but didnt mention it further.
later that night we were pre gaming, n my other friend Sandra asked me to send a snap on her behalf. and upon sending it i noticed they all had a snapchat group without me in it! i said nothing, but later that evening i was added n they all were like "oh ah we forgot!". at that point the group was close to A YEAR. im not super active on snap, but not inactive enough for me to NEVER EVER snap them??? for a year??? i joked and jested it there n then, but later that evening i spent my time in the bathroom consulting strangers for advice and practically interrogating them one by one as they happened upon me in the bathroom. i talekd to Leah and Molly in the bathroom n Leah was like "oh how horrible! i didnt know! i wasnt aware!" n Molly was like "ive always felt as if I'M the one whos excluded"
we went to get night food n it all unfolded. i tried to casually ask Sandra why i wasnt invited n why i wasnt added to the snap group n she was like "mmm mm mymmamjmam". at last i confronted Jessie, i cried n she was like "blah blah blah ur my closest friend"
now, ive been wary of them ever since. ive not been able to fully trust them.
Molly's birthday is on monday n i am completely convinced that if they hadnt mentioned it in front of me they wouldnt have invited me.
so far this tale has only been a banal retelling of friendship troubles between 5 women in their early twenties, but put on ur hat: it gets weird.
today we were celebrating Jessies birthday (they remembered this year LOL) n after dinner me, Molly, Sandra n Jessie went out to get a pint.
as i mentioned, we celebrate NYE together. i am the one who hosts. this year i hosted it at my parents house, in the house i grew up. they were comically late, but thats besides the point. turns out, during NYE they all had sex. with each other. in my childhood room. in my childhood BED!!! and how did i find out? by total accident!!! Sandra showed me her sex list and i read it n there it was... they all had sex! with each other! in my bed! if i hadnt happened upon it by complete accident i am totally convinced i would NEVER know.
the two glaring problems here are:
1) dude, if you have sex in someone elses bed have the common fucking decency to tell them, apologize profusely and wash their linens.
2) they exclude me from stuff
like, if this was a one time thing, if they only had sex in my bed, it would be really weird but nothing more? but all of it, together??? it kinda hurts. im disappointed! im pissed! and i dont know what to do! i dont know if there even is anything to do????
ok so i have a friend group from folk high school, which is a super norwegian dorm school thing after high school and very friends for life type beat. we've kept contact since we graduated and we do stuff together often, even when all of us dont live in oslo! we've celebrated new years eve together for the last three years n so on n so forth. we have lots of fun.
BUT
last year my friend Jessie had her birthday. n i was not invited to the birthday dinner, despite it being in oslo n me living closer to oslo when im summer working than she does. i was not invited at all. it was not mentioned to me at all. i was kinda miffed but chalked it up to "they assumed i worked" (i rarely work evenings)
n then in february there was An Event! we all gathered in Oslo to have fun n hang out, n while walking Jessie mentioned her birthday and was like "oh it was so sad that you couldnt make it" n i was like ???? "uhm, i was not invited". she went like o.o but didnt mention it further.
later that night we were pre gaming, n my other friend Sandra asked me to send a snap on her behalf. and upon sending it i noticed they all had a snapchat group without me in it! i said nothing, but later that evening i was added n they all were like "oh ah we forgot!". at that point the group was close to A YEAR. im not super active on snap, but not inactive enough for me to NEVER EVER snap them??? for a year??? i joked and jested it there n then, but later that evening i spent my time in the bathroom consulting strangers for advice and practically interrogating them one by one as they happened upon me in the bathroom. i talekd to Leah and Molly in the bathroom n Leah was like "oh how horrible! i didnt know! i wasnt aware!" n Molly was like "ive always felt as if I'M the one whos excluded"
we went to get night food n it all unfolded. i tried to casually ask Sandra why i wasnt invited n why i wasnt added to the snap group n she was like "mmm mm mymmamjmam". at last i confronted Jessie, i cried n she was like "blah blah blah ur my closest friend"
now, ive been wary of them ever since. ive not been able to fully trust them.
Molly's birthday is on monday n i am completely convinced that if they hadnt mentioned it in front of me they wouldnt have invited me.
so far this tale has only been a banal retelling of friendship troubles between 5 women in their early twenties, but put on ur hat: it gets weird.
today we were celebrating Jessies birthday (they remembered this year LOL) n after dinner me, Molly, Sandra n Jessie went out to get a pint.
as i mentioned, we celebrate NYE together. i am the one who hosts. this year i hosted it at my parents house, in the house i grew up. they were comically late, but thats besides the point. turns out, during NYE they all had sex. with each other. in my childhood room. in my childhood BED!!! and how did i find out? by total accident!!! Sandra showed me her sex list and i read it n there it was... they all had sex! with each other! in my bed! if i hadnt happened upon it by complete accident i am totally convinced i would NEVER know.
the two glaring problems here are:
1) dude, if you have sex in someone elses bed have the common fucking decency to tell them, apologize profusely and wash their linens.
2) they exclude me from stuff
like, if this was a one time thing, if they only had sex in my bed, it would be really weird but nothing more? but all of it, together??? it kinda hurts. im disappointed! im pissed! and i dont know what to do! i dont know if there even is anything to do????