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Anachronism wrote:
My coworker has insisted- without even asking- that I am autistic several times on Saturday. Just like out of the blue. After- might I add- admitting she didnt think I'd make it cuz I'm 'scatterbrained.'

I was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome back in the day in the early 2000s when I was 8 but I haven't told anyone I work with. I typically keep it private.

It really rubbed me the wrong way but I cannot decide if it was genuinely rude or if I have a subconscious bias against autism I need to unpack.

I know there are autistics who use VP

What's the verdict?

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Anachronism wrote:
Unrelated but I love this song:

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Anachronism wrote:
Unrelated but I love this song:

I played this song while cleaning the room of a resident with down syndrome who has like 20 clocks hanging on the walls.

I not only had to dust every single one for an upcoming inspection. In addition, I had to reset the time and change the batteries of nearly half of them.

I truly do this job out of love.

Holy shit do I hate that girl tho. Words cant even explain it. Shes such a fake, passive aggressive bitch.

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Anachronism wrote:
I have empathy for the people I work for

I can relate to their anxieties and insistence on structure, consistency and routine

I think it's an advantage that makes me hella good at my job

Maybe i was misunderstanding her but it felt like she was using it against me or something

Fuck off it's a god damn asset to this kinda job

Like when I asked her to help me with the aspect of a cpap machine

"Oh... I'll show you like this, cuz its how you're brain works, cuz you're autistic"

Lady you're not my doctor

You dont know how my fucking brain works

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Sylvan wrote:
She's an asshole

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Babel wrote:
I don't think you have a bias against autism. It does, however, sound like your coworker is a horrible person, and I honestly understand why it rubbed you the wrong way, because it sounds like it was used as an insult against you and not in a statement kind of way, where she tried to be accommodating.

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Effer wrote:
I don't think you have a bias against autism. It does, however, sound like your coworker is a horrible person, and I honestly understand why it rubbed you the wrong way, because it sounds like it was used as an insult against you and not in a statement kind of way, where she tried to be accommodating.

Yes it absolutely felt like an insult

So what if I get overstimulated? She wasnt wrong when she pointed that out. I still do my job. Fuck off.

I dont want anyone to see me getting stressed and overloaded as some kind of sensitivity that needs special accommodation or care. I'm aware of that tendency, and I know how to work through it independently and still do my job not only correctly, but with great dedication and care.

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Anachronism wrote:

Effer wrote:
I don't think you have a bias against autism. It does, however, sound like your coworker is a horrible person, and I honestly understand why it rubbed you the wrong way, because it sounds like it was used as an insult against you and not in a statement kind of way, where she tried to be accommodating.

Yes it absolutely felt like an insult

So what if I get overstimulated? She wasnt wrong when she pointed that out. I still do my job. Fuck off.

I dont want anyone to see me getting stressed and overloaded as some kind of sensitivity that needs special accommodation or care. I'm aware of that ten dency, and I know how to work through it and still do my job not only correctly, but with great dedication and care.

Yeah :/ If she continues I honestly would recommend talking to your boss about it, they hopefully want to create a good job environment, where people don't dread coming to work (more than the usual dread that is being a salary slave)

You also don't need to be autistic to get overstimulated and stressed about work either ??? Especially not when you're working with residents, which is a taxing and hard job in and of itself as well.

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Anachronism wrote:
My coworker has insisted- without even asking- that I am autistic several times on Saturday. Just like out of the blue. After- might I add- admitting she didnt think I'd make it cuz I'm 'scatterbrained.'

I was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome back in the day in the early 2000s when I was 8 but I haven't told anyone I work with. I typically keep it private.

It really rubbed me the wrong way but I cannot decide if it was genuinely rude or if I have a subconscious bias against autism I need to unpack.

I know there are autistics who use VP

What's the verdict?

yeah she's being rude. it happened several times + the next comment. idk what her problem is

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Miguel wrote:
tbh i'd tell her to fuck off somewhere else

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absintjente wrote:
no thats rude

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Anachronism wrote:

Effer wrote:

Anachronism wrote:

Effer wrote:
I don't think you have a bias against autism. It does, however, sound like your coworker is a horrible person, and I honestly understand why it rubbed you the wrong way, because it sounds like it was used as an insult against you and not in a statement kind of way, where she tried to be accommodating.

Yes it absolutely felt like an insult

So what if I get overstimulated? She wasnt wrong when she pointed that out. I still do my job. Fuck off.

I dont want anyone to see me getting stressed and overloaded as some kind of sensitivity that needs special accommodation or care. I'm aware of that ten dency, and I know how to work through it and still do my job not only correctly, but with great dedication and care.

Yeah :/ If she continues I honestly would recommend talking to your boss about it, they hopefully want to create a good job environment, where people don't dread coming to work (more than the usual dread that is being a salary slave)

You also don't need to be autistic to get overstimulated and stressed about work either ??? Especially not when you're working with residents, which is a taxing and hard job in and of itself as well.

I love my job! It's so rewarding. The problem is theres a ton of toxic drama in my workplace. It sucks.

Yeah I kinda thought that was weird too. Even weirder is she compared me to her autistic cousin and said I do the same things he does when hes overstimulated or something.

She claims she and her boyfriend are also autistic but at the same time that gives you no right to be so invasive.

I just changed the topic but next time she does that I'm calling her out. If I have to I will go to the boss. Shes gonna turn on me but so be it. I'm tired of taking peoples shit to keep the peace.

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Miguel wrote:
tbh i'd tell her to fuck off somewhere else

I will next time but I know she will start shit when I do.

She breast feeds which is fine and but she takes too long of pump breaks and at inconvenient times and when we called her out she used our cigarette breaks against us to the boss.

Even tho the difference is we can butt a cigarette out and come back in at any time. You can't when you're stretching out your time to watch tv on your phone in the bathroom pumping

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Claire wrote:

Anachronism wrote:

Miguel wrote:
tbh i'd tell her to fuck off somewhere else

I will next time but I know she will start shit when I do.

She breast feeds which is fine and but she takes too long of pump breaks and at inconvenient times and when we called her out she used our cigarette breaks against us to the boss.

Even tho the difference is we can butt a cigarette out and come back in at any time. You can't when you're stretching out your time to watch tv on your phone in the bathroom pumping

she has to do it when she has to do it tho its painful to not do it when it needs to be done. its possible shes taking advantage of that to play with her phone yea but like you cant ask ur body to to pick more convenient times. there should be a rule in place that she cant bring her phone with her when she does it. i also wish there was a better place for her than the bathroom. like shes going into the bathroom the dirtiest part of the building to make her babies food thats sad to me i hate that for women.

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Anachronism wrote:

Claire wrote:

Anachronism wrote:

Miguel wrote:
tbh i'd tell her to fuck off somewhere else

I will next time but I know she will start shit when I do.

She breast feeds which is fine and but she takes too long of pump breaks and at inconvenient times and when we called her out she used our cigarette breaks against us to the boss.

Even tho the difference is we can butt a cigarette out and come back in at any time. You can't when you're stretching out your time to watch tv on your phone in the bathroom pumping

she has to do it when she has to do it tho its painful to not do it when it needs to be done. its possible shes taking advantage of that to play with her phone yea but like you cant ask ur body to to pick more convenient times. there should be a rule in place that she cant bring her phone with her when she does it. i also wish there was a better place for her than the bathroom. like shes going into the bathroom the dirtiest part of the building to make her babies food thats sad to me i hate that for women.

Oh thank you she mentioned this before and I forgot

I'm out of touch with this kinda stuff as I feel very disconnected from the concept of motherhood and I'm ngl seeing how kids would interfere with my work like that makes me not want to have them

I still think she shouldnt watch vampire diaries while she does it but I should have more empathy

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Claire wrote:

Anachronism wrote:

Effer wrote:
I don't think you have a bias against autism. It does, however, sound like your coworker is a horrible person, and I honestly understand why it rubbed you the wrong way, because it sounds like it was used as an insult against you and not in a statement kind of way, where she tried to be accommodating.

Yes it absolutely felt like an insult

So what if I get overstimulated? She wasnt wrong when she pointed that out. I still do my job. Fuck off.

I dont want anyone to see me getting stressed and overloaded as some kind of sensitivity that needs special accommodation or care. I'm aware of that tendency, and I know how to work through it independently and still do my job not only correctly, but with great dedication and care.

ok but also if you do get overstimulated and someone offers you like some accomodation and extra kindness then you deserve to like take that kindness. this lady isnt doing that shes just like saying 'lol autism' like a good accomodation would be like noticing when you're overstimulated and asking you if you need a smoke break. like its that simple and you taking that smoke break will make you a better worker long term. i had a hard tiem asking for accomodations at my last job and i think it like is part of why the job didnt work out for me is i waited too long to ask for the extra help that i deserved.