MasileinDE wrote:Rouya wrote:
little bit homophobic yes, it implies that (if youre afab) liking men is natural and liking girls isnt, it has to be caused by something traumatic (even though it is just as natural)
a little bit of this, maybe a little bit of curiosity (and lack of understanding, which are both caused by hetronormative thinking patterns)
I guess it's in as much casually homophobic as many heteronormative thinking patterns are
it's not outright hateful or willfully ignorant, it's just not thinking about things that don't take part in your life and your perception on the world (not of the world, but how you interact with it and your preconceived notion that other people share this experience with you)
but I definitely understand how and why it's hurtful, because for you it's not how you look onto the world and thus it feels really invalidating
even if it's out of curiosity, it's like asking people "hey, I saw you being different to me, do you have a trauma that I need to know about?"
it's a bit ... direct, maybe even crude and tasteless to just out of the gate ask stuff like that
yes i agree, it's casual, normalized/internalized homophobia in the way that it naturalizes the heteronormative experience. it is also, as you say, a crude and ignorant question