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sometimes I think I'm gay
Bloodflowers
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Bloodflowers wrote:
even though I've been in relationships and have been intimate with guys before. It's just a different kind of feeling when it comes to girls and it sometimes makes me feel like I've only thought I've been in love with guys.

However I would say I've only been in love with 1 of the guys I've dated but even then we had conversations about me liking girls more than I like guys but it's never really been an issue until my last relationship with a guy who I broke up with for this reason.

Idk it just feels less real? I know I've had a huge sexuality crisis on vp before but I have a girl I like rn and it makes me feel like I don't even like guys. And in periods I feel like I'm not into guys at all so I'm not open for them. And then I'm open for them and it's just not that great. The stomach tingle isn't there.
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:11
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Bloodflowers wrote:
also the fact that I keep coming back to "I think I'm gay" must mean there's some truth to it. Maybe I'm at least 99% gay
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:13
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Bloodflowers wrote:
I also find it hard the difference between loving someone as a friend and loving someone romantically. Because now I'm like what if I only loved that one guy as a friend. Thinking a lot makes me tired and I can't come to a conclusion.
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:22
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Also does it matter? I guess not but a part of me wants to stop chasing after guys thinking that the outcome will be good and I won't have that "but what if I was with a girl" question. sigh
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:24
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Bloodflowers wrote:
I've never doubted my love for girls only my love for boys. confusing times
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:28
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Snakkes wrote:
i can relate to this. i'm pan, but sometimes i only am attracted to men, then for a month or two i'll only like women. then other times, i will be equally attracted to both, or neither. i have weeks where i feel totally asexual and only attracted to people platonically! like what

it's such a strange thing. it just will fluctuate without reason. but i guess sexuality is meant to be fluid (and unreasonably confusing?? lol)
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:31
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Snakkes wrote:
Snakkes wrote:
i can relate to this. i'm pan, but sometimes i only am attracted to men, then for a month or two i'll only like women. then other times, i will be equally attracted to both, or neither. i have weeks where i feel totally asexual and only attracted to people platonically! like what

it's such a strange thing. it just will fluctuate without reason. but i guess sexuality is meant to be fluid (and unreasonably confusing?? lol)
but ik this isn't exactly the same thing, and to answer your question, imo i think there's no need to put a label on it at all, especially if you're unsure. there's no pressure to be called gay or not, esp nowadays since people are a lot more openminded than they used to be
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:33
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Snakkes wrote:
i can relate to this. i'm pan, but sometimes i only am attracted to men, then for a month or two i'll only like women. then other times, i will be equally attracted to both, or neither. i have weeks where i feel totally asexual and only attracted to people platonically! like what

it's such a strange thing. it just will fluctuate without reason. but i guess sexuality is meant to be fluid (and unreasonably confusing?? lol)
that sounds really confusing. sometimes I feel like I'm asexual too tbh but that comes and goes
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:34
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Snakkes wrote:
Snakkes wrote:
i can relate to this. i'm pan, but sometimes i only am attracted to men, then for a month or two i'll only like women. then other times, i will be equally attracted to both, or neither. i have weeks where i feel totally asexual and only attracted to people platonically! like what

it's such a strange thing. it just will fluctuate without reason. but i guess sexuality is meant to be fluid (and unreasonably confusing?? lol)
but ik this isn't exactly the same thing, and to answer your question, imo i think there's no need to put a label on it at all, especially if you're unsure. there's no pressure to be called gay or not, esp nowadays since people are a lot more openminded than they used to be
true. it's less wanting a label and more not wanting to keep getting involved with guys if that's not something I'm into. like I don't want to waste mine or their time. Not sure how I'm ever supposed to figure this out tho
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Date: 15-10-2022 21:35
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Claire wrote:
based on everything you've ever said on this website which is a lot because this forum is your diary- my personal opinion (that doesn't matter at all) is that you're like sexually attracted to both but romantically more interested in women and i think that shit is valid and you can say you're gay or bi or whatever either way is valid and also you can choose to stop getting involved with men romantically if you want and then also date another man again if you change your mind later that shit is also valid. idk if this is useful but i'm saying it.
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Date: 15-10-2022 22:29
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Asmi wrote:
Trying to find out ones attraction can be an easy thing and a hard thing. I recognize the struggle of knowing wether or not you love someone platonically or romantically. Sexuality can fluctuate, it's just that humans enjoy labeling things as either or. More or less, you don't need labels and can trust your gut feeling. If you find a human that you love and are attracted to, you will know in that moment.

Good luck
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Date: 15-10-2022 22:49
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Claire wrote:
based on everything you've ever said on this website which is a lot because this forum is your diary- my personal opinion (that doesn't matter at all) is that you're like sexually attracted to both but romantically more interested in women and i think that shit is valid and you can say you're gay or bi or whatever either way is valid and also you can choose to stop getting involved with men romantically if you want and then also date another man again if you change your mind later that shit is also valid. idk if this is useful but i'm saying it.
very true. I think I'm both more sexually and romantically attracted to women though. Like I've had sex with guys but I've had a bad relationship to sex where I've done it to feel better about myself so idek. But there's also been times when it wasn't awful but idk if I would want to be with a guy again.
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Date: 16-10-2022 20:37
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Bloodflowers wrote:
Asmi wrote:
Trying to find out ones attraction can be an easy thing and a hard thing. I recognize the struggle of knowing wether or not you love someone platonically or romantically. Sexuality can fluctuate, it's just that humans enjoy labeling things as either or. More or less, you don't need labels and can trust your gut feeling. If you find a human that you love and are attracted to, you will know in that moment.

Good luck
thank u
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Date: 16-10-2022 20:39
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Bloodflowers wrote:
I have come to the conclusion that no it doesn't really matter. I am seeing a girl anyway so me wasting my time with boys is not an issue right now.
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Date: 20-10-2022 20:18
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ouch wrote:
Does it matter if ur gay or bi or not , like just go eith the flow and what u feel is right in the moment I feel like
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Date: 20-10-2022 20:24
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Bloodflowers wrote:
ouch wrote:
Does it matter if ur gay or bi or not , like just go eith the flow and what u feel is right in the moment I feel like
maybe maybe not
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Date: 20-10-2022 20:27
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