Break-up help ☹️ - Forum

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Suchomimus wrote:
PLEASE help me break up with my girlfriend...

It's difficult for me because she's very.. emotionally vulnerable? She's had a lot of emotional/physical/sexual abuse and trauma in her life, she's no contact with her family

We've been together 7-8 months?
A few months in, I tried to break up with her, I said I think maybe I'm aromantic and I think we'd be better as friends and that I was really sorry because I didn't know, this was my first relationship, but she was crying and was all like "Maybe you just show love differently and love isn't always like society portrays it"
And we talked about some issues we were having and resolved them, so we decided to give it another go

Anyway, I still feel that way, even more so now
Her touching me, talking about us as a couple, wanting physical affection from me, wanting to spend SO much time with me, talking about our future, it all makes me so uncomfortable and really drained and sad

She wants so much from me that I cannot give her, I want her to be with someone who truly loves her and can satisfy those romantic needs

I wish we could just be friends because the moments when she's not doing any of those things, I actually really enjoy her company and talking to her, but I don't think I can convey to you guys just how in love with me she is, it makes me feel objectified and dehumanised

And people on the internet seem to be of the opinion that you cannot be friends afterwards, or you at least have to wait until they've found a new partner

Please help me I've never broken up with someone before, I've cried many many times over this... ☹️

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Suchomimus wrote:
I hate VP, ruined my formatting

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bexxi wrote:
i think u have already formulated what u need to tell her quite well already

you still like her, but you realized its jsut not working on a relationship basis and contiuinin is unfair to both of you. i think actually saying thewords is hard either way sad

wish u the best sucho

MissLondon
Queen of Queens

MissLondon wrote:
That sounds exhausting!
Just rip the bandaid off cause it's gonna suck regardless

I'm not sure if I would attempt friendship right away because it might give her hope of a reconciliation

Good luck

Elisia
National Star

elisia wrote:

bexxi wrote:
i think u have already formulated what u need to tell her quite well already

you still like her, but you realized its jsut not working on a relationship basis and contiuinin is unfair to both of you. i think actually saying thewords is hard either way

wish u the best sucho

^^^
I second this

Ive been on both ends and it hurts less to just do it than to prolong it