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Behold a very weird and kind of complicated rant
What do you think about age gaps in (romantic) relationships?
I think I'm a bit unconventional when it comes to this. I find myself attracted to famous male musicians people up top, and sometimes more than, two times my age. When I joke or express this, sometimes people frown upon me. Sometimes I feel self-concious about this, but mostly I don't.
My attraction to famous male musicians people up to two times my age, automatically makes me less likely to judge people who are attracted to people much older than them (or much younger than them, IF they are 40+, 50+ or such). I feel like that would be hypocritical for me to judge if I myself experience these emotions (but I don't act on them in my real life).
The way this works is: I'm hypothetically attracted to people who are much older than me, celebrity wise (and therefore IN THEORY) but to actually carry out that attraction to irl, approachable people, is not that attractive to me. It has to be very, very specific and mostly completely unavailable people. Irl, I do feel that from time to time, but I don't actively seek out that kind of stuff and probably won't in the future. That still doesn't change the fact that I understand young-ish people who are dating people who are by societal standards, older than them and bla blah.
Let's take an example in my neighbour. My neighbour is a man who's 30-something. His girlfriend is much older, like end 40s or something. I understand that. Maybe if I was his age, I could even be tempted to do the same, if better options have not come along yet.
As long as both people in the age gap relationship are consenting adults in a healthy, non-abusive relationship, I have no issue whatsoever with it, and as long as the much older/younger part doesn't abuse their power over the other part, it's totally okay.
I even think society is too judgmental on people who say that they are attracted to primarily older men if you're young. I've received some hate and judgment from people who are my age before. It makes me a bit sad. But I have a lot of friends in the same situation as me so that brings me up again afterwards.
Do you have any preference/restrictions when it comes to age gaps in your own relationships?
In real life, I usually settle for no less than 2 years older than me. I prefer older partners.
Celebrity-crush wise (I know it doesn't count as real relationships, but still to prove a point) the oldest celebrity crushes I have are around 70 at the moment (counting a certain Paul and a certain Ringo as an outlier), while the average age of most of my celebrity crushes range from 40-50 years old, in super rare cases around 60 years old. I basically started being attracted to celebrity dads and at a point it moved on to be celebrity granddads. Oopsy daisy.
What about age gaps in other types of relationships?
Idk hahahahaa
Is there for example a "golden age" to have kids, or a golden rule for age gaps between siblings?
I don't know if there's a golden age, but I would like personally maybe in my mid 20s or late 20s. Whenever I'm stable enough in all factors, emotionally, financially, etc.
As for siblings, it really is impossible to say. My sister is 2½ years younger than me, and we are very different people though we started off as pretty similar. It really depends on the personalities which are brought to light.
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