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Suchomimus wrote:

hotshot wrote:
1 met most in university almost a year ago and theres few still remaining from highschool
2 we party, we meet just to talk and spend time together, we go on (mostly random and spontanious) trips
sometimes we go bowling, play pool etc
3 with some i do and with some i don't
4 its really random, some i see regularly like atleast 2 times in a month and some i see like once in months
5 depends, when it comes to uni friends we usually go out at least in grups of 3/4, but there are also exceptions, friends from hg i see usually 1:1
6 its hard for me to say, but id say the 1:1 or just smaller grups
7 i really dont care what we do, i like just being with them
8 phone calls are really rare, messaging id say are often, with some almost everyday and with some just sometimes (im also not really a person that likes doing either messaging or calling)
9 just our lives, what happened recently or we talk about the same situations all over again or just comment on other people shit
10 i dont know how to answer sorry
11 sometimes by for example hugging or girls sometimes kiss eachother lightly like on cheek or so
12 im happy for them as long as they are
13 with the closest ones we are, there werent many times we werent
14 truly depends on the situation, you know giving a hug or just listening and trying to give advice
15 yeah there are but we usually come off stronger, it happens in every relationship i think
16 by talking and communicating how we feel
17 sometimes

i hope you will find your people

sounds like im gonna have to go to uni

who plans the things u do with ur friends?

thank u!!

i really really reccomend this, i did not have lot of friends growing up and uni changed it
even if you dont have anything specific you'd like to study its still worth to give it a chance just to get to know people and make some connections!!

hmm its usually like someone cames up with the idea to go out/go somewhere particular and the rest just goes along with it and we set up a date that is great for everyone or most

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Suchomimus wrote:

Aske wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

Aske wrote:

how did ur friend group fall apart?
are u happy having just one friend or would u like more?
u say ur both not very emotionally intelligent, but ur able to talk things out, so I'd say u are at least a little bit!

like all school friend groups we swore to stay in touch, and did for a little while, but gradually drifted apart. me and another one were the first to 'leave' i guess, i moved away to study and by the time i moved back they had stopped doing stuff together. the other person just ghosted everyone, we thought she just didnt want to hang out w us anymore but now im pretty sure she just wasnt doing well, and we didnt clock it well enough.
the 4 other did stick together for a while but one of them got a proper adult life very quickly and drifted away, 2 of the other had a major falling apart and are mortal enemies now and the last person is still friends w some of them. i ran into her randomly before the summer, it was nice to catch up.

im content, but sometimes i miss having people i can hang out w physically. i spend a fair amount of time with my siblings, but in periods where ive been away from family i have been a bit lonely. i like seeing people face to face

mmaybe. i wouldnt be able to see miscommunications like that w almost anyone else tho i think, we've just always understood eachother very well

ahh i see!!
it's good ur close w ur siblings, my siblings are my only friends lol

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bexxi wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

bexxi wrote:
we lived literally next to each other in different dorm rooms! so not together but very close. and we had every uni lesson together as well, apart from one english linguistics lesson where we got into different courses. which really added to the being together 24/7 feeling lol

and we in the beginning spend literally every evening together but then we kinda moved a bit apart (which was good) mentally and only did every otherr day or so haha and later when i moved to a different part of the same cityx we met up like once a week and watch a movie or whatever, cook togerhter and stuff. i think it was defenitely better to not be together all the time!!

when i moved to a completely different city i felt super lonely in the bginning ... but rn im content with just gaming together in the afternoon and talking at work with my work friend. i dont think i haver the mental capacity to really meet up in the city.

oh she's the uni friend! i see
is it like an "absence makes the heart grow fonder" thing?
that's fair!
where online did u meet ur friends btw!

i met 3 on gsm back in the day LOL
the uni friend (@yellmi )
her sister (whoi i befriended independantly)
and @snailman

n then i got some friends playing online games (guild wars 2)

and ofcourse i made some friends that i met irl as well on vp <3 hope we can meet moe often .. i gotta make more money to fly to sweden again rip

oh! that's pretty cool hehe
where do u live?

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Suchomimus wrote:

devilcake wrote:
mmm i basically met all my friends on vp except 1

curse me being british........

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Suchomimus wrote:

hotshot wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

hotshot wrote:
1 met most in university almost a year ago and theres few still remaining from highschool
2 we party, we meet just to talk and spend time together, we go on (mostly random and spontanious) trips
sometimes we go bowling, play pool etc
3 with some i do and with some i don't
4 its really random, some i see regularly like atleast 2 times in a month and some i see like once in months
5 depends, when it comes to uni friends we usually go out at least in grups of 3/4, but there are also exceptions, friends from hg i see usually 1:1
6 its hard for me to say, but id say the 1:1 or just smaller grups
7 i really dont care what we do, i like just being with them
8 phone calls are really rare, messaging id say are often, with some almost everyday and with some just sometimes (im also not really a person that likes doing either messaging or calling)
9 just our lives, what happened recently or we talk about the same situations all over again or just comment on other people shit
10 i dont know how to answer sorry
11 sometimes by for example hugging or girls sometimes kiss eachother lightly like on cheek or so
12 im happy for them as long as they are
13 with the closest ones we are, there werent many times we werent
14 truly depends on the situation, you know giving a hug or just listening and trying to give advice
15 yeah there are but we usually come off stronger, it happens in every relationship i think
16 by talking and communicating how we feel
17 sometimes

i hope you will find your people

sounds like im gonna have to go to uni

who plans the things u do with ur friends?

thank u!!

i really really reccomend this, i did not have lot of friends growing up and uni changed it
even if you dont have anything specific you'd like to study its still worth to give it a chance just to get to know people and make some connections!!

hmm its usually like someone cames up with the idea to go out/go somewhere particular and the rest just goes along with it and we set up a date that is great for everyone or most

ahhh that's true, it's just a big commitment innit

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hmm wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

devilcake wrote:
mmm i basically met all my friends on vp except 1

curse me being british........

you could always meet joob (scary)

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Suchomimus wrote:

hmm wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

devilcake wrote:
mmm i basically met all my friends on vp except 1

curse me being british........

you could always meet joob (scary)

joob would not like me irl akshsgdjgsb

hmm
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hmm wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

hmm wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:
curse me being british........

you could always meet joob (scary)

joob would not like me irl akshsgdjgsb

nooo don't say that

i'm sure u are Lovely foreal

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hmm wrote:
i wish i were british so i could hang out with u x

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Solar wrote:
i met most of my current friends through my bf, before i used to meet most new friends from friends! im not too good in 'making' friends hhh just merging
we do a lot of different stuff together, just hanging out talking, going for drinks, going to the park, doing activities, going on summer vacation together, yadayada. how often we see each other face to face depends on the week, sometimes multiple times a week sometimes not at all for two/three weeks
we do like the same things & i think we help each other discover new stuff too
most of the time is spent in groups but i also see some of them 1 on 1 or i have two girl friends who i see often just the three of us!
i like doing mundane things as well but it also makes me anxious if i'm hosting bc i worry that they're not having fun lol
never phone call, texting daily
we talk about evvverything honestly, deep emotional stuff, silly stuff, witchy stuff, serious stuff
i am a physical touch kinda gal so we are physically affectionate especially when under the influence hhh and i have one girl friend i kiss when we feel like being silly when drunk (with permission of partners ofc), also i cuddle my girl friends too - not spooning or something but like holding hands, head on shoulder, etc
i dont like change too much so a new partner being introduced in the group can be a lil tough on me sometimes but most of the time the new partner is nice and a welcome addition !! im not jealous of my friends being in relationships but i do feel love about their relationships if u understand what i mean
yes we are there for each other when things get tough, we try to help out whenever we can, in this friend group ive started taking 'to have support you also have to give support' way more seriously
we comfort each other by talking stuff over, or helping with certain tasks like moving or painting or things like that
sometimes there can be issues, if they're small i just let it go, if they're big, talk em out or just give up the friendship (depends on who it is; with my actual friends id never just give up the friendship but there used to be a girlfriend of my friend in the friend group who i disliked so i never really hung out with her)

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Suchomimus wrote:

hmm wrote:
i wish i were british so i could hang out with u x

us in uk

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Kofod wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:

Kofod wrote:

Suchomimus wrote:
so they are friends too then?
ahh makes sense to prioritise ur other friends!
ur friendship with ur best friend sounds awesome hehe
oh! how is ur relationship with ur bf different now from when u were friends?
i will remember that, i think i am bad at doing that

I'm not really sure if they see each other as friends or not actually?
Right, and I think they understand. Either ways, I do try to see as many of my friends as often as possible ahaha
It is, I'm very very grateful for that friendship. We are very like-minded people so it helps.
We are way closer, we weren't really too close as friends, tbh I was a lil bit scared by him at first. Yet I was the one pursuing him. And then all the other stuff that a relationship often entails, I even hug him and show him physical affection which is wild.

It probably takes some time to get used to ^^

well then
hehe silly

thank u kofod youve been very helpful!

Of course! Let me know if there's anything else

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Suchomimus wrote:

Solar wrote:
i met most of my current friends through my bf, before i used to meet most new friends from friends! im not too good in 'making' friends hhh just merging
we do a lot of different stuff together, just hanging out talking, going for drinks, going to the park, doing activities, going on summer vacation together, yadayada. how often we see each other face to face depends on the week, sometimes multiple times a week sometimes not at all for two/three weeks
we do like the same things & i think we help each other discover new stuff too
most of the time is spent in groups but i also see some of them 1 on 1 or i have two girl friends who i see often just the three of us!
i like doing mundane things as well but it also makes me anxious if i'm hosting bc i worry that they're not having fun lol
never phone call, texting daily
we talk about evvverything honestly, deep emotional stuff, silly stuff, witchy stuff, serious stuff
i am a physical touch kinda gal so we are physically affectionate especially when under the influence hhh and i have one girl friend i kiss when we feel like being silly when drunk (with permission of partners ofc), also i cuddle my girl friends too - not spooning or something but like holding hands, head on shoulder, etc
i dont like change too much so a new partner being introduced in the group can be a lil tough on me sometimes but most of the time the new partner is nice and a welcome addition !! im not jealous of my friends being in relationships but i do feel love about their relationships if u understand what i mean
yes we are there for each other when things get tough, we try to help out whenever we can, in this friend group ive started taking 'to have support you also have to give support' way more seriously
we comfort each other by talking stuff over, or helping with certain tasks like moving or painting or things like that
sometimes there can be issues, if they're small i just let it go, if they're big, talk em out or just give up the friendship (depends on who it is; with my actual friends id never just give up the friendship but there used to be a girlfriend of my friend in the friend group who i disliked so i never really hung out with her)

aksjshxjg that's my problem i have no one to merge from
i think i understand what u mean!