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Hauru wrote:
i fought with my dad again

bcs i keep buying food for myself and he throws it away bcs he thinks its old.. i got mad bcs it happens a lot and he tried to make himself the victim again saying im ungrateful etc and he somehow turned it around that i never clean the fridge (im the only one taking care of the fridge bcs he lets the food rot and i always have to sort it so it doesnt get worse).. argh its so annoying bcs we fight over every little thing and he always makes himself the victim... i mean i had to deal with him all my life but sometimes i just want someone to validate my struggles bcs its genuienly so hard like when we fight i cant form sentences to explain why im mad and then he thinks he is right yk

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Hauru wrote:
and the worst part is that he always tells my business to his friends (this has been happening for all my life) and talks bad about his family in general since well.. he is obviously ALWAYS the victim... im just tired bcs everywhere i go or work its his friends working there too so ppl always know my business its so tiring esp when its coworkers

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devilcake wrote:
I only was able to escape to annoying father by no longer living with him

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Hauru wrote:

devilcake wrote:
I only was able to escape to annoying father by no longer living with him

i unfortunately do not have the financial means to do soo while i do uni and work only pays minimum wage my fam also doesnt support me so no car or house to get away. I alr pay for all my expenses he literally does not have to do anything as a father but still expects me to clean the house etc it got worse after my mother left but i kinda refused to do anything bcs no man not even my dad will tell me what to dooo even if it means that he lets the whole town know im a failure in his eyes

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Hauru wrote:

and uni is still like 2 years + i wanted to do my masters i will be like almost 30 until im gonna live life i really wanna cry thats soo waaack

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Hauru wrote:
idk how many "im gonna be positive abt this" i have in me ngl

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Olympus wrote:
that sounds soooo irritating omg :/

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Azriel wrote:
Idk how to deal with him in general but for this specific situation u could buy like those blank label stickers and put them on ur food with ur name and the date or smth so he knows not to throw it away

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Maxwell wrote:
how do u even deal w this I would just burst out crying on the floor /srs

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Hauru wrote:

Azriel wrote:
Idk how to deal with him in general but for this specific situation u could buy like those blank label stickers and put them on ur food with ur name and the date or smth so he knows not to throw it away

yk what im gonna do that

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Maxwell wrote:
how do u even deal w this I would just burst out crying on the floor /srs

i do lmfaooo

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b3rryvamp wrote:
As someone who has kinda similar well with the ur ungrateful everysingle day Mother who thinks because I am not grinning from ear to ear I am ungrateful she always bring up the children in fucking Africa there are starving children EVERYWHERE there are starving adults or If I don't eat her food in one bite then I HATE and I"M UNGRATEFUL like with her it's if I breathe then I am ungrateful

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MissLondon wrote:
maybe invest in your own mini fridge

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nesta wrote:
Write your name on it and get yourself a box or something. Everything in it is your responsibility.

Also those kind of people sorry you need to get out bc the years it takes for them to maybe change is not worth it. Only thing that works is distance. Helps put things in perspective for both hopefully so he actually begins seeing the impact of his actions when they aren't everyday happenings.